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Don’t forget to imagine the best case scenario too

One of the many problems with dressing up and looking your best just to attract men is that, once you think you’ve secured a partner, you may start to become complacent with yourself and your appearance. That’s because you treated your looks as a means to an end—getting into a relationship—rather than as an extension of your identity and self-respect.

This is partly why people talk about “boyfriend air” making girls look worse. When you mix stress, mistreatment, and complacency or laziness, the result is a slow deterioration; not just emotionally, but physically too. Your mindset around appearance should always be rooted in self-care and self-value. You take care of your body the way someone takes care of a prized possession: with pride and consistency.

Whether you’re single or in a relationship should be irrelevant. You look your best for you first. And in doing so, you not only maintain your standard, but you also send a message: you’re a woman of value, and anyone lucky enough to be with you should know it, because others can see it too.