People need to know when to stop "giving advice" because half the time you're just blaming people for the situation they are in/ have been in. You need to allow people to complain without making them feel guilty.
I just saw a post of a person talking about their disabled relative dying before they could get a wheelchair, and the horrible treatment they got, how devastating it was. Assholes are in the comments and reblogs giving unwanted "advice". Its obvious they don't know shit and are just looking down on op. You lack context, you lack knowledge and yet the first instict is to judge?
And yes, if you do this you are assholes. You dont need to add if you dont have something good to add. This isnt a debate, its someones life. A simple "do you want advice?" is where you can go is you legitimately struggle with knowing when to give advice.
I've had similar comments so many times. "Maybe if you said no, he would've stopped" "he didn't know any better" "maybe he didn't realise what he was doing"
"You should try to exercise" "Maybe try a little harder" "do you really need to go to the doctor for that" "do you really need those pain meds?"
Why is your fist respond to blame the victim? Wtf? And don't you dare even try to say this isn't victim blaming because it is.
And this is so violent. You know you ain't the first person who said it and won't be the last, and that makes you even more of an asshole. Be responsible for your actions. At this point you know the impact of your words, there is no more "good intention" when you aren't making efforts to stop hurting people.
