‘you’ve just met yourself. i’ve known you for years’ is still the most romantic thing i’ve ever heard and they let my favorite little cornfed closetcase say it on live television to another man. incredible.
imagine you had a friend who constantly made jokes at the expense of something you loved. they're never funny, but they seem to expect you to laugh even though the punchline is just, "this thing you love sucks ass". it's not even really a joke, there's nothing funny about it, you can tell that they genuinely actually believe it. but they insist it's just a joke!
no matter what the situation is, they're always bringing the social interaction to a screeching halt with these jokes. nobody ever wants to participate in this joke with them. nobody agrees with the premise. nobody ever knows what to say afterwards, it's just an awkward moment and a subject change. but they just keep doing it.
you have to stop with the self-deprecatory "humor", it's not fun for anyone including you.
I've discovered the gynesexual label recently, and while the definition "Someone who is primarily or exclusively attracted to women and/or femininity regardless of gender," resonates with me, I don't like the label itself.
As a non-binary person, it makes me feel disphoric. I also think it can be misunderstood as attraction to anyone based on their "female anatomy," which is insensitive to and exclusionist of trans and non-binary people. Such confusion may stem from the association with medical terms such as gynecology.
That's why I propose the term "femsexual" to be used as an umbrella term for related microlabels.
I know the term "femsexual" already exists and has its own set of flags, the most common one being the fifty shades of pink one (this is not meant in a bad way btw. I just call it that cause I never remember how many stripes there are lol). From what I've seen, the label can be used both as an umbrella term just like gynesexual, or to mean an exclusive attraction to women and/or femininity.
My version of the flag is not to replace the all-pink flag, but rather offer an alternative one designed specifically as the umbrella term flag, which would be inclusive of a wider range of experiences for those who prefer it. Therefore this flag is for everyone who identifies as femsexual whether primarily or exclusively.
The Flag (further info under "read more")
Meaning
Amaranth pink (#f19cbb) – Unfading love for women, femininity, and fem-presenting people
Light Amaranth Pink (#fdc5da) – Endurance
White (#ffffff) – Absence of gender-specificity. It applies to both the gender of the person identifying as femsexual and to the people they're attracted to since the attraction felt isn't exclusive to a specific gender. Also the freedom that comes with being oneself.
Light June Bud Green (#ddef9d) – Positive feelings such as joy, hope, etc. to bring those feelings to ourselves but to express and share them as well.
June Bud Green (#bdda57) – Pride. Not only in oneself, but also to take pride in one's love for femininity. I think it's important to be proud of it because of how much hate anyone and anything feminine gets because of misogyny and patriarchy.
Design Notes
I chose this color scheme to reference back to themost widely used gynesexual flag, but I removed the brown, simply because I didn't like the shade lol. It's also to further separate it from the flag and the label.
On top of that, I wanted to design a new flag because I could find meanings of the colors used for the gynesexual flag, which made it harder for me to feel attached to and represented by it.
I kept the pink and green (though I changed the shades) because the colors look pleasing together and because I wanted a flag that wouldn't be solely pink because not everyone who identifies as femsexual is feminine themself, so I wanted to include a gender-neutral color (all colors are gender-neutral imo, but yk, not everyone vibes with pink).
For the pinks, I went with amaranth pink because it's derived from the amaranth plant, whose meanings match those I wanted the stripes to represent.
The reason is similar for the greens. I chose june bud green because june is associated with pride as it is internationally known as the pride month, but also because this shade of green seemed to represent and evoke the positive feelings well.
Juneteenth marks a pivotal moment in the long and complex history of emancipation in the United States.
This JSTOR Daily reading list explores how freedom was commemorated across different communities, the origins of Juneteenth celebrations, and the ways Black Americans used Emancipation Day gatherings to advocate for citizenship, voting rights, and civic participation.
See the reading list.
Image: Juneteenth Emancipation Day Celebration, June 19, 1900, Texas, Mrs. Charles Stephenson. Via Wikimedia Commons.
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