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i keep thinking about Is God Is and one thing i really love (and am heartbroken by) is the two stark and very real depictions of spousal response to domestic violence

angie, for all her faults, is a victim and i think we can all acknowledge that. but she's a victim that lived in comfort and extravagance (stark contrast to how the Twins were raised), she stayed until her boys were old enough to take care of themselves (seemingly unaffected by or unknowing of their fathers violence and abuse towards their mother). she saved money, made plans in advance, and timed everything to a T. and she would've probably gotten away if the Twins had not intervened

but she knew more than she admitted, not the full picture because obviously he left things out, but she knew ruby was also a victim. she just assumed that ruby was the "bad" kind of victim that stayed to be abused rather than leave. that she did everything right while ruby did everything wrong

what ruby did was everything she could. we have to assume she had no money to pack up and relocate, especially with two small children, because she was still in "his" house when he came back. she got a restraining order, tried to keep him away. but we all know the stories of men violating restraining orders to go back and kill their wives. they just don't work, plus factor in being a young black woman so how fast do you think the cops would come if she called? she admitted that she tried to just be complacent (probably with the idea that he would leave) and it still got her hurt

and the sad thing is that angie and the twins could've worked together to take him down, to stop his violence. because angie had to know that he would just do that to another woman (but considering her views, she probably would've blamed the woman). he ruined ruby's life, he ruined divine's life, he ruined her life to an extent, all he did was carve a path of violence, blood, and abandonment through the south. the only way it would stop would be for him to die. instead she was intimidated by being forced to acknowledge the parts of the story he lied about (that he said they died rather than admit that he didn't want the girls) and scared of them ruining her way out because she didn't want to end up like how she perceived their mom to have ended up.

i think that's another reason why the movie makes certain people so uncomfortable, they've never had to address the different narratives and reasons for why victims leave or stay or are killed. its easier to just blame the woman for doing everything "wrong" in a situation they've never had to navigate

#is god is #is god is spoilers #god yeah

danishprince

speaking of is god is, i love showing excerpts from the play to intro playwriting students because without fail it inspires at least one of them to try some adventures in typography

#so very good #is god is #is god is spoilers

uglygirlstatus

me when the shape in the middle of the road that I’ve already started pre mourning as roadkill turns out to be a shoe

beta--persei

sdqubeley

"smiling friends" is over? well, i dont think so, cause i'm always Smiling when i'm with my Friends

bunjywunjy

What's your opinion on vaccinating all of the mosquitoes?

if we can figure it out I'm all for it

bunjywunjy

but we have to give each individual mosquito a near-microscopic "I GOT VACCINATED" sticker. and a lollipop

importantandunavoidable

i saw someone lamenting that so many tumblr users block eachother before they ever even interact just because the blockee seems annoying. i went to their blog and i looked at their pinned post and then, dear reader, i blocked them