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PRIDE RATS

that’s it, babey!!!

Credit isn’t necessary, but is appreciated!!

ultreit-2

disease carriers

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Wingless pigeons.

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#ehheheheh i still have to follow people on there but im gonna head out for now #kat speaks #gonna queue this up a bit :3c

chadgamer

direct action

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goodbyesadplanet

cute things in multi lives

when you go to friend request somebody but you can’t bc they friend requested you first

when the entire lobby starts spamming one sticker

when somebody sends a congratulatory sticker after finishing a song

anytime there’s a ‘fleet if gay’ or ‘bushido if gay’ and the lobby fills up with stickers

feel free to add on

firenyx45

when you send a sticker like “let’s have fun!” and someone responds with the same sticker/their own response

when you reenter multi live and someone you had in the last room is with you again so you spam bushido or fleeting

closet-keys

Lesbians are nothing like straight people.

Butch lesbians are nothing like straight men.

Femme lesbians are nothing like straight women.

Butches do not dress like or emulate straight men.

Femmes do not dress like or emulate straight women.

Butch lesbians do not have male privilege or the male gaze.

Femme lesbians do not have straight privilege from being able to “pass” as straight.

Butch/Femme couples are not heteronormative.

Butches and Femmes dress like no one but themselves. Their presentation has nothing to do with straight people.

Butches and Femmes are both oppressed as lesbians. Neither has systemic privilege over the other.

Butches and Femmes are both inherently radical in refusing to adhere to heteronormativity.

headspace-hotel

I feel like the best way to respond to someone you’re friends with making gross, racist, sexist etc. jokes isn’t to argue with them or call them out directly, but just to kind of wince at them like they just did something incredibly inappropriate and awkward and try to change the subject. Like, almost in an exaggerated way, like you’re just really disgusted and want to forget they said it. Arguing with them lets them 1) shoehorn you as a “SJW” and shut themselves off to you 2) defend their opinion or feel like they did and 3) lets you end up categorized as the person who did the inappropriate thing by making a “big deal” out of it. But acting like you would with any extremely gross and inappropriate thing makes it harder for them to mentally defend themselves and thus to avoid feeling weird and ashamed. It prevents them from getting in any way satisfied by your reaction or validated in their views. It makes them the person that broke a rule. And anyway, it is really gross and inappropriate to joke like that. It has to be a taboo, not just a viewpoint or a style of humor that some people don’t like. If you argue, it frames the issue as an opinion. If you just show disgust and displeasure and treat the offensive material like you would a pile of dog shit on a sidewalk you’re walking down, it’s not arguable. It’s an action, with nothing intellectual about it, and there’s nothing for them to defend against.

Anyone have any thoughts? Has anybody tried this?

micanificent

This is straight up how I deal with the subtle racist and homophobic behaviours a lot of people exhibit, as well as the use of slurs. Wince. Make a face. Look away. Get really quiet. Change the subject. Personal favourite is just just to say “dude” quietly and loaded w disgust.

And you wanna know what?? It fucking works. I’ve observed a decrease in these behaviours in the people I react this way to. OP is totally right, don’t give them the chance to turn it into a ‘discussion’, just skip directly to shame.