Mây bé

"...gặp nhau một cách tình cờ như một buổi sang mùa hè, đầy những điều không sao tránh khỏi…”

[nomadinthemyst]

CODEPENDENCY vs AUTHENTIC INTIMACY

Codependency: I need you to feel OK or else I'm not ok.

- Authentic Intimacy: I allow you to experience whatever you are experiencing, without needing to change or fix it. You are your own person.

Codependency: I need you to support me and I will guilt you in subtle and not so subtle ways if you don't.

- Authentic Intimacy: I ask for support when I need it from others, not just my partner, and I don't lash out if it's not available in the way I need it.

Codependency: I will blame and shame you for not doing what I want you to do.

- Authentic Intimacy: I accept you as you are while having clear standards around how I will be treated and spoken to.

Codependency: You should know what I need. It's not the same if I have to explain it to you.

- Authentic Intimacy: I communicate openly, and I will never blame you for my lack of courage to share what I want and need.

Codependency: True love is about being loyal no matter what.

- Authentic Intimacy: I have standards and boundaries about how I will be spoken to and treated, and I will clearly express those to you with love.

Codependency: You have a lot of issues, and I'm going to help you. That's where I get my value and worth and sense of being needed.

- Authentic Intimacy: I'm already valuable and worthy. I'm not here to be my partner's therapist, fixer or caretaker.

Codependency: I need you, and you need me.

- Authentic Intimacy: I choose to be with you every day, and you choose to be with me.

Codependency: I can't be without you.

- Authentic Intimacy: I love my alone time. And I love being with you’.

✍️ Serdar Hararovich

Artist: Katerina Orissa

[nomadinthemyst]

I see you in every wildflower.

[l-e-y-d-i-deactivated20230218]

🐘

[cristalplanetheart]

[hellanne]

Scotland by Joanna Kitchener

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[etherea1ity]

howl's moving castle in real life <3 . . .

[anodetoforever]

[zero-fucks-given]

[myloveaffairwithcoffee]

[thepersonalquotes]

[dongphuong]

my childhood dream exactly ..

___ pic & designed by 21studĩo

[dongphuong]

“… Mà, nói chữ quê hương thì hơi khó hình dung, nhưng xét cho cùng người ta nhớ tới quê là nhớ má (tất nhiên), rồi gì nữa? Một căn nhà lá gió thổi mát rượi. Và một mảnh vườn đầy cây trái, ổi xá lỵ, ô môi, xoài thanh ca, khế ngọt… Trưa xách cây chét ra vườn hái trái dừa, chặt ống trúc nhỏ ngồi hút thứ nước ngọt thanh thao mát lành đó…”

- Nguyễn Ngọc Tư.

Pic & House designed by a21studĩo

[dongphuong]

The rabbit listened | Cori Doerrfeld

Intro:

When something sad happens to Taylor, all the animals think they know how to help.

One by one they come, but nothing they say makes Taylor feel better.

Until the rabbit arrives . . . and the rabbit knows just what to do.

With its spare, poignant text and irresistibly sweet illustrations, The Rabbit Listened is about healing heartaches big and small, and taking the time to listen.

--

One day, Taylor decided to build something.

Something new.

Something special.

Something amazing.

Taylor was so proud.

But then, out of nowhere . . .

things came crashing down.

The chicken was the first to notice.

“Cluck, cluck ! What a shame !

I'm so sorry, sorry, sorry this happened !”

“ Let's talk, talk, talk about it! Cluck, cluck!”

But Taylor didn’t feel like talking.

So the chicken left.

Next came the bear.

“Grarr! Rarr! How horrible! I bet you feel so angry!

Let's shout about it! Garr! RARRRR!GARRRR!”

But Taylor didn't feel like shouting.

So the bear left.

The elephant knew just what to do.

“Trumpa-da! I can fix this!

We just need to remember exactly the way things were.”

But Taylor didn't feel like remembering.

So the elephant also left.

One by one, they came.

The hyena: “ Hee-hee!

Let's laugh about it!”

The ostrich:”Gulp"

Let's hide and pretend

nothing happened!”

The kangaroo:” Tsk tsk.

What a mess! Let's throw

it all away!”

And the snake:” Shhhhh. 

Let'ssss go knock down 

someone else'ssss.”

But Taylor didn't feel like doing

anything with anybody.

So eventually, they all left . . .

until Taylor was alone.

In the quiet, Taylor didn't 

even notice the rabbit.

But it moved closer,

and closer.

Until Taylor could feel

its warm body.

Together they sat in silence

until Taylor said,

“Please stay with me.”

The rabbit listened.

The rabbit listened as 

Taylor talked.

The rabbit listened as

Taylor shouted.

The rabbit listened as

Taylor remember . . .

and laughed.

The rabbit listened to Taylor's

plans to hide . . .

to throw everything away . . .

to ruin things for someone else.

Though it all, the rabbit never left.

And when the time was right, the rabbit listened

to Taylor's plan to build again.

“I can't wait, “ Taylor said.

“It's going to be amazing.”

#book #blue_white #picture_book

[dongphuong]

My heart |  Corinna Luyken

Intro:

My heart is a window.

My heart is a slide.

My heart can be closed...

or open up wide.

From moments of great joy and exuberance to necessary times of quiet contemplation, your heart is your guide.

With lyrical text and breathtaking art by award-winning author-illustrator Corinna Luyken, My Heart empowers all readers to listen to the voice within in this ode to love and self-acceptance.

--

My heart is a window,

my heart is a slide.

My heart can be closed

or open up wide.

Some days it's a puddle.

Some days it’s a stain.

Some days it is cloudy

and heavy with rain.

Some days it is tiny,

but tiny can grow . . .

and grow . . .

and grow.

There are days it's a fence between me and the world,

days it's a whisper that can barely be heard.

There are days it is broken,

but broken can mend,

and a heart that is closed

can still open again.

My heart is a shadow,

a light, and a guide.

Closed or open . . .

I get to decide.

#book #yellow_grey #picture_book

[dongphuong]

The Gift of Nothing | Patrick McDonnell

It's a special day, and Mooch wants to give his best friend, Earl, a gift. But what do you get someone who has everything ?

Join Mooch as he searches high and low for.., the gift of nothing!

--

It was a special day

and Mooch

wanted to give his best friend, Earl, a gift.

But what to get him ?

He had a bowl.

He had a bed.

He had a chewy toy.

(squeek)

He had it ALL.

(SQUEEK)

Mooch thought and thought.

What do you get someone who has everything ?

(??????)

NOTHING!

He would give Earl the gift of nothing.

But in this world filled with so many something,

where could he find nothing?

Mooch often heard Frank say there was “nothing on TV".

But as far as Mooch could tell,

there was always something on TV.

( BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH)

Mooch often heard Doozy and her friends say there was “nothing to do”.

But as fare as Mooch could tell,

everybody was always doing something.

Millie came home from the store and said,

“There was nothing to buy!”

So Mooch went shopping.

(SALE        BUY   )

Mooch looked up and down every aisle.

He found many, many, many somethings.

The latest this, the newest that...

but as far as he could tell, nothing was not for sale.

So Mooch went home

and sat on his pillow

and just stayed still ( as cat often do).

And not looking for it, he found

(PURRRR..)

nothing.

So he went and got a box

and put nothing in it.

Then Mooch thought, Hmmm...

maybe Earl deserves more than this.

So he got a bigger box.

“Now that's plenty of nothing!”

“For me?” said Earl.

“Mooch, you didn't have to give me anything.”

Who told him? thought Mooch.

Earl opened Mooch's gift.

(?)

There's nothing here,” said Earl.

“Yesh!” said Mooch.”Nothing...

“but me and you"

(hug..)

So Mooch and Earl just stayed still

and enjoyed nothing

and everything.

#book #picturebook #picture_book 

[angelclark]

[generic-art]

5-Year-Old With Autism Paints Stunning Masterpieces 

Autism is a poorly-understood neurological disorder that can impair an individual’s ability to engage in various social interactions. But little 5-year-old Iris Grace in the UK is an excellent example of the unexpected gifts that autism can also grant – her exceptional focus and attention to detail have helped her create incredibly beautiful paintings that many of her fans (and buyers) have likened to Monet’s works.

Little Iris is slowly learning to speak, whereas most children have already begun to speak at least a few words by age 2. Along with speech therapy, her parents gradually introduced her to painting, which is when they discovered her amazing talent.

“We have been encouraging Iris to paint to help with speech therapy, joint attention and turn taking,” her mother, Arabella Carter-Johnson, explains on her website. “Then we realised that she is actually really talented and has an incredible concentration span of around 2 hours each time she paints. Her autism has created a style of painting which I have never seen in a child of her age, she has an understanding of colours and how they interact with each other.”

Much better version of the same subject matter I posted earlier.