I love control. Every single sexual fantasy I have involves me taking control away from someone. I love it in so many different forms but for me there is one way that seems the most intense, most charged, most powerful. And that is ageplay. I would love to explain why.
Note: I will be using kiddo here but the implication that kiddo is at an age where they are universally agreed that they are capable of consent (in my opinion, at least 18 years old)
I think that making someone act like a child is the most controlling thing you can do. Other forms of bdsm denies the sub of things, autonomy, sexual freedom, rights, etc... but in ageplay I think the focus is on permission. When you have a kiddo, they are your responsibility. It is not about what has been taken away from them but more about what they are allowed to have. Because after all you are the responsible adult who knows best.
It hits harder because you are regressing them to position of power they have already been in. Everyone has been a child, everyone has had to rely on someone that was responsible for them. And they eventually grew and put themselves in a situation where they are independent and self sustaining. When I take that away from someone I am saying "I am taking away all of the lessons, the work, the time, the effort it took to get you where you are. I like you better when you are reliant on me"
It is only sexual when I decide it is. If I ever had the wonderful opportunity to daddy you, you would learn that it is not just constant teasing or foreplay. A diaper takes time to get wet, you need to be fed, you will find yourself in a situation where you are doing exactly what I want, and that thing may be playing a child appropriate board game at the table together. I find sex to be a collaboration, but one that I lead. You will find yourself in a spot where no matter how horny you are, or how sexy you try to make yourself look, I have full control over when and where the foreplay starts and stops. And that is intoxicating
