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my much younger sibling just got a job doing meaningful work and it pays a lot more than my stupid and meaningless job that i hate does, i'm officially the failure

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Listen white USAmericans canNOT make someone else do this. It has to be one of us. It has to be a whole white USAmerican or else there's just gonna be some new violent raging of an age old racism against a different group.

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sad, artistic men make me feel so disgustingly straight sometimes 😵‍💫😮‍💨

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most women are obsessed with having big boobs at some point, usually from puberty into our 20s or 30s, i hate how "desirable" and pushed it is, like the lengths we will go to to achieve it, but then also the lack of education around it.

i have the smallest boobs in my whole family, i'm a cis woman and won't ever have more than an A cup, everyone else in my family is C+, but i was underweight through all of puberty due to being extremely active and having undiagnosed ADHD habits like locking in and forgetting to eat, so it will just never happen for me and i wish someone had explained to me the importance of having some weight on during those years. but no one did. like yeah i was made fun of for being skinny, but no one ever said it would make my body unhealthy, no one ever helped me remember to eat more regularly.

now, i'm just lamenting from baby me. i'm pretty happy w my body now that i'm older and my brain has leveled out. my boobs look great, and honestly when i'm working out regularly (again, hard while unmedicated but i have heart problems so i'm prob never gonna take ADHD meds), everything looks great.

no real point to this post, venting my own personal feelings to the void okay, i know this doesn't matter and shouldn't even bother me, but w/e it does. i want kids to be ACTUALLY taught about their bodies so that they can have more of an active choice in how they end up looking as adults, and how healthy they are long term (being underweight during puberty cal also come with actual health consequences, not just cosmetic ones). i genuinely think it's healthy to have goals about how you want to look, and the more you understand about how your body works, the better, literally always.

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gerard way. come-up to current, sir, i would 😭 i really would

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I miss being a stripper, truly. Sure there are things I'm glad to not deal with about it anymore--making sure you set enough money aside on your own for taxes and also doing taxes quarterly (neither of which I did ever, for the whole 6 yrs, so this was REALLY stressful for me), having no benefits package, having to pay a house fee, having to share my money at the end of the night with mfs who actually GET a paycheck already, etc--but damn.

I miss...

Getting paid to work out. Having an active performance role, looking and feeling strong and hot as hell, having constant access to a pole, having the force of stage rounds and an audience to make me better and better at what I do all the time. Being unique in the club, hitting a niche demographic, wowing people on a nightly basis. I loved my regulars; Those I gained and kept long term I really got to know, and they were all such genuinely nice people. Sure, not without their own issues--they're people--but there's something singular about the relationship between a stripper and their regulars, at least for me. I would see them and immediately feel safe and relieved--at least I'll make house fee tonight without having to fret, I'll have someone nice and familiar to talk to for a while, I know I'm one of their favorites so I'm glad I made it out for them tonight, etc etc etc.

There is NOTHING nothing nothing quite like convincing the DJ on some of your favorite songs for your main stage set, really feeling yourself that night, and only having that built upon when you get mega rained on because someone with the funds has decided that your 10 min performance is worth $100+

There is nothing like climbing the whole 15 ft pole to the top and deciding to just enjoy the moment, and hang out there for half a song. Nothing like being all the way up there, everything below obscured by the pretty colorful lights, every other sound drowned out by too-loud music, and crossing your thighs around the pole, closing your eyes, and letting yourself fall back. It makes me happily teary just thinking about it.

Stripping is not for everyone, but it was for me. I would take it up again right now if I could, esp since I'm more responsible now. I miss being a performer, I miss being the mysterious beautiful stranger every night. I miss being impressive. I miss my finances HINGING on me being impressive, so that I was forced to always keep my strength up and take care of myself. I wish I could find these feelings in something else. I wish there were anything like it.

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and you're saying that, if i do this, the fictional man will fuck me????

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i actually hate when ppl say "no one is happy about getting an abortion," like... um i was. and i would be happy to get another one, lol. i felt 0 negative feelings about getting an abortion, other than like, accidentally having gotten pregnant and having to go get an abortion is kind of annoying.

women don't need to feel bad about getting abortions. obv a lot of women do feel that way, for various reasons, bc ppl get abortions in lots of different circumstances. but i got my abortion bc i don't ever want kids, short and simple. if i ever got pregnant again, i absolutely would get an abortion and i would be happy i got it done. why do we want to shame women who just want control of their own lives?

anyway i'll never feel bad about getting an abortion and u don't need to feel bad either. it's in my top 5 best decisions i've ever made.

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"it's just a style"

hmmmm okay so then why do so many female characters get designed wearing lingerie, while their male counterparts get to wear real clothes that make sense for their role?

"you know there are women irl who dress and look just like that"

yes actually! that's so true, and that is 100% obviously fine and cool when those women DECIDE FOR THEMSELVES to dress that way! this character we are critiquing the design of is not a real living woman! she is fictional. someone ELSE designed her, decided this outfit for her, she is often literally a fetish being realized in a character, either for personal pleasure of the artist (best case scenario), or for sales bc the creators know cheap sexualization will appeal to the masses (gross case scenario).

"let us have our sexy characters!"

you fucking HAVE them! you have SO many of them! holy shit, there doesn't need to be a sexualized character in every single piece of media! there is so much watchable, playable, readable, and audible porn content, plus everything else that is not porn but contains hypersexualized characters and ecchi shit and fanservice, literally what are you fighting for?

listen. people. i LIKE sexy characters, i really do. i am simply tired of them being shoved down my throat with every new game, the same way the members of the other side of this conversation claim to be tired of the "woke" designs being shoved down their throats. but... do they not see how much they have? for every character--especially in the realm of fem characters--that they find "unattractive" there are two or more characters surpassing an impossible level of doll-like beauty, often in the exact same piece of media.

a reminder to literally everyone: shows, games, books, and ALL other media and EVERYTHING is for all adult people if they are interested to partake. the fanbases for all media are growing and diversifying, and this means that character designs will keep changing, so that every demographic of the fanbase has something for them, and a place to escape to in their media interests. aka, the luxury that most straight cis men have had for so long and LITERALLY ALWAYS WILL HAVE. there is so much media made specifically with straight cis men in mind. when it comes to games, especially straight cis white and east asian men.

i KNOW cis men are tired of being told that everything is already made for them and it's time to let the rest of us have some fun, and i *understand* but if you let it happen and reign in your boys who dish out so much backlash, everyone else will finally start to ease up on you! we all want to have fun ALONGSIDE YOU, not *instead* of you. we just want to have communal spaces where we can all enjoy media together, and for some reason, a lot of men do not take kindly to that.

you will always have your sexualized characters. let us have a place to escape from them, because yes, the rest of us also enjoy playing games, watching shows, etc.

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having a stupid moment where i feel so inconsiderate and bad abt something i did, but i didn't know i was doing it at the time (usually how being inconsiderate goes, you weren't fucking thinking about anyone else so u don't realize you're being a dick), and now i just want someone to talk to who will understand what happened so that i feel less bad about what i did, but...

wanting that makes me feel EVEN more inconsiderate and selfish and narcissistic and annoying, like i did a bad thing that affected people, and now i want validation that actually what i did was understandable and i don't need to feel so bad about it.

idk what this is, i hate it.

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there's so much dating advice content on the internet, and you shouldn't follow any of it, no matter who you are

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i had an abortion when i was in college and it is still, to this day, in the top 5 best decisions i've ever made in my whole life.

i did not and have never felt sadness or any other negative feelings about it. in fact, i have only felt positive feelings about it; relief, joy, gratefulness, etc.

some try to compare abortion to other things, but making the decision to kill your womb-bound child is like no other decision to kill. the decision is the bearer's alone.

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i know this is my own insecurity but i need to vent to the void and i'm probably not going to be very articulate but i am so SICK of the world wide obsession with big boobs, super sick of big boobs being a symbol of maturity, sexiness, womanhood etc in fictional characters and that mentality bleeding so fully into real life.

i'm sick of there hardly being any characters who are full grown women with b cups and under, like //fuck// off.

smaller chested characters are almost exclusively children, and when we do actually get a woman character with smaller boobs, i often see real life women CRITICIZING this choice, especially if that character has any kind of romance, people being like "it's problematic that she looks so young" SHE LOOKS LIKE EVERY OTHER FEMALE CHARACTER SHE IS JUST LESS CURVY. A lot of real life women look like that so fuck off about it.

like do you want us to apologize? sorry i don't have big boobs? sorry i don't fit the criteria that proves to you that i'm a woman???

this has been exacerbated lately by real life stuff, bc a lot of transfem art online, especially by furries for some reason, are like obsessive about having big boobs like it feels like all the jokes lately are about "haha she told the trans dr to make her boobs huge and now she has back problems". just makes me rly fucking annoyed bc i'm a borderline furry i guess and these are my people and i enjoy interacting and hearing trans perspectives and furry perspectives and all other sorts but.

i'm all over the place. TL;DR people i interact with online seem increasingly vocal lately about the old-as-time and incredibly obnoxious human obsession with big boobs, and it's been getting to me.

this isn't anything i'd want to block anyone over, like i love my mutuals and they are funny, vibrant people but tumblr has been the one safe social media for me, it's the only one i have anymore, bc it's been the only social media i can be on without immediately feeling like shit about myself.

sometimes i feel like i finally love myself, and then something that seems like it should be rly insignificant just builds and builds until i'm crushed.

shout out to public figures like Zoe Saldana and Kiera Knightley for making me feel normal. shout out to my irl transfem friends who do not seem to have this obsession and ground me when i feel crazy about this.

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btw not telling people to change their art, love y'all so much; not telling any women that it's annoying that you have big boobs, lol, love y'all so much also; people who do criticize smaller chested body types though... like, dude just let me have like the four characters there are. please. it's just a woman with small boobs. what is your problem.

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i know this is my own insecurity but i need to vent to the void and i'm probably not going to be very articulate but i am so SICK of the world wide obsession with big boobs, super sick of big boobs being a symbol of maturity, sexiness, womanhood etc in fictional characters and that mentality bleeding so fully into real life.

i'm sick of there hardly being any characters who are full grown women with b cups and under, like //fuck// off.

smaller chested characters are almost exclusively children, and when we do actually get a woman character with smaller boobs, i often see real life women CRITICIZING this choice, especially if that character has any kind of romance, people being like "it's problematic that she looks so young" SHE LOOKS LIKE EVERY OTHER FEMALE CHARACTER SHE IS JUST LESS CURVY. A lot of real life women look like that so fuck off about it.

like do you want us to apologize? sorry i don't have big boobs? sorry i don't fit the criteria that proves to you that i'm a woman???

this has been exacerbated lately by real life stuff, bc a lot of transfem art online, especially by furries for some reason, are like obsessive about having big boobs like it feels like all the jokes lately are about "haha she told the trans dr to make her boobs huge and now she has back problems". just makes me rly fucking annoyed bc i'm a borderline furry i guess and these are my people and i enjoy interacting and hearing trans perspectives and furry perspectives and all other sorts but.

i'm all over the place. TL;DR people i interact with online seem increasingly vocal lately about the old-as-time and incredibly obnoxious human obsession with big boobs, and it's been getting to me.

this isn't anything i'd want to block anyone over, like i love my mutuals and they are funny, vibrant people but tumblr has been the one safe social media for me, it's the only one i have anymore, bc it's been the only social media i can be on without immediately feeling like shit about myself.

sometimes i feel like i finally love myself, and then something that seems like it should be rly insignificant just builds and builds until i'm crushed.

shout out to public figures like Zoe Saldana and Kiera Knightley for making me feel normal. shout out to my irl transfem friends who do not seem to have this obsession and ground me when i feel crazy about this.

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my... type? ah. uhhhh 😵‍💫🫠😵‍💫

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