[damndorothea]

i saw this somewhere else but reply / tag what you did today so everyone can see that we all did something different today

[elvyn]

Beldaruit

[goldensunset]

has anybody else noticed that the classic sci fi novel Don’t Create The Torment Nexus features a Torment Nexus? that’s pretty problematic of the author

[tboy-cock]

binder companies need to post ads for fat big busted trans guys and not just skinny androgynous twinks with body fat percentages in the single digits and yes im serious

[what-even-is-thiss]

That last post I reblogged got me thinking again about how people can’t separate their idea of manhood from violence.

It’s like some people are capable of imagining womanhood without submission but can’t imagine manhood without dominance. Like for some reason in their minds women can escape their gender norms and make a new definition of what gender is for themselves but men can’t.

[what-even-is-thiss]

My cishet dad has often told me that he found feminist theory to be very freeing. It told him that yes men can be gentle and caring. Yes men can be sensitive. Being a man means what you want it to mean.

I’ve met other cishet men that feel the same way. I really do like talking with cis men about gender sometimes. You really see them become a lot happier when they fully internalize the idea that being a man means whatever they want it to mean.

[what-even-is-thiss]

A “real man” is a myth.

You get told a lot as a man “real men do or don’t do xyz”. I’ve even experienced this as a trans man.

but the “real man” is an impossible standard to achieve. He doesn’t exist. He’s a mythical being to strive towards. You will never be him and trying to be him will trap you in a cage.

If you think that masculinity is a prison, what you need to realize is that the bars are unlocked and there are no guards. You’ve been talked into your cage like an elephant on a string and you can open the door at any time.

[captainjonnitkessler]

Every online minority group that I have dipped into, hoping to connect, I have left purely on account of the "you are NEVER safe the privileged are always out to get you they are born EVIL and they will never be good" and it's like. I don't think that's a good message to pass onto people, that their inherent identity defines their morality or interactions with others. Not to be dramatic but I think that's the basis for a few genocides actually.

Man I have seen this from SO many minority groups and it's so insidious.

Your best case scenario is that the person posting it really feels that way and thinks they're helping by sharing it, but it's incredibly harmful. Telling people, especially people who are already marginalized, that they can never trust anyone, everyone is out to get them, nobody will ever truly understand them, and all their friends are two-faced backstabbers who would gladly kill them if given a chance is not going to help anyone's mental state, and it's blatantly and obviously untrue.

Your worst case scenario is that someone is intentionally trying to manipulate you into a high-control group by telling you that <outgroup> is inherently unsafe and only <ingroup> will ever truly understand and accept you. Many, MANY cults use tactics like these, and your discord server or twitter friend group can absolutely become a cult or something like it.

And of course as you say, pushing the idea that someone's identity makes them inherently evil, untrustworthy, dangerous, and even incapable of friendship or goodness is uhhhhhhhhh not a new ideology and has never, ever led anywhere good. Being a minority does not justify spreading that shit.

[samcsao3]

Guess

[robogart]

A comic I posted last night for patrons, but I wanted to share here too! This has been the time lately 😂😩😔👏✨️

But in seriousness, capitalism worms are rough! But try to ignore them and shoo them out! Take care of yourselves and rest, babes 🥳💖

[opalgoddessoflife]

With the confirmation that King Gus is gay, we now have another contender for the funniest possible Julien Davinos political marriage candidate.

[optionalplane]

various humanformer nonsense

[get-more-transfem]

To the trans girl reading this: it is never to late to transition. It is never too late to question your gender identity. It is never too late for anything. Live your dreams and be your happiest self. Don't leave yourself wondering of what could've been when it could be now. I will wrap my arms around you and embrace you, even if you want to transition in your mid 30s or 40s. Even if you've already had puberty and your body has developed. It will never be too late.

[yakichoufd]

[yota6]

[A WELL DESERVED CIGARETTE]

[yfel-axel]

when you look at that boy it feels like something inhuman looks right back at you...

I adore the idea of the parasite, to a degree, being a sentient being. It knows what it wants and it waits until it can finally weave its roots around it. This is about 'jealousy', but not that of Qifrey, but of the third 'person' in this relationship.

[podcastwizard]

you don’t realize how important lunch is until you’re wandering around thinking about how unloveable and untalented and uniquely cursed you are and then it’s 4pm and you finally eat lunch and you go Oh. oh right.

[podcastwizard]

lot of people commenting on this post like "who eats lunch at 4pm that's a terrible time to eat lunch" yes. that is the point. 4pm lunch is inadvisable. 4pm lunch is not the ideal. 4pm lunch makes the mind demons real.

[askaniritual]

i just don’t think “is dude gender neutral” is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i don’t think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.

the real question is just “would you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?” the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic

[despazito]

His little pony...