The Cozy Crown of Princess Dolly

The Cozy Crown of Princess Dolly is a warm, safe space celebrating the beauty, strength, and feminine charm of women of color where every story shines with love, joy, and authenticity. 👑✨

[do11ydear]

Welcome to The Cozy Crown of Princess Dolly: A Safe Space for Women of Color to Shine

Hello, beautiful queens! I’m so excited to welcome you to The Cozy Crown of Princess Dolly, a space created just for us women of color AKA “POC” to celebrate our unique beauty, strength, and softness. Here, we embrace every shade of femininity with love and warmth.

I’m Dolly Dear, an aroace woman who celebrates the feminine, cute, and authentic sides of women of color. So often, people misunderstand or try to box us into one style, but here, we honor the freedom to express ourselves in all the beautiful ways we choose.

What can you expect?

Stories that inspire and uplift

Self-love tips to nurture your soul

Style inspiration that celebrates cultural pride

Cozy community vibes where you belong

In all the Nerdy stuff

This is an invitation to join the conversation and share your own story. Remember, this is a safe, judgment-free zone where every crown shines bright. All I ask is don’t be mean to each other, but lift each other.

So WHAT DO Dolly Dear LIKE? I love is deeply rooted in creativity, nostalgia, and whimsy. I adore Studio Ghibli, Junko Mizuno, Tokidoki, Care Bears, Sanrio, and NANA, along with Paradise Kiss and all things kawaii-from crystals and artworks to CDs, comics, manga books, and cartoons. My heart belongs to anime, plants, and charming characters like Rilakkuma, Monchhichi, and Chiikawa. I'm drawn to artsy aesthetics like Frutiger Aero, Gudetama, and Toroinoue, and I collect Tamagotchi, Disney, Cutecore, Kawaiicore, and Otaku treasures. My love for Monster High School, TrinketCore, and lo-fi music blends seamlessly with my obsession for Harajuku fashion, Hatsune Miku, plushies, and Lalaloopsy. I'm also a fan of Lisa Frank, Ren Faire, Pingu, Pokémon, and DC & Marvel, along with gaming, Star Wars, Legos, miniatures, and Star Trek. Gundam, furry culture, Domo, Paul Frank, figurine toys, Smiski, Pusheen, Gloomy Bear, Squishable, Calico Critters, Smoko, and Baby Three all hold a special place in my heart.

I adore Furry, cosplay, photo card holders, acrylic stands, enamel pins, manga volumes, art books, and stationery-especially washi tape and Itabag supplies like Loungefly.

My aesthetic is a vibrant mix of Neo-Soul, jazz, and indie songs, paired with a love for maid culture, bugs, sweets, baths, bows, frills, and the color pink. I thrive in my computer setup, curled up in my bed with a milk tea, surrounded by dolls, hearts, stickers, and glitter. My fashion senses lean into j-fashion, earthy tones, and styles like Mori Kei, Cutecore, Dopamine Dressing, Boho chic, Fairycore, Furry, Frogcore, Frutiger Aero, Goblincore, Cottagecore, Harajuku, Kawaii, Nightcore, Otaku, Queer Coded, Soft Person, Unicorn, Whimsy Twee, Whimsy Goth, Heisei Retro, Bambicore, Mermaidcore.

My favorite media reflects this love for magic, nostalgia, and storytelling. I'm captivated by Studio Ghibli films like Howl's Moving Castle, Princess Mononoke, and Ponyo, as well as classics like Alice in Wonderland (both the 1951 animated version and the original Lewis Carroll tale), The Secret of NIMH, Matilda, and The Wind in the Willows. I'm drawn to darker, poetic, and surreal stories like Coraline, The Virgin Suicides, Sharp Objects, and The Melancholy Death of Oyster Boy by Tim Burton. My heart also belongs to Japanese media, including Mushi-Shi, Natsume's Book of Friends, The Ancient Magus' Bride, and Wolf Children, as well as live-action adaptations like NANA and The Secret Garden (both the 1993 and 2020 versions).

I cherish whimsical and nostalgic shows like Little Bear, Pom Poko, The Moomins, Angelina Ballerina, and Fraggle Rock, along with darker fantasy films like Pan's Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, and Legend.

My love for Southern Gothic and magical realism shines in films like The Color Purple, Eve's Bayou, Practical Magic, and The Love Witch, while Japanese storytelling like Sweet Tooth, Anne with an 'E', and The World of Peter Rabbit and Friends adds a touch of warmth and innocence to my collection.

Whether it's the ethereal beauty of Mary and the Witch's Flower, the dark allure of Crimson Peak, or the nostalgic charm of Winnie the Pooh, my favorite media is a reflection of my soul a blend of whimsy, nostalgia, and magic.

Welcome to your cozy crown let’s shine together. 👑✨

[do11ydear]

We Belong to the Earth Let’s Live With It, Not Against It

Hey, Love💛✨

For too long, we’ve treated nature like something to exploit, conquer, or fix as if we stand above it rather than within it. But the truth is undeniable: We are not separate from the Earth. We are of it.

Every breath. Every sip of water. Every meal. It all comes from the Earth’s generosity. And yet, we’ve built systems that take without reciprocity, that dominate instead of collaborate, and that prioritize profit over survival.

This Pride Month and every month we must recognize that queer liberation, racial justice, and environmental justice are not isolated struggles. The same systems that poison the planet also oppress marginalized communities. The same industries that pollute our air and water are the ones that exploit the most vulnerable. True equity cannot exist without ecological balance.

Living With the Earth Means:

✔ Rejecting the lie of human supremacy we are stewards, not conquerors.

✔ Choosing sustainability over convenience, even when it’s the harder path.

✔ Lifting Indigenous voices because they’ve been the original protectors of this land for generations.

✔ Demanding systemic change small individual actions are not enough without policy shifts.

✔ Reclaiming joy in reconnection whether it’s gardening, hiking, stargazing, or simply sitting beneath a tree.

The Earth isn’t ours to destroy. It’s our home to cherish. And if we want a future where all beings human and otherwise can thrive, we must rewrite the story of our relationship with nature.

It’s time to choose: Will we continue to exploit, or will we learn to live in harmony?

[do11ydear]

Dolly Princess Tips: Ancient Remedies for Modern Living

Hello, love💛

A lot of the “trendy” wellness and beauty products we buy today are just repackaged ancient remedies solutions our ancestors used when they didn’t have corporate brands to rely on. It’s time to stop feeding the machine and start reconnecting with the original, natural, and intentional ways of caring for ourselves.

Here’s how to reclaim your routine with wisdom that’s stood the test of time:

1. Hair Oiling: Nourish Your Crown (Literally and Spiritually)

Hair oiling isn’t just a beauty hack it’s a global tradition with deep roots in Ayurveda, African haircare, and Southeast Asian wellness. Beyond giving you long, strong, and healthy hair, it’s also a powerful tool for balancing your chakras, especially the crown chakra, which connects you to intuition and higher consciousness.

Try it: Warm coconut, sesame, or amla oil, massage it into your scalp, and let it work its magic overnight.

2. Juice Cleansing: Nature’s Medicine for Body and Mind

Those expensive “detox” juices? Jamu: Indonesian herbal remedies has been doing the same thing for centuries. Packed with turmeric, ginger, tamarind, and other healing plants, these blends aren’t just trendy; they’re time-tested tools for balancing your body and mind.

Remember: Health isn’t inaccessible. It’s in your kitchen, your garden, and the earth beneath your feet.

3. Free Bleeding: Reconnecting With Your Cycle

Before pads and tampons, women bled freely and many still do, seeing it as a natural, earth-connected practice. Free bleeding isn’t about rejecting products entirely; it’s about reclaiming your body’s rhythm and reducing waste.

Tip: If you’re curious, start by trying it at home. Track your cycle, and see how it shifts your relationship with your body.

4. Braiding With Intention: More Than Just a Style

Braiding isn’t just about aesthetics it’s a sacred act of community, communication, and care. Across African, Indigenous, and Southeast Asian cultures, braiding has been a way to nurture bonds, share stories, and honor identity.

Try it: Next time you braid your hair, take a moment to set an intention whether it’s for strength, protection, or simply joy.

5. Jewelry as Talisman: Wear Your Power

Jewelry isn’t just decoration. In ancient lineages, adornment carried meaning, purpose, and power. Inanna’s rings symbolized divine authority. Hathor’s gold touched the body as an invitation to pleasure and presence.

Ask yourself: What does your daily jewelry say about you? What intention do you want it to carry?

6. Bamboo Brushes: Detangle Your Hair and Your Life

Switching to a bamboo brush changed my hair game and it can change yours too. The soft, flexible bristles make detangling a breeze, especially before washing. And for those with wavy or straight hair, it’s a game-changer for smoothness and shine.

Pro tip: Brush your hair 100 strokes (yes, really!) to distribute natural oils and stimulate your scalp. My grandmother, mother, and I have sworn by this for generations.

7. Mulberry Silk Bonnets: Protect Your Crown While You Sleep

A silk bonnet isn’t just for keeping your edges laid it’s a shield against breakage, frizz, and moisture loss. Apply a light serum before bed, slip on your bonnet, and wake up to glossy, healthy hair.

Warning: Never wear it on wet hair silk thrives on dryness!

Final Thought: The Power of Going Back

These aren’t just “tips” they’re living traditions passed down through generations. They remind us that true wellness isn’t about what’s new or expensive; it’s about what’s real, rooted, and intentional.

What’s one ancient remedy you’d like to bring back into your life? Share in the comments!

[do11ydear]

Hello, my lovely!

This week, I’m taking a little break from our usual episodes to give us all a moment to breathe, reflect, and refocus. But don’t worry our community tips aren’t going anywhere! I’ll still be sharing wisdom to keep us glowing, inside and out.

At the same time, there’s so much happening in the world that I feel called to talk about. Especially when it comes to the brands we trust or thought we could.

The Problem With Broken Promises

You’ve probably heard about brands like Charlotte Tilbury backtracking on their promises. They’re dropping their cruelty-free and vegan certifications not because they’ve found a better way, but because it’s not “aesthetically pleasing” enough for them. Wait, what?

This isn’t just disappointing. It’s a betrayal. These companies made commitments to us, the consumers, and then turned their backs when it didn’t align with their image. And they’re not alone. So many brands greenwash, pinkwash, or ethically wash their reputations to sell products, only to break their word when it’s inconvenient.

A Reminder: Big Corporations Can’t Be Ethical

I’ll always say it big corporations are built on profit, not principles. Their first loyalty isn’t to you, to animals, or to the planet. It’s to their bottom line. But here’s the thing: We have the power to change that.

What Should You Do?

When you’re picking products for your skin, hair, or body, ask yourself these questions:

Are their promises backed by action? Don’t just take their word for it dig deeper. Look for certifications from third-party organizations (like Leaping Bunny, PETA, or vegan labels).

Do they have a history of transparency? If a brand suddenly changes its stance without a clear, honest explanation, that’s a red flag.

What’s their track record? Have they consistently supported ethical practices, or do they flip-flop when it’s convenient?

Are you voting with your wallet? Every dollar you spend is a vote for the kind of world you want to live in. Support brands that align with your values.

Final Thought: Demand Better

We deserve honesty, integrity, and respect from the brands we invite into our lives. If a company can’t keep its word, why should we keep giving them our money?

What’s one brand you’ve stopped supporting because of unethical practices? Share in the comments let’s keep each other accountable!

don’t forget to support your indie brands

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[bekkathyst]

Some of my favorite items from my Enchanted Forest Crystal Sale!

Here’s the entire list of items available 💜

[do11ydear]

People don’t get how beautiful crystals are and I feel like every person should be collecting crystals because they’re so gorgeous and they’re such a beautiful statement peace in your bedroom and also if you’re very spiritual, it’s really good for you as well.

Don’t forget to support this small business as well because I did use their picture.

[do11ydear]

Episode 4 part Four🌿 Luteal Phase (Days 18–28)

Ground + Nourish

“Your energy is dropping, your blood sugar is unstable, and your body needs warmth, magnesium, and comfort. Think: root veggies, healthy fats, and grounding foods to stabilize and nourish.”

🍠 What to Eat (and Why) Food Why It’s Essential: Pescatarian, Vegan, & Omnivore

Root Vegetables

Complex carbs to stabilize blood sugar, fiber for digestion, and vitamins for energy.

Roasted sweet potatoes (with tahini)

Mashed parsnips (with olive oil)

Roasted carrots and beets (with garlic)

Brown Rice

Fiber to support digestion and magnesium to reduce stress.

Brown rice bowl (with salmon and greens)

Brown rice stir-fry (with tofu and veggies)

Brown rice and chicken (with coconut milk)

Oats

Fiber to stabilize blood sugar and magnesium to fight cramps.

Overnight oats (with almond milk and berries)

Oatmeal (with chia seeds and banana)

Savory oatmeal (with egg and avocado)

Turkey

Protein to support metabolism and tryptophan to boost serotonin (for mood).

N/A (something seafood related)

Lentil loaf (with walnuts and herbs)

Ground turkey (in chili or stir-fry)

Chickpeas

Fiber to support digestion, protein for energy, and zinc for hormone balance.

Chickpea salad (with lemon and olive oil)

Hummus and veggie sticks

Roasted chickpeas (with sea salt)

Magnesium-Rich Foods

Magnesium to reduce cramps, stress, and PMS symptoms.

Dark chocolate (70%+) (with almonds)

Pumpkin seeds (in trail mix)

Dark chocolate (85%+) (with sea salt)

Bananas

Potassium to fight water retention and blood sugar balance. Tryptophan for mood.

Banana “nice cream” (blended with cocoa)

Same as pescatarian/omnivore

Banana and peanut butter toast

Warming Teas

Chamomile to calm the nervous system, cinnamon to stabilize blood sugar.

Chamomile tea (with honey)

Same as pescatarian/omnivore

Cinnamon tea (with apple slices)

Sweet Potatoes

Complex carbs to stabilize blood sugar and beta-carotene for skin health.

Baked sweet potato (with coconut yogurt)

Sweet potato and black bean tacos

Sweet potato mash (with butter and cinnamon)

Pumpkin Seeds

Magnesium to reduce cramps and fight stress. Zinc for hormone balance.

Pumpkin seed pesto (with basil)

Pumpkin seed butter (on toast)

Pumpkin seed trail mix

Coconut Milk

Healthy fats to support hormone production and soothe digestion.

Coconut milk chia pudding

Coconut milk oatmeal (with banana)

Coconut milk smoothie (with berries)

💡 Extra Tips for Every Diet

For Everyone:

Eat small, frequent meals keeps blood sugar stable.

Add cinnamon to oatmeal, tea, or smoothies: helps balance blood sugar.

Avoid caffeine after 2 PM: your adrenals are tired.

For Pescatarians:

Eat fatty fish 2–3x this week (salmon, sardines): omega-3s for hormone balance.

Try oysters (if available): zinc and iron.

For Vegans:

Add pumpkin seeds and flaxseeds to meals: magnesium and omega-3s.

Use blackstrap molasses (1 tbsp in tea or oatmeal): iron and magnesium.

Eat leafy greens with vitamin C (like citrus or bell peppers): boosts iron absorption.

For Omnivores:

Prioritize pasture-raised turkey and chicken: higher in protein.

Try liver 1x this week (if you’re brave!): iron and B vitamins.

🌿 Sisterhood Tip:

Make a big pot of soup or stew at the start of the luteal phase freeze portions for easy nourishment all week!

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Baby, your body is asking for gentleness. Eat warm, comforting, and nourishing foods. No guilt. Just love.

[do11ydear]

Episode 4 part 3: 💫 Ovulatory Phase (Days 13–17)

Glow + Radiance

Your energy is peaking, your skin is glowing, and your body needs antioxidants and liver support. Think: colorful, hydrating, and nutrient-dense foods to fuel your shine.

Hey, Love💛 sorry I was late today. Today was a stressful one, but I’m promise you I will push through and I’m sorry I miss yesterday because something serious happened in my life, but I’m back as programmed.

🍓 What to Eat (and Why)

Food Why It’s Essential: Pescatarian, Vegan, & Omnivore

Berries

Antioxidants to fight oxidative stress and support skin glow. Vitamin C for collagen production.

Pescatarian: Mixed berries (with coconut yogurt)

Vegan: Acai bowls (with granola and flaxseeds)

Omnivore: Berry crumble (with almond flour topping)

Avocado

Healthy fats to support hormone production and potassium for electrolyte balance.

Pescatarian: Avocado toast (with smoked salmon)

Vegan: Avocado chocolate mousse (with cacao)

Omnivore: Avocado and egg bowl

Arugula

Bitter greens to support liver detox and balance hormones.

Arugula salad (with lemon and olive oil)

Arugula pesto (with basil and walnuts)

Arugula and shaved Parmesan salad

Asparagus

Folate to support fertility and prevent birth defects. Fiber for digestion.

Grilled asparagus (with lemon)

Roasted asparagus (with tahini)

Asparagus and prosciutto rolls

Quinoa

Complete protein to support muscle repair and fiber for gut health.

Quinoa bowl (with salmon and veggies)

Quinoa salad (with chickpeas and lemon)

Quinoa-stuffed bell peppers

Salmon

Omega-3s to fight inflammation and support brain health. High in protein.

Grilled salmon (with quinoa)

N/A (something like fish and you can add some vegetables with olive oil)

Salmon with roasted veggies

Fresh Herbs

Antioxidants and flavor to support detox and hormone balance.

Dill and parsley (with fish dishes)

Cilantro and basil (in salads and soups)

Chives and thyme (in egg dishes)

Melon

Hydrating and rich in electrolytes to support skin glow.

Watermelon or cantaloupe (with mint)

Same as pescatarian/omnivore

Same as pescatarian/omnivore

Pineapple

Bromelain to reduce inflammation and support digestion. Boosts fertility.

Fresh pineapple chunks (with lime)

Pineapple and chia seed pudding

Grilled pineapple (with yogurt)

Eggs

Choline for brain health, protein for energy, and vitamin D for hormone production.

N/A (I recommend something else then something egg like)

Tofu scramble (with turmeric)

Soft-boiled eggs (with avocado)

Chia Seeds

Fiber to support digestion, omega-3s to reduce inflammation, and protein for energy.

Pescatarian: Chia pudding (with coconut milk)

Vegan: Chia pudding (with almond milk)

Omnivore: Chia fresca (with lemon and honey)

💡 Extra Tips for Every Diet

For Everyone:

Eat raw foods at peak ripeness (like berries or avocado) your digestion is strong this phase.

Add bitter greens (like dandelion or arugula) to support liver detox.

Hydrate with coconut water: electrolytes for glowing skin.

For Pescatarians:

Eat fatty fish 3–4x this week (salmon, sardines) omega-3s are critical for hormone balance.

Try oysters (if available):they’re packed with zinc and iron.

For Vegans:

Add chia seeds and flaxseeds to smoothies and oatmeal: omega-3s for hormone production.

Use blackstrap molasses (1 tbsp in tea or oatmeal): iron and magnesium.

Eat leafy greens with vitamin C (like citrus or bell peppers): boosts iron absorption.

For Omnivores:

Prioritize wild-caught fish and pasture-raised eggs: higher in nutrients.

Try liver 1x this week (if you’re brave!): nature’s multivitamin for iron and B vitamins.

🌿 Sisterhood Tip:

Host a berry and chocolate fondue night with your squad antioxidants and joy in one!

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Baby, you’re radiant right now feed that glow. Eat colorful, hydrating, and nutrient-dense foods. Your body is asking for love.

[do11ydear]

Episode 4 part 2: 🌑 Menstrual Phase (Days 1–5)

Rest + Replenish

“Your body is shedding—and it needs warmth, minerals, and gentle nourishment to recover. Think: cozy, nutrient-dense, and easy to digest.”

🍲 What to Eat (and Why)

Food Why It’s Essential: Pescatarian, Vegan, and Omnivore

1. Warm Soups & Stews

Hydrating, easy to digest, and packed with minerals. Warm foods support circulation and reduce cramps.

Pescatarian: Fish broth soup (with salmon, ginger, turmeric)

Vegan: Miso soup (with tofu, seaweed, mushrooms)

Omnivore: Beef bone broth stew (with carrots, celery, garlic)

2. Bone Broth

Rich in iron, collagen, and minerals replenishes what’s lost during menstruation.

Pescatarian: Fish bone broth (sardine or salmon)

Vegan: Mushroom “bone broth” (simmered with shiitake, astragalus, and seaweed)

Omnivore: Beef or chicken bone broth (homemade, with apple cider vinegar)

3. Red Meat or Lentils

Iron-rich to prevent anemia and reduce fatigue. Lentils are a great plant-based option.

Pescatarian: Sardines or mussels (high in iron)

Vegan: Lentils, black beans, or tempeh (soaked/sprouted for better digestion)

Omnivore: Grass-fed beef or lamb (lean cuts like sirloin)

4. Leafy Greens

Magnesium and iron to fight cramps and support blood flow.

Pescatarian: Spinach or Swiss chard (sautéed in olive oil)

Vegan: Kale, collard greens, or dandelion greens (lightly steamed)

Omnivore: Spinach or beet greens (in salads or soups)

5. Beets

Detoxifies liver, supports blood flow, and boosts iron levels.

Pescatarian: Roasted beets (with goat cheese)

Vegan: Beetroot hummus (blended with tahini and lemon)

Omnivore: Beet salad (with walnuts and balsamic)

6. Dark Chocolate (70%+)

Magnesium to reduce cramps and cravings. Antioxidants for skin glow.

Pescatarian: Dark chocolate (70%+) (with almonds)

Vegan: Cacao nibs or raw chocolate (in smoothies)

Omnivore: Dark chocolate (85%+) (with sea salt)

7. Ginger Tea

Anti-inflammatory and reduces bloating. Warming and soothing.

Pescatarian: Fresh ginger tea (with lemon)

Vegan: Fresh ginger tea (with turmeric)

Omnivore: Fresh ginger tea (with honey)

8. Raspberry Leaf Tea

Tones the uterus, reduces cramping, and supports iron absorption.

Pescatarian: Raspberry leaf tea (with nettle)

Vegan: Raspberry leaf tea (with alfalfa)

Omnivore: Raspberry leaf tea (with chamomile)

9. Sardines

Omega-3s to fight inflammation and support brain health. High in iron.

Pescatarian: Sardines in olive oil (on toast)

Vegan: N/A (something high iron)

Omnivore: Sardines or mackerel (with lemon)

10. Meats

Iron and zinc to replenish minerals and support immunity.

Pescatarian: Catfish is a really good option 

Vegan: vegan meat or a high iron mushroom

Omnivore: Lean grass-fed beef (in stews or burgers)

💡 Extra Tips for Every Diet

For Everyone:

Add warming spices like cinnamon, cardamom, or cloves to soups and teas (TCM) says they boost circulation.

Avoid raw foods (like cold salads or smoothies) your digestion is slow right now.

Hydrate with warm liquids: herbal teas, warm lemon water, or broth.

For Pescatarians:

Eat fatty fish (salmon, sardines, mackerel) 2–3x this week: omega-3s are critical for hormone balance.

Try oysters (if available): they’re packed with zinc and iron.

For Vegans:

Soak/sprout lentils, chickpeas, and beans: reduces bloating and boosts nutrient absorption.

Use blackstrap molasses (1 tbsp in oatmeal or tea): one of the best plant-based iron sources.

Add pumpkin seeds to smoothies or salads: high in magnesium and zinc.

For Omnivores:

Prioritize grass-fed/pasture-raised meats: higher in iron and omega-3s than conventional.

Organ meats (like liver) 1x this week: nature’s multivitamin for iron and B vitamins.

🌿 Sisterhood Tip:

Meal prep a big pot of soup or stew at the start of your period freeze portions for easy nourishment all week!

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Baby, your body is working hard feed it like it’s your job. No skipping meals. No guilt. Just love.

[do11ydear]

Episode 4: Food as Medicine

Eat for Your Cycle: A Complete Guide to Nourishing Every Phase

Hey love! 💛

What if I told you that food isn’t just fuel it’s medicine? That what you eat during each phase of your cycle can heal cramps, boost energy, balance hormones, and even prevent PMS?

Tonight, we’re diving into the ultimate food guide for every phase tailored for pescatarians, vegans, and everyone in between. Because no matter your diet, your cycle deserves to be nourished not ignored.

Let’s get into it. 👇 Tomorrow

[do11ydear]

The world be living

It is basically in my deep talks about what’s going on with the world and how I agree with disagree with it. It’s just all not organized but a deep talk that need to be yelled out or get my understanding how I feel.

Recently this week a court: The case you’re referring to involves the 2023 shooting death of 14-year-old Cyrus Carmack-Belton in Columbia, South Carolina. Rick Chow, a 61-year-old Asian store owner, was charged with murder after shooting the teen in the back following an altercation outside his convenience store. On June 1, 2026, a jury found Chow not guilty, a verdict that sparked strong reactions from the victim’s family and the public.

The age difference between Chow and Cyrus was significant: Chow was 58 at the time of the verdict, while Cyrus was 14 when he died.

Basically, in this situation, the store owner thought the child stole four water bottles, but the child put it back on the camera, even after the shooting yes, the child did had a weapon, but it had never been used against a person who ended his life and the before water bottles were still in the store.

THE BOYCOTT

As for the boycott of Asian businesses, recent discussions and social media posts reflect ongoing tensions. Some social media users and content creators are calling for boycotts of Asian-owned businesses, framing it as a response to perceived broader issues. These calls have sparked reactions across communities, with some arguing that such boycotts are ineffective or misdirected, while others see them as a form of economic protest. The issue is not just about Asian or Black communities in isolation; it reflects deeper, systemic tensions that go beyond individual groups.

I hear you. I thought that verdict would make me really sad that we as people will always fail children first in the system because why a man go facts someone baby that was someone child would give me more that a whole bunch of people are still harassing his mother saying her son deserve to die and I never felt so sad that I have a really long time that how many children will die to order us to stand up for something that is right. This situation is layered, and your frustration is valid. The pain of seeing a child’s life dismissed let alone the broader history of solidarity and betrayal between communities of color cuts deep. It’s not just about one incident or one verdict; it’s about how history’s wounds resurface in moments like these, and how easily people can weaponize identity, economics, and social media to turn against each other instead of addressing the root causes of injustice.

You’re right: Asian and Black communities have shared histories of struggle, especially in the South, where segregation and economic exclusion forced solidarity in some ways but also bred resentment in others. The fact that some creators and commenters could so callously dismiss a child’s life speaks to a lack of empathy, a lack of historical awareness, or perhaps a deliberate attempt to divide. And when that happens, it’s not just about the boycott it’s about what the boycott represents: a failure to recognize shared humanity, a failure to see that tearing each other down only strengthens the systems that oppress us all.

Your call to invest in Black communities isn’t just economic it’s an act of defiance. It’s saying, “We don’t have to repeat the cycles of the past.” And that’s powerful. History should be a tool for unity, not division. But until more people educate themselves, unlearn biases, and choose solidarity over convenience, these cycles will keep repeating.

The biggest thing is, I’m glad that a lot of Black people are waking up at we keep investing our money somewhere else that our own communities is to depend. The problem is when we ask people don’t invest in your community. That’s the issue. We should’ve been investing in our community, but we always have to be the righteous going back to fighting for other people fight because that was the way we were taught that’s our culture when you see other people that don’t have the same culture as you I’m not saying ignore them avoid them, but I’m saying you can’t stand for someone who can’t stand for you. We should’ve knew it was going to be a bigger situation because it always going to be a divide.

[do11ydear]

Cycle Syncing Isn’t Optional: It’s Essential

Hey, Love💛🫶🏽

You wouldn’t water a plant with gasoline so why treat your body like it should run on hustle and caffeine?

Cycle syncing isn’t just about hormones it’s about respecting your body’s natural rhythm. It’s about working with your biology, not against it. And it’s about giving yourself permission to rest, create, shine, and organize exactly when you need to.

So this month? Try it. Honor your cycle. And watch how your energy, your health, and your joy transform.

Next week: Episode 4 “Food as Medicine” where we dive into what to eat in each phase to supercharge your wellness. Stay tuned, loves. 💛

[do11ydear]

Episode 3 (Part 5): Luteal Phase (Days 18–28)

Completion. Organization. Slowing Down.

This is your time to wrap up, organize, and prepare for the next cycle. Your energy is dropping, your body is asking for gentleness, and your mind is ready to reflect. So honor it don’t fight it.

Hey, Love 💛

🌿 Why This Phase is for Wrapping Up and Slowing Down

Your progesterone is rising calming you but also slowing your metabolism. This is the time to:

Finish projects

Organize your space

Set boundaries

Nourish yourself with warmth and comfort

Prepare for rest

💡 Your Luteal Phase Power Guide

1. Have More Self-Compassion You Might Be More Sensitive and Critical

Your body is preparing for either a new cycle or potential pregnancy it’s sensitive right now. So are you.

Try:

Talk to yourself like you would talk to your best friend.

Write yourself a love letter remind yourself of your strengths.

Avoid toxic people or draining conversations.

Take 10 mins to just breathe no productivity required.

2. Wrap Up Projects, Organize Tasks, Do Admin Work

Your brain is geared for details use it!

Try:

Finish pending tasks (emails, reports, cleaning).

Organize your workspace or home (files, drawers, closets).

Plan meals for the next week.

Schedule appointments (doctor, therapy, massage).

3. Protect Your Boundaries and Schedule Me Time

Your energy is low guard it like it’s your job.

Try:

Say no to extra commitments your plate is full enough.

Block off 1 hour a day for just you (reading, bathing, napping).

Turn off notifications after 7 PM create digital silence.

Ask for help you don’t have to do it all.

4. Complex Carbs and Regular Meals to Support Blood Sugar Balance

Your progesterone is slowing your metabolism keep your blood sugar steady!

Try:

Oatmeal with almond butter and banana (breakfast).

Sweet potato hash with eggs and avocado (lunch).

Quinoa bowl with roasted veggies and chickpeas (dinner).

Snacks: hummus with carrot sticks, apple with peanut butter, dark chocolate (85%+).

5. Gradually Turn Down the Intensity of Your Workouts

Your energy is dropping listen to your body.

Try:

Switch to moderate cardio (walking, cycling, swimming).

Yoga or Pilates (focus on flexibility and breathwork).

Light strength training (2–3 sets, lighter weights).

Stretching or foam rolling (release tension in your hips and lower back).

6. Dry Brushing to Support Lymph Flow and Natural Detoxification

Your body is detoxing help it!

How to:

Use a natural bristle brush (like EcoTools or Bambaw).

Start at your feet brush upward in gentle circles.

Move to your legs, arms, back always toward your heart.

Avoid broken skin or sensitive areas.

Benefits:

Stimulates lymph flow (*reduces bloating and detoxifies).

Exfoliates dead skin cells (*glows up your skin).

Boosts circulation (*reduces cellulite).

Energizes your body (like a natural caffeine boost).

🌿 Sisterhood Tip: Text your Friend group: ‘I’m in my organizing phase who wants to meal prep or clean out their closet together?’ Support. Hold space. Don’t go it alone.

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Baby, this phase is not a punishment it’s a gift. Your body is preparing for rest and renewal. Don’t fight it. Trust it.

[do11ydear]

Episode 3 (Part 4): Ovulatory Phase (Days 13–17)

Communication. Visibility. Connection.

This is your time to shine, connect, and make your presence known. Your energy is peaking, your confidence is soaring, and your charisma is irresistible. So step into your power the world needs to see you.

Hey, Love💛

How do you hype yourself up in this one is talking about how you put yourself up there embrace what’s going on around you.



💫 Why This Phase is for Sharing Your Gifts

Your estrogen is at its highest your communication skills, your charm, and your magnetism are off the charts. This is the perfect time to:

Pitch your ideas

Host workshops

Collaborate with others

Show up in your full glory

💡 Your Ovulatory Phase Power Guide

1. Dress Up and Enjoy a Date Night with Friends or Partner

Your aura is glowing amplify it with outfits that make you feel powerful.

Try:

A bold lipstick (red, berry, or even berry-stained lips for a natural look).

A statement necklace or earrings (draws attention to your face where your confidence lives).

A fitted dress or blouse (show off your shape you’re radiant right now).

Heels or elevated shoes (makes you stand taller and feel more confident).

2. Film Content Like a Blog or Visual Journal Show Up with Your Magnetic Energy

Your energy is contagious share it!

Try:

Start a recording yourself and your experience

Write a blog post or newsletter about your passions.

3. Pitch Your Ideas, Host a Workshop, Collaborate and Connect with Others

Your communication skills are sharp use them!

Try:

Pitch a project at work (your persuasive skills are peaking).

Host a workshop or webinar (share your knowledge with others). You can do it with your friends. It helps with knowing everyone’s status in life. 

Collaborate with a colleague or friend on a new idea.

Join a mastermind group or accountability pod (keep yourself and others on track). You should do it with a friend or a family member or your own partner. It do help when you all learn something new together. 

4. Your Energy Peaks Lift Heavier, Go All Out in Your Workouts

Your strength and endurance are at their highest push yourself!

Try:

Heavy lifting (squats, deadlifts, bench press).

High-intensity interval training (HIIT, sprints, burpees).

Competitive sports (tennis, basketball, volleyball).

Partner workouts (train with a friend accountability + fun).

For me, I love belly dancing and also I love badminton you know I used to did archery so that always helped me stay focused. I think that’s why all my life. I have good vision.



5. Focus on Fresh Fruits & Veggies, Antioxidants, and Lean Protein

Your body is detoxing and replenishing feed it the best!

Try:

A smoothie bowl with berries, spinach, chia seeds, and almond butter.

Grilled salmon with quinoa and roasted veggies.

A big salad with kale, avocado, chickpeas, and lemon-tahini dressing.

Sushi or poke bowls (raw fish is rich in omega-3s and protein).

6. Lean Into Your Confidence Glow

You’re unstoppable right now own it!

Try:

Stand in the mirror and compliment yourself (out loud!).

Do a power pose for 2 mins (hands on hips, chest open boosts testosterone).

Write down 3 things you love about yourself.

Speak up in meetings or conversations your voice matters.

🌿 Sisterhood Tip:

Text your friend group: ‘I’m in my shining phase who’s ready to collaborate and make magic happen?’ Create. Connect. Celebrate together.”

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Baby, the world needs your light. Don’t hide it. Step into it. You’re magic let them see it.

[do11ydear]

Episode 3 (Part 3): Follicular Phase (Days 6–12)

Planning. Creativity. Learning.

This is your time to dream, plan, and play. Your energy is rising, your brain is sharp, and your body is ready to take on the world. So let’s use it wisely.

Hey, Love 💛

Are you going to talk about the inner part of the cycle. So try not to get uncomfortable with these types of conversations.



🌱 Why This Phase is for New Beginnings

Your estrogen is booming your confidence, your clarity, and your creativity are at their peak. This is the perfect time to:

Brainstorm big ideas

Start new projects

Learn new skills

Move your body with intention

Connect with your tribe

💡 Your Follicular Phase Power Guide

1. Support Your Gut with Probiotic-Rich Foods

Your digestion is on fire feed it with:

Yogurt (unsweetened, full-fat add berries and honey).

Kimchi (fermented spicy cabbage—great with rice or eggs).

Sauerkraut (raw, unpasteurized—top on salads or sandwiches).

Kefir (drink it plain or add to smoothies).

Miso soup (fermented soybean paste—warm and gut-friendly).

2. Brainstorm New Ideas and Dive Into Projects

Your brain is sharp use it!

Try:

Morning pages (write 3 pages of stream-of-consciousness first thing).

Vision board (cut out images of your dreams and goals).

Bullet journal (organize tasks and ideas in one place).

Voice memos (record ideas while you’re walking or showering).

3. Let the Creative Juices Flow No Task Feels Too Challenging

Your brain is wired for learning lean into it!

Try:

Take a new class (cooking, painting, coding, dancing).

Read a book outside your genre (if you love fiction, try nonfiction; if you hate poetry, give it a shot).

Start a side hustle (sell handmade goods, offer a service, monetize a hobby).

Learn a new language (Duolingo, language exchange apps, YouTube tutorials).

4. Increase the Intensity of Your Workouts Have Fun with It

Your energy is high—use it!

Try:

Strength training (*lift heavier, try new moves your muscles recover fast right now).

Dance classes (salsa, hip-hop, Afrobeats get loose baby).

Hiking or trail running (your endurance is peaking).

Boxing or martial arts (release stress while building strength)

5. Try a New Hobby, Learn Something New, Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Your brain is hungry for novelty feed it!

Ideas:

Pottery or ceramics (get your hands dirty).

Gardening ( plant herbs or flowers watch them grow). In late time episodes I will talk about this. This is important skills to know. 

Photography (use your phone and explore your surroundings).

Volunteer (give back while meeting new people). You as a person should know your people in their community to order to help with people in the community so everyone can help each other. 

6. Plan of course people say Matcha/Coffee Walks with Friends Talk Through Your Ideas but always Vet tea buy if you wants a cheaper just do it.

Your social energy is high use it!

Try:

Invite a friend for a walk and brainstorm together.

Join a mastermind group (like-minded people supporting each other’s goals).

Host a creative session ( paint, write, collaborate with others).

Attend a networking event (even if it’s virtual put yourself out there).

🌿 Sisterhood Tip:

Text your squad: ‘I’m in my creative phase—who wants to brainstorm over matcha?’ Collaborate. Inspire. Grow together.

📝 Motherly Reminder:

Sweetheart, your ideas matter. Your dreams matter. This is your time to make them happen. Don’t wait. Start now.

[do11ydear]

Happy Pride Month! 🌈✨

June is here and with it, the vibrant, powerful, and necessary celebration of Pride. A time to honor the queer community, reflect on the progress we’ve made, and recognize the work that’s still ahead. It’s a month of joy, resistance, and unapologetic authenticity and we’re here for all of it.

Whether you’re Black Queer, Neurodivergent, Non-binary, Aromantic, Anonymous, or any shade of beautifully different, this month (and every month) is yours. Your love, your identity, your existence matters.

Let’s celebrate freedom, visibility, and the magic of being exactly who we are. Because Pride isn’t just about parades it’s about survival, resilience, and the right to take up space.

How are you celebrating this month? Whether it’s dancing at a parade, reflecting on your journey, or simply embracing your truth, we see you. We love you. We’re proud of you.

[do11ydear]

Welcome to My World: A Love Letter to the Weird, the Wild, and the Wonderfully Different

Hey there, beautiful soul💛

A little bit I’m gonna show myself once a month to be a little bit connected with my Community.

I’m you or at least, I’m a version of you. Or maybe I’m the friend you’ve been searching for. Either way, I’m here to say: You belong.

I’m a Black Queer Woman navigating this world as non-binary, aromantic, and anonymous—labels that might sound like contradictions to some, but to me, they’re just parts of a mosaic that makes up who I am. I’m also neurodivergent, which means my brain works in ways that are often misunderstood, but I like it that way. It’s the reason I see the world through a lens no one else has.

I don’t fit into boxes. I don’t want to. And that’s why I love the people I love:

The spiritually awakened, who dance between the seen and unseen worlds.

The black sheep and the villains, who refuse to play by the rules.

The odd ducks, who quack to the beat of their own drum.

The rejects, the eccentrics, the loners the ones who’ve been told they’re too much or not enough.

The nerds, the observant, the matured the ones who see beauty in the details others miss.

The forgotten, the misunderstood, the unapologetically themselves.

I like us. I like you.

Why This Space Exists

This blog is for the weirdos, the dreamers, and the rebels the ones who’ve ever felt like they didn’t quite fit in. It’s for the people who’ve been called too sensitive, too intense, too different. It’s for the Black Queer, the Neurodivergent, the Non-binary, the Aromantic, and everyone in between.

Because here’s the truth:

The world needs more people who refuse to shrink themselves.

We need the visionaries who see magic in the mundane.

We need the outsiders who challenge the status quo.

We need the sensitive souls who feel everything deeply.

We need the misfits who carve their own paths.

And most of all, we need each other.

What to Expect Here

This isn’t your average blog. This is a safe space for:

✨ Raw conversations about identity, queerness, neurodivergence, and spirituality.

✨ Celebrating the weird because weird is the new cool.

✨ Sisterhood a community where we lift each other up, no questions asked.

✨ Unfiltered honesty no sugarcoating, no performative perfection.

✨ Resources and reflections for those who’ve ever felt lost in a world that wasn’t built for them.

A Note on Sisterhood

To my fellow Black Queer, Neurodivergent, Non-binary, Aromantic, and Anonymous siblings:

You are seen. You are valid. You are enough exactly as you are.

This space is yours. Lean in. Stay awhile. Let’s grow together.

[sweetlyparfait]

obsessed with this princess set from truth or dare !! ଘ꒰ ๑ ˃̶ ᴗ ᵒ̴̶̷๑꒱و ̑̑

[do11ydear]

It sucks that their size is so difficult. I wish to come out with 3x-4x sizes.😭😢🥲