Staff fucked up my old blog of ten years, so I remade.
I'm Ariadne (and others), and I'm trans (she/it), I'm a lesbian, and I'm in my 30's. Too many interests to list out plus my memory is kinda shit so I don't remember half at any given time.
I have a FFXIV sideblog at @kharia-adarkim
There's also an NSFW sideblog, if you're over 18 and have your age in your pinned//bio you can DM me for it.
header is Hinterland Harbor by Daniel Ljunggren
icon is by @slagethor
i am also on bluesky and the webesite formerly known as twitter as moxperidot
system info/tags below cut
#system shit - tag for anything related to us being plural
this is the meanest thing anyone’s ever said to me in my entire life but I can’t even argue with this. what could I possibly say to defend myself in this instance. this was a one hit KO. this was a murder. this was a fucking slaughter and I have only myself to blame
not sure what's more depressing to consider: my employer being equitable in pay but just generally tight-fisted abt salaries all around, or the idea that if i wasn't out as trans i could be making potentially up to 67% more money.
Okay listen I don't actually care if you call yourself a butch or femme. I don't actually view them as harmful most of the time. That being said if you uphold it as an essential pillar of lesbianism or you ask every lesbian you meet which one they are then I'm side-eyeing you H A R D as both a trans woman who has previously been essentially peer pressured by TME lesbians into being "butch" despite it being incredibly dysphoria-inducing, and someone who lives outside the impcore and has to see these USamericans gatekeeping and defining lesbianism with these terms
Also telling that if you criticize these labels as something that can be heteronormative when treated as the holy grail of lesbianism, TMA butches/femmes will usually understand but TME butches/femmes will try to rip your fucking throat out
If i worked in childcare and my 6 hours were up i would start putting babies in ziploc bags and shipping them to Turkmenistan listed as endangered fruits and vegetables
incredibly bizarre and confusing seeing ppl call themselves "chuds" all the sudden b/c like
thats what we call neo nazis and shitty conservative bros? or at least its what we used to call them? why are ppl calling themselves "chuds" affectionately now
what is happening
yall know chud means fascist right like please tell me yall know that
im hoping this is a case of "younger folks on the internet adopting Silly Word b/c its Silly and not realizing it actually means something"
so here's me educating! you're calling yourselves fascists! thats what you're doing! maybe don't do that and use your head before you start using every goofy word you see!
The US senate is such a gaggle of old fucks that the old fuck everyone was sure dropped dead last week wasn't even the old fuck that dropped dead last week
Consider: it is the healthiest and most normal thing in the world to go to your close friends and loved ones with problems in your friendships and relationships. Not to gossip, not to talk shit, but I go "Hey, me and (x, not related to my current partners) are on the rocks right now, can I talk it out with you?" and then you get input, advice, you get to process your feelings through conversation, then you're probably more equipped to go back to the person and go "hey I've been thinking and processing, I feel xyz."
Two major thoughts here:
Don't let anyone convince you that this type of conversation should only exist in therapy. Your friends and loved ones are there for you. Its called a support system for a reason. Getting advice and comfort is entirely different from talking shit.
If someone gets upset with you for talking about your interpersonal problems with your friends, its worth examining that dynamic. Why are they so worried other people will find out how they're treating you? This isn't like 100% always a bad thing, but like. Consider if there's other parts of the relationship that feel controlled. Consider how listened to and respected you feel, how safe you feel, how independent and free to act you feel.