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i cant even read the news any more and function as a person without being paralyzed by dread. it really feels like the world is going to end in the next decade and im supposed to just have a career and pay taxes

jessiemueller-deactivated202005

“If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.”

— Ruthie Lindsey (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

extork

I have been quoting this tiktok for the past two weeks.

soupsluts

This bitch had like 5 accents

allofmystudentsrunaway

oh gods it was parents evening again tonight..

other parents: how did you do that?

Me:do what?

Other parents: your teenager is eating a salad..

Me:i never forced him eat, now he will pretty much eat anything…except chicken casserole which we both agree is gross

Other parents:we don’t get it.

Me: our only rules are bed at eleven on a school night and don’t hack any important government agencies.

Other parents: you don’t restrict screen time?

Me: you know 95% of kids will self regulate, given the chance?

Other parents: thats not true

Me: have you tried it?

other parents:…but, now he’s reading 1984

Me: he has had a university reading level since he was 12, what am i going to do censor his reading material?

other Parents: what if he reads something you don’t approve of..

Me: i fail to see your reasoning…

Me: you know he cooks too..it’s our mother/son time, we talk about his friends…

other Parents: he talks??

greenbergsays

That “he talks??” bit gets me

Yeah, kids talk. If your kid doesn’t talk to you, it’s because of one of two reasons:

You’ve created such a hostile/unwelcoming home environment that they don’t feel comfortable enough to talk

You have signaled to them somehow, some way, that you don’t care about what they have to say. That what they have to say isn’t important.

Kids are not stupid, not at any age level. They pick up on shit and they remember and then when they grow to be teenagers, they know who they can talk to about stuff and who they can’t.

My 13 year old nephew is not particularly affectionate with his mother and he rarely talks to her about anything important, but there are times I can’t get that kid to stop hanging off me and he has those serious conversations with me, like when we discussed his friends coming out to him as bisexual.

It’s not even that hard to make a kid feel loved and welcome. I don’t even know what my nephew is talking about half the time with his games, but they’re important to him, so I let him talk and I make appropriate noises of shock and sympathy when they are needed.

He watches a lot of YT channels, so we’ve discussed the importance of regulating your media, because I don’t want motherfuckers like PewDiePie shaping his world view.

He reads anything from Stephen King to manga and he does that because I’ve been reading him books since he was a baby. I do it with all of my nieces and nephews; when they get school-aged and old enough to read on their own, our “us” time is going to the bookstore and letting them pick out a drink and a book.

Because reading is important to me and I want it to be important to them, too. Now, it’s not something I suggest, it’s something that my nephew asks for.

“I finished my book, Aunt [Dessie], when can we go to the bookstore again?”

And when I tell him a date, I make sure to keep it.

Saying, “You can talk to me about anything” and “you can rely on me” is all well and good, but words are just words. You have to mean it and you have to show them that you mean it.

Otherwise, when it gets to those important moments in their life, they’re gonna shut you out rather than let you in.

findingfeather

Seriously though, you guys. Like.

Here is a secret:

Children and adolescents are actually fucking desperate for adult attention and approval. They really are. Even the ones that have in fact kinda got fucked up so far and have learned that The Only Kind Of Attention They’ll Get Is Bad and so act like shitheads, or the ones that have learned to be inhibited (and it might not even be you who inhibited them, it mighta been their peers or some teacher somewhere, which sucks!) and learned that by showing need they’ll just end up humiliated, or whatever?

Yeah them too.

Kids want to make you happy.

They’re often TERRIBLE AT IT. They’re kids. Their brains don’t work right, their bodies are weird, they have terrible impulse control, horrible deferred satisfaction, they’re shitty at projecting future consequences, and especially if they HAVEN’T been taught they’re probably bad at showing you positive emotions!

They’re BAD AT IT. And they often don’t want anyone to know it. And they’re embarrassed about it.

But they desperately want to. So much.

So one of the most crucial things is:

a) make sure they know how to make you happy. Don’t assume they can figure it out! They probably can’t!

b) make sure that’s something that is literally possible for them to do.

c) make sure, when they do it, that you SHOW THEM YOU’RE HAPPY WITH IT.

It is absolutely ASTONISHING HOW FAST this can create a self-sustaining cycle with the SMALLEST of starts.

wilwheaton

Do not look away.

cutebearfrank-deactivated201907

Ok dude its not they going to kill them like the Nazis calm down geez

learningtoacceptchange

If we do nothing now, we’re going to find out in a hundred years that they did. And then it will be a hundred years too fucking late.

Shut the fuck up and don’t look away.

smitethestate

A few months ago people were like “relax the immigrant detention centers aren’t going to become concentration camps.” People doing nothing and making excuses for their inaction and trying to convince others to do the same is exactly how death camps happen.

hickeywiththegoodhair

also people have actually died in there, due to ICE’s abuse and neglect. and those numbers are just gonna keep rising because bootlickers like tumblr user cutebearfrank say stupid shit like “it’s not so bad jeez” and look the other way so like DOUBLY SHUT THE FUCK UP

lord-armitage

The Nazis didn’t start building the gas chambers in 1933, they started using them eight years after gaining power. When the Nazis got into power, Hitler never said that he was going to commit genocide or try to murder all the Jews in Europe. The Nazis never said that they were going to build gas chambers. What they said was that the Jews were the cause of Germany’s decline, the lose of it’s empire, the failing economy, etc and they were going to stop that. They left it to to interpretation to how they would meet that end. Just like building a wall or banning Muslims, all the Nazis gave were the same vague statements that were easy to grasp and helped root the idea in people’s minds.

By the way, the photo of Himmler up there was taken in 1942, nine years after the Nazis assumed power. The one of Pence is taken three years after Trump did.

my-dankest-stolen-memes

brandyandpipetobacco

This is legitimately one of the funniest things I’ve seen in weeks.

the-quierdest-deactivated202506

No no you're missing the best part

marxistbarbie-deactivated202109

do you ever sit and think about your female ancestors and like how many of them endured forced marriages, sexual abuse, physical violence and complete deprivation of education and autonomy and suffered silently for literally centuries. going through pregnancies and child birth without modern medicine, having multiple children and watching most of them die before the age of five because that was just the way of life back then? and ultimately you are a product of their pain? i think about them a lot and then i think about how many women continue to share their reality in this current year

rodrickheffeley

This is the only valid tik tok.

naenaenoodle

lesbiansnoopy

It smells and sounds like spring

lesbiansnoopy

Not to romanticize on main but there is really something healing about sitting in front of an open window listening to birds and wind chimes and enjoying a natural breeze. It’s like the world is telling you breath

toastbutteregg

tastefullyoffensive

(photos via @snickers)

conspicuouslad

Honestly that’s a brilliant marketing strategy

giraffepoliceforce

Can you imagine being an intern and your boss comes up to you one day and says “hey wander around the city and put these stickers wherever someone fucked up.”

fiercefatfeminist

It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs

fiercefatfeminist

Now. More. Than. Ever.

princeoftheplayground

Question: if I see someone pull off a Hijab, what should I do? I know there are reasons they are worn so I want to if i should stand in between them and who did this, should i protect them from view somehow, or something else? This has been happening a lot so I feel it’s something everyone needs to know.

protectnevillelongbottom

Good question! I cannot correctly and effectively answer, as I am a white, non-Muslim person; however, I will reblog in case any of my followers can answer.

inquisitivespirit

I asked my Hijabi friend, so here’s one Hijabi’s answer:

“my opinion is, definitely try cover them or give them something to cover themselves with. And perhaps shoo off the person, without putting oneself in danger! God forbid, if that happened to me, I would like someone to come and comfort me and give me something to cover my hair with and then help me report it to the cops “

animatedamerican

(Followers, if any of you are hijabi and would like to expand on this answer or offer alternatives, please do.)

scifibi77-deactivated20190412

If u see it happen to 1 of us, pls cover our head + hair with a coat or shawl or any piece of cloth, while hugging us in comfort. Please don’t get hurt by lashing out @ the perpetrators in any way, coz if they dare to do that, they’re probably too far gone in their own hatred to listen to any reason. Much love + Thank You to anyone who supports us.

meanieyards

yes !! everything said here is important af. if you see someone pull off a girl’s hijab immediately cover her hair and provide comfort. don’t talk to the perpetrator but try to get the woman out of there if you can. maybe if you have a scarf on you at the time give it to her so she can wear it until she’s alone and can replace her hijab. please please protect muslim girls because we already had it hard before donald trump became president and now its gonna be worse with people going around thinking their violence and cruelty is justified

hollowedskin

for my other white ppl who might have a hard time, it’s my understanding that a hijab is like a major item of clothing, not an accessory like a hat or a scarf. so think abt it more like if someone just ripped someone’s shirt or skirt off. u don’t want to be left there exposed or have to walk home without it.

everyone, even outside America needs to protect our Muslim sisters in these times.

quadriparesis-deactivated201908

as a man, what would be the best thing to do? should i turn my head and avoid looking at their hair? can i still offer a jacket or something similar?

wear-it-like-armour-bastard

^I’m hoping someone has an answer islamaphpbia is on the rise in my town and I want to be a good male non Muslim ally

soul-angelos-deactivated2023102

For men, yes please, we would prefer it if you avoided looking at our hair, and if we don’t have something to substitute as a hijab at that moment, anything you could lend us, a jacket, etc, would be very appreciated.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Thank you so much for your support, we really appreciate it, god bless all of you.