tbqh i don’t always cancel if someone’s sick. ppl treat me like a hypochondriac when in actuality i have a better understanding of illness and immune systems than most and i act according to science and i do assume and accept plenty of risks every day.
anyone could be sick and fully asymptomatic. i accept that risk when i visit my friends.
sometimes a friend has a sore throat but they’re pretty sure it’s allergies bc that’s how allergies always feel for them. i ask them about other symptoms and if they have none i usually don’t reschedule. i’m accepting the risk they’re actually sick.
it’s an unfortunate reality for me that your slight cold can become my six week long battle with pneumonia, and i don’t like having to live my life navigating other people’s congestion like they’re holding loaded guns. but that is my reality and i’m not asking anyone to do anything huge or dramatic for me.
i think even if i weren’t immunodeficient it’s still basic courtesy to let someone know you’re sick
what really fucks me up is that at my last job i started lying. i made up an elderly family member at home who’s supposedly immunocompromised and everyone got better at disclosing illness to me so i could ‘keep her safe.’
because people more readily relate to and empathize with caretakers than disabled people
stormborns
izzy806
ellievsbear
annaxmalina
jbbartram-illu
dededos
tangentwithtanner
