I was talking to a friend today about how I’ve come so far in the past 4-5 years with my recovery, and a few things came up that I wanted to mention – namely, how I’ve proven people wrong.
Now, there are people in your life who are negative, who are rude, who have no faith in you. For me, even at my lowest moments, I had a spark of determination, stubbornness, and willpower that kept me going and made me want to recover. This spark was what gave me the courage and drive to not only recover, but to prove the people wrong in my life who had given up on me.
I have three examples to share.
1. I stayed with a family once for a bit, and the father/husband asked me once why I was on my laptop so much. I told him I was working on scholarships. His response? “Oh, don’t waste your time on those. They’re such a crapshoot, you’re not going to get one.” I ended up getting a $5,000 scholarship – the very one I was applying to as those words came out of his mouth – and went on to receive a $3,000 one. Together, these will cover my first year of community college, which, as many of you may know, I am paying for by myself. “You’re not going to get one” my butt.
2. One of my hospitalizations was at a truly terrible mental institution. The psychiatrist there told my parents at their first meeting, “You have a lifer here. Edye is going to spend the rest of her life in and out of hospitals.” I have been mental hospital-free for over 4 years now, and don’t plan on ever returning.
3. During my worst, my mom spent a great deal of time looking for a therapist for me. One of them turned down my case because she claimed I was “a lost cause.” Well, words can’t describe how wrong she was, because look at me now. Confident, recovered, ambitious, resilient, and so much better for the adversity I went through all those years ago. Lost cause? I’m anything but.
Basically, don’t let the haters get to you. Prove them wrong. If they try to tear you down, thinking you won’t get back up again, get back up ten times stronger and faster than you went down. If they say you can’t do something you love, ignore them. Keep doing what you’re doing because you love it and you believe in it, and when you succeed, you too will have the immense honor and pleasure of proving everyone wrong.
Don’t forget to prove yourself wrong as well. That voice in your head second-guessing you at every turn? The thoughts you can’t quite escape, telling you that you’re not going to make it? Prove them the HELL wrong as well.
In short, prove every source of negativity in your life wrong. More importantly, prove yourself RIGHT. I’m not saying you will always get revenge and prove people wrong in the most literal and direct sense possible, but happiness is always the best revenge. Remember that.
Now go out into the world, and prove them wrong!
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