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New Blog Post!
Finally made a Wednesday post on a Wednesday, check it out! There are two posts before this one but this one does stand alone, the first part is an update on trip plans. https://medium.com/@VelouriaDay/wednesdays-wednesdays-and-finally-on-a-wednesday-c928c1c07023
Update!
Thank you to everyone who supported me so far, Iâve met my fundraising goal. Keep an eye out for videos Iâll be posting while I am in Boston. Thanks again!Â
Hey! Check out my new series on Medium! https://medium.com/@VelouriaDay/something-new-70dcb814b61c
ALMOST THERE!
Hey everyone, Iâve nearly reached my goal. I have a place to stay and I have my event tickets for the Disability Summit in October. Iâm looking to raise another 280 dollars towards my goal which will allow me to buy my plane tickets! Any donations/ shares help. Thank you so much!! https://www.gofundme.com/cgx-2018-expo&rcid=r01-153574408355-01514da989054803&pc=ot_co_campmgmt_w more info on what the summit is and why Iâm going in the fund description! thanks again!Â
Check it out!
I donât know why I havenât done this until now but I have some writing Iâd like to share with you guys. Heres my blog:Â https://wednesdayswednesday.blogspot.com/ As well as my Medium page:Â https://medium.com/@VelouriaDay
Reblog if you want someone to compare you to a Disney character in your ask!
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i would actually cry please
Hello, my name is Wednesday, I am a disabled artist/activist living in Colorado and this October, the Awesome Foundation is hosting the 2018 Disability and Intersectionality Summit at MIT. "The Disability & Intersectionality Summit (DIS) is a biennial one-day conference that centers the experi...
Sorry to spam all over you again but Iâm nearly there! Please continue to share/support if you can! I appreciate it.Â
Hey, making a small ask
Iâve reached half my goal so far of raising enough money to cover most of the expeneses of going to MA this October for the Disability and Intersectionality Summit but I still need to come up with another five-hundred dollars to cover hotel expenses as well as transportation. The hotel Iâm planning to stay at is within walking-distance of MIT where the summit will be held but they ask anywhere from 200-600 dollars a night and I am still unemployed. Going would me the world to me, its something I feel would help contribute to my understanding and involvement in the community while I wait to start my job with KASA. Please donate if you can, anything helps and if you canât please share I appreciate any and all support you can offer. Thank you! https://www.gofundme.com/cgx-2018-expo Here is more information about the summit if youâd like to learn more. https://sandyhoma.wixsite.com/disummit
Hey, making a small ask
Iâve reached half my goal so far of raising enough money to cover most of the expeneses of going to MA this October for the Disability and Intersectionality Summit but I still need to come up with another five-hundred dollars to cover hotel expenses as well as transportation. The hotel Iâm planning to stay at is within walking-distance of MIT where the summit will be held but they ask anywhere from 200-600 dollars a night and I am still unemployed. Going would me the world to me, its something I feel would help contribute to my understanding and involvement in the community while I wait to start my job with KASA. Please donate if you can, anything helps and if you canât please share I appreciate any and all support you can offer. Thank you! https://www.gofundme.com/cgx-2018-expo Here is more information about the summit if youâd like to learn more. https://sandyhoma.wixsite.com/disummit
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Purple, Aquarius, Blue, Cat, Day ^^Â Â Thank you for asking! Iâm more excited about this than I probably should be!Â
Ask Away Anonymously Or Not. Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â (ââżââż)
All My Asks I Answered On My Blog Deleted, So I Decided To Make An Ask Meme Thingyy.
(1) Do You Sleep With Your Closet Doors Open Or Closed?
(2) Do You Have Freckles?
(3) Can You Whistle?
(4) Last Song You Listened To.
(5)Â What Is Your Favourite Colour?
(6) Relationship Status.
(7) What Is The Temperature Right Now?
(8) Did You Wake Up Cranky?
(9) How Many Followers?
(10)Â Zodiac Sign.
(11)Â What Is Your Eye Colour?
(12)Â Take A Vitamin Daily?
(13)Â Do You Sing In The Shower?
(14)Â What Books Are You Reading?
(15)Â Grab The Book Nearest To You, Turn To Page 64, Give Me Line 14.
(16) Favourite Anime?
(17)Â Last Person You Cried In Front Of?
(18) Do You Collect Anything?
(19) What Did You Have For Lunch?
(20) Do You Dance In The Car?
(21) Favourite Animal?
(22) Do You Watch The Olympics?
(23) What Time Do You Usually Go To Bed?
(24) Are You Wearing Makeup Right Now?
(25) Do You Prefer To Swim In A Pool Or The Ocean?
(26) Favourite Tumblr Blog?
(27) Bottled Water Or Tap Water?
(28) What Makes You Happy?
(29) Post A Gif Of What Youâre Currently Feeling Right Now.
(30)Â Do You Study Better With Or Without Music?
(31) Dogs Or Cats?
(32)Â If You Were A Crayon What Colour Would You Be?
(33) PlayStation Or Xbox.
(34)Â Would You Swim In The Lake Or Ocean?
(35)Â Do You Believe In Magic?
(36) What Colour Shirt Are You Wearing?
(37)Â Can You Curl Your Tongue?
(38)Â Do You Save Money Or Spend It?
(39)Â Is There Anything Pink Within 10 Feet Of You?
(40)Â Do You Have Any Obsessions Right Now?
(41)Â Have You Ever Caught A Butterfly?
(42) Are You Easily Influenced By Other People?
(43)Â Do You Have Strange Dreams?
(44) Do You Like Going On Airplanes?
(45)Â Name One Movie That Made You Cry.
(46)Â Peanuts Or Sunflower Seeds?
(47) If I Handed You A Concert Ticket Right Now, Who Would You Want The Performer To Be?
(48)Â Are You A Picky Eater?
(49)Â Are You A Heavy Sleeper?
(50)Â Do You Fear Thunder / Lightning?
(51) Do You Like To Read / Write?
(52)Â Do You Like Your Music Loud?
(53)Â Would You Rather Carve Pumpkins Or Wrap Presents?
(54) Put Your Music On Shuffle, What Is The First Song That Came Up?
(55) What Season Are You In Right Now? (Weather)
(56) What Are You Craving Right Now?
(57) Post A Screenshot Of Your Tumblr Feed.
(58) What Is Your Gender?
(59) Coffee Or Tea?
(60) Do You Have Any Homework Right Now? If So, What Is It About?
(61) What Is Your Sexuality?
(62) Do You Make Your Bed In The Morning?
(63) Favourite Pokemon?
(64) Favourite Social Media?
(65) Whatâs Your Opinion On Instagram Stories?
(66) Do You Get Homesick?
(67) Are You A Virgin?
(68) What Shampoo And Conditioner Are You Using Right Now?
(69)Â If You Were Far From Home And Needed To Sleep For The Night, Would You Choose To Rent A Crappy Motel Room For $60 Or Sleep In Your Car For Free?
(70)Â Are Both Of Your Blood Parents Still In Your Life?
(71)Â Whats The Next Movie You Want To See In Theaters?
(72) Do You Miss Your Ex?
(73) What Is Your Favourite Quote Right Now?
(74)Â What Eye Colour Do You Find Sexiest?
(75)Â Did You Like Swinging As A Child? Do You Still Get Excited When You See A Swing Set?
(76)Â What Was The Last Thing You Ate?
(77) What Games Do You Have On Your Phone?
(78)Â Would You Give A Homeless Person CPR If They Were Dying? Why Or Why Not?
(79)Â Been On The Computer For 5 Hours Straight?
(80)Â Stalked Someone On A Social Network?
(81)Â Do You Like Meeting New People?
(82) Do You Wear Rings? If You Do, Take A Picture Of Them.
(83) Do You Sleep With Your Bedroom Door Open Or Closed?
(84) What Are Three Things You Did Today?
(85)Â What Do You Wear To Bed?
(86) List All Of Your Different Beauty Products You Have Right Now.
(87) Are You A Day Or Night Person?
(88) List All Of Your Video Games On Your Phone, Console Etc.
(89) Tell Me About A Dream That You Had And When It Happened.
(90) Favourite Soda Drink?
(91) What Sounds Are Your Favourite?
(92) Do You Wear Jeans Or Sweats More?
(93) How Do You Look Right Now?
(94) Name Something That Relaxes You.
(95) What Tattoo Do You Want?
(96) Favourite YouTuber?
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Go ahead!
Oooh please ask because Iâm kinda excited to answer some of these ^^
Does any other asexual find it annoying that when you type in âloveâ for gifs, the only thing that comes up is kissing and sex?
No hearts, no hugs, no teddy bears or butterflies or Valentines, just sex.
Hey yâall, so I walked away from shit last night and spent the rest of the evening, and most of today, engaging in, like, me-centric stuff, and let all the shit I was thinking about let sit and percolate out-of-mind for a bit, and Iâve come to some conclusions.
Like, ultimately what Iâve been wanting to talk about at length, even before all this drama that probably doesnât extend very far from the section of tumblr that spawned me, is how my experiences as a CSA survivor, as someone who grew up in âsubcultureâ or âfandomâ spaces, and who has spent a good portion of her life providing help and guidance to other CSA survivors both in and beyond those spaces, provide me a multifaceted perspective on the dynamics that allow CSA to occur and how the way that the current zeitgeist of⊠really online spaces at large is actually making those spaces more susceptible to predatory behavior.
But like, what we saw yesterday, thatâs been my experience for almost 2 decades. From when I was first trying to articulate the sexual abuse that I had suffered up until now trying to use what Iâve learned from the people Iâve healed alongside, there are always these people who appear out of nowhere, who are deeply invested in tainting any critique of this system with frothing aggression.
The message Iâve been given from when I was 10 to now in my 30s is that, as a survivor, I need to shut the fuck up and just let the system do its job, but what is that system, and what job is it performing? Definitely not helping survivors, and you donât have to look far to find people who unironically believe that CSA survivors are a lost cause and all energy should be focused on rooting out potential predators, but like, as Iâve repeatedly tried to point out, this approach to things actively makes things worse and more dangerous, and like I said yesterday, what I am forced to conclude is that this is a system by which people can reassure themselves of their own inherent goodness, âprotecting childrenâ is just a conveniently noble intention, but whether they actually accomplish it is demonstrably less important than them feeling like theyâve accomplished something.
I wanted to go into depth with how I feel this system needs to change, but yâall, Iâm tired and Iâm frightened because having âAs a CSA survivor, I feel like this trend of equating unrelated behaviors to pedophilia is actually harmfulâ responded to with âtrans girls who watch anime are literally all pedophilesâ has me fucking shook. Like, âyouâre literally killing people by criticizing therapyâ was one thing, âJewish anarchists are antisemiticâ was a doozy, but that encounter yesterday, I need a break yâall because, frankly, that demonstrates to me that the problem may be even worse than I thought and that whatever I can say on the matter currently may be insufficient.
So, thatâs my plan, Iâm taking a break, Iâll post again when my little macbook has finally finished churning out that deepfake video, but beyond that, I need a fucking break because that encounter tore open a wound inside me that I need time to myself to work through.
However, I am gonna leave yâall with a very truncated version of what Iâve wanted to say to yâall about all this:
  1.When you use certain community involvement (ew theyâre into anime, theyâre furries, etc etc) as a signifier for something like being a predator, you make the vulnerable people in that community more vulnerable because you further stigmatize a community that is likely very diverse, and like, if there is a predator problem in that community, itâs usually because there are a lot of vulnerable people to prey on in that community, not because the community is somehow endemic to predatory behavior.
  2. When you deepen this stigmatization, it means people within that community feel unable to look for help beyond the community if theyâre having an issue, something which is often necessary if there is a predator problem because their peers may not be mature or experienced enough to identify predatory behavior and they may not feel comfortable talking to other, more experienced people from within the community because they have no way of knowing whether these people may themselves be predators.
When these two factors are the case, the only option is to seek help or guidance outside of the community, but then the person is faced with the fear of being stigmatized for being a member of the community and furthering the stigmatization of their community as a whole (if I had a nickle for every person thatâs come to me because they tried to seek help outside w/e community they were a part of and the initial response was something like âOh youâre a furry? You were probably asking for it then, youâre all just a bunch of sick weirdos.â I could afford to buy those people a better world to live in.)
  3. The severity of the way these things play out is also a factor in why a lot of people donât come forward, because it feels like there is only the nuclear option, and so you have to feel 150% sure this stuff is legitimate or else youâre ruining someoneâs life over your own bad perception, and so you let it go on for way longer than it should so that you can make absolutely sure itâs happening. What victims and potential victims need is the security in knowing that there are people who they can turn to who will confront the person in question and get to the bottom of it. This doesnât need to be a spectacle, if the person is an active predator and abuser, provide evidence and out them, not necessarily because proof is necessary for an accusation, but it gives people clear-cut and accurate information from the start, instead of the roil that causes the incident to play out like a fucking circus that triggers and opens old wounds for innocent people. And if the person turns out to be legitimately misguided or unaware of how their actions are being perceived, explain what theyâve done, have them perform accountability (which is literally just stating in a public fashion âHey, I did a bad thing w/o realizing it, please forgive me, here is proof that I understand what I did was wrong and am committed to changing itâ and then keep tabs on that person.
  4. Let survivors fucking talk, and then fucking listen. This shouldnât even need to be said, but it does. The pop psych belief that a CSA survivor is going to inevitably turn into a predator is such bullshit, and like, people donât seem to get it through their thick skulls that that belief is literally an indictment of sexually abused children and thatâsâŠfucked up! (It also kinda calls into question how âabout the childrenâ all of this really is, but thatâs more than I wanna dwell on this bullet point.)
 5. Survivors arenât a monolith. Like I said, a lot of intra-survivor discourse is like a game of chicken, itâs brutal, but the main takeaway is, if youâre a non-survivor, donât fucking tokenize statements made by survivors because those statements are not representative of every survivorâs experience, and while there are survivors who will say they are perfectly happy that things are as they are, the sheer volume of people who turn to me for comfort and help when shit like this happens because of how the flagrant and imprecise conduct of the people who perpetuate it causes them fear and psychological harm would speak against the notion that that is a universal experience. In short, if youâre not a CSA survivor, get this savior complex shit out of your head and realize the standard for good and helpful allyship to both victims and potential victims of CSA is a lot more complicated and demanding than the way yâall conduct yourselves.
  6. If these sorts of demands sound too complicated or like too much work, then you arenât fucking cut out for advocating for the prevention of CSA. Stick to dragging out people youâve gotten reliable receipts on if you really need that fix, but if you insist on this being the angle you take, yâall need to DO BETTER.
Lmao and then take their pain meds
Music Challenge
I was tagged by @invincible-selfxmade-punk
1. Your favorite metal band/singer
N/A
2. My favorite mom-metal artists bands.
The Beatles
3. Favorite singer/band from my own country.
Amanda Palmer
4. 3 favorite songs.
TLPD- New Tomorrow Angels of Light- Angels of Light Amanda Palmer- Small Hands Small Heart
5. In your opinion, an overrated band/singer.
I donât get the hype for Elvis PresleyÂ
6. In your opinion, an underrated band/singer.
Qntal
7. Artists that remind you of your childhood.
The Beatles, The Swans, BjorkÂ
8. An artist that you used to love but now hate.
When I was thirteen my two top favorite singers were Taylor Swift and James Blunt, I still appreciate the joy I got out of that music at the time but Iâve realized now that some of those things I was listening to didnât mean what I thought they did. XDÂ
9. Did you enjoy the challenge?
Yeah!Â
10. Tag 3 people @never-ready-but-always-going @moonlit-pinetrees @ivaraddict
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Here is the full version of my first comic for The Nib, which went up yesterday.
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