Weird Murmurs from Deep Space

Who is this. Who could this be. (Not a robut; a whamen) (as in she/her)

[emmanon999]

“a beautiful story about accepting your circumstances” NO!!!!! DON’T ACCEPT YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES!!!! CHANGE THEM!!!! YOU HAVE THE POWER TO!!!!! ITS NOT AN UNATTAINABLE GOAL!!!!! EVEN IF NOTHING WORKS OUT AND YOU WONT SEE THE SUNRISE IN THIS LIFETIME IT WILL STILL HAVE BEEN MORE WORTH IT THAN DOING NOTHING AND TRYING TO LIVE IN THE FUCKED UP EVIL STATUS QUO THAT BENEFITS NOBODY AND HARMS EVERYONE!!!!!!!! GET THE FUCK UP!!!!! YOU!!!!! NEED!!!! TO!!!!!! FIGHT!!!!!!

[sneefss]

trans women:

look down at your hands. i mean it. turn your phone over or whatever. those are a girl's hands. it's physical. she is real. you're real.

go and touch something. call yourself your own name, and remind yourself that she's turning a door handle, or holding a water bottle, or that she's messing with the volume buttons on her phone.

ground yourself.

[t4t4t]

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

“You’re a very angry person” thanks I grew up a girl whom it was considered socially acceptable for boys to beat the shit out of and was told it was actually my fault for not trying hard enough to be a boy

[skopostheorie]

[helpless--romantics]

id be such a fuckin slut if it wasnt for all this

[sneefss]

trans women:

center yourself in language that includes you. if it includes women like you, it includes you. it's not "them" it's "us". women are your peers. when someone says ladies that means you. keep reminding yourself. don't forget. it is a fact. treat it like one. you HAVE to treat yourself like a woman. keep reminding yourself. keep reminding yourself.

[sneefss]

this this this this.

that song is about you. that advertisement applies to you. when someone tries to lift women's self esteem it's supposed to be lifting YOUR self esteem. how many songs come on the radio telling women they're beautiful??? that's YOU. you're beautiful. take it seriously. take yourself seriously. you ARE a girl and you HAVE to act like it. if you don't treat yourself like a woman, and you ARE one, then you're not treating yourself like a person, and THAT IS SELF HARM. you HAVE to treat yourself like a girl. it isn't optional.

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

Transfemme eggs are still absorbing all the toxic and oppressive propaganda about how women are ‘supposed’ to be even before their self-realization, the major difference between them and their cis counterparts being that they are almost unilaterally incapable of living up to even the bare minimum of those expectations and usually have their self-worth shredded to pieces as a result

[sararasx3]

Oh so THAT'S why I felt that I looked awful, daaaamn. Finally I figured out what they meant by transmisogyny hurting trans women even before they figure it out!!

[biblicallyaccuratemoth]

This sort of thing is the tip of the iceberg. Once you know to look for it, you see it rearing its ugly head in so many places

[nyya]

as a tme person with a transfeminine sister it is extremely clear to me that we absolutely do not have an equivalent experience.

she did not experience "male socialization." when i look back on our childhood, it is easy to understand that there was no privilege to that concept. she was forced to try and shrink herself into the shape of a man, and was abused when she didn't succeed at playing the part. being "raised as a boy" only highlighted the stark incongruity between what was expected of her and what she was. this repeatedly led to her facing violence.

and to be clear i genuinely don't care if you think a rude comment from an exasperated trans woman online is as equally bad as the literal risk of her being murdered when she walks outside. this is not a competition, being the most visible is not a prize. i genuinely fear for my sister's life.

[emmanon999]

What legitimate reason is there not to kill god

[aidaughter]

this is so lynchian

[decadent-trans-girl]

this is so cute

[warmcoals]

me and the girlies losing our boundaries and coalescing after one iddly widdly bong rip

[eddieheart]

I can go.

I can speak.

I can hear.

I can see.

Who are you?

I am you.

I can jump.

I can swim.

This is fun.

I am you.

You are me.

Who are we?

Who are you?

I am Sylvia.

I am Sylvia.

I am Sylvia.

I am Sylvia.

I am Sylvia.

I am Sylvia.

You are Sylvia?

Yes that’s right.

[beyond-a-name]

listen. newly out tgirl. I am grabbing your hand gently. do not EVER, ever ever ever, trust any tme person who thinks of themself as more of a lesbian than you, or more of an authority on women's issues than you. I promise, no matter how freshly out you are, it's not that you need to quiet down and learn. you are not tainted with some implicitly anti-feminist maleness that you need to atone for. you are a woman, unequivocally. do not trust anyone who makes you feel otherwise, not even for a second. there are no exceptions to this.

[gingik]

getting your joints oiled up when you're a doll probably feels good as fuck

[in-the-kitchen-at-2am]

When I was four I told my mom I didnt feel like a girl. I didnt know trans people existed. My mom acted transphobicly towards me from that point.

Growing up I was always "too masculine" my parents were trying to force me to be feminine. Schoolmates would ask me about my "secret penis" and be more physically violent with me over other "girls". And cis women would touch me and use me however they felt because they knew I couldn't retaliate.

When I told my friends that my girlfriend was being abusive, they laughed and told me in full confidence that, that couldn't have happened. After all she's just so fem! And Im just so not.

The people that upheld gender rolls around me were not just men or my parents. Everyone is imbued with misogyny. Your parents dont care you dont shave your legs? Well your classmates will. A male teacher is sexist? Dont worry he'll just get a female teacher in to do the misogyny for him and tell all the girls in class how they look like little sluts.

Then I came out as trans and got on hormones and suddenly I'm not man enough. Everyone has to give me advice on how to be a "real man". I need to do the Manly Activities and stop doing the Girly Activities. (Never a woman tho. A dangerous man or a confused girl is all a trans man gets to be)

Is this a typical female socialization? I doubt it. Just like I doubt that trans women have a typical "male socialization"

Everyone grows up with misogyny. Everyone has to unlearn misogyny. Everyone has to unlearn toxic masculinity. Being AFAB does not make someone immune to being misogynistic.

What makes you think growing up as a trans woman excludes them from these kinds of experiences? We know toxic masculinity is toxic but somehow that doesn't apply?

Little girls will be shamed for their appearance no matter what. Little trans girls are shamed for existing. A masculine girl can wear a fully gender neutral outfit and look like a boy. Because boy clothes are default. A trans girl cannot dress in one single item of girls clothes without being mocked. Theres a whole category of bits where a boy accidentally wears something for girls and is humiliated for it. (Because girl clothing has to have different buttons and pockets, lest you mix up the paper thin see through top and shapeless bag with armholes)

Being expected to always perform masculinity drives me crazy and I am a man. How do you think a little girl would feel in that role?

Think of every single "male socialization" thing (backbone, confidence, condescension, misogynistic, over-sexual, lazy, aggressive) that has been tacked onto trans women and ask yourself: "Is there not a million cis women I can think of that do that too?" If the answer you find is no, you are lying to yourself or you have some misogyny to work on. If the answer is yes, stop telling trans women that they are male socialized and stop saying that they are mansplaning or being a manchild. There are words for that, that involve no men (because women do it too)

TLDR: If you use "male socialization" as a weapon against trans women, or think that they were privileged for their childhoods, you should change as a person.

[noze2222]

Something that I realised when I first started getting more into transfeminism that really made it click for me is that even when people say "trans women are women", they rarely actually mean that. Even a lot of trans women don't fully believe it when they say it, even if they don't realise.

We're still expected to act like a third gender. Sure you fall more into the group of "woman" than the average born male but a lot of the time there's still an implicit understanding that you are to not push too hard on being a real woman. If you talk about the misogyny you face, the ways you enjoy engaging with womanhood, or start happily taking up space, people will often get weirded out. They'll look at you funny, or they may verbalise disgust. A trans woman might be a woman, but it gets awkward when it becomes apparent that the woman in question genuinely believes it to be true and doesn't just want to be humoured.

I fell into this trap for a long time. I would feel uncomfortable even calling myself a woman sincerely because it felt like I was doing something wrong. I was encroaching. I was pushing my luck with what was acceptable for a pseudo-woman to do. If you are a trans woman who feels like this, like you're a separate category of person than just a plain woman, you have to realise something. If your joy makes people disgusted or uncomfortable, that's their problem. Make them uncomfortable, make them squirm (assuming it's physically safe of course). You owe these people nothing. You are a woman, full stop. Embracing that fact without shame or asterisks does wonders for your self esteem.

[emmanon999]

First year experiencing 90+ degree heat with a bra on. Holy fuck free the nipple PLEASE

[trans-girl-joy]

welcome to trans girl joy!!

if youre a trans girl, and feeling happy about something, put it in the askbox! itll be publicly posted to this blog, maybe with a lil note from me, where everybody can see it and maybe also show some love to you!!

you can also take a scroll through here to see all the wins your trans sisters are goin through ^u^

you can also share stuff that happened to your trans girl friends but not you, or share anything that makes you happy even if it isnt related to being trans! a trans girl having anything to be happy about is precious enough for the whole world to see no matter what, dont be afraid!

hope you can have a cozy comfy time here :3

some notes:

i am charlotte! im the only one who runs this blog rn :3 im a minor she/her and a girl and transfem

i hold the right to throw any ask dirrrrectly in the trash can if i wanna, but heres a list of specific reasons i might (i can for any other reason too, youre not my mom. if i do i might add the reason onto here)

(you dont have to read all of this, but id advise it if you dont want your ask deleted or to know whats up if it doesnt appear! tl;dr no evil)

youre throwing bigoted shit in my asks to be edgy (if i think you did something on genuine accident i shall simply inform you)

youre talking about crimes of any variety against the law or humanity

the submission is abt a trans guy... i love my trans brothers but as a trans girl i felt like making this blog specifically for other trans girls. if you read the blog name and everything, youd know that respectfully the place isnt for you sry

its clear in the submission that its abt somebody who isnt trans at all (??? are you lost)

i am a minor, and other minors may be viewing, so id prefer not to hear sexual things, however my definition of "sexual" is lenient compared to what others may think. you can say you got bottom surgery or talk about having boobs or any other part of your body because if no sex is mentioned, it is simply your womanly body, it would be dumb and misogynistic of me to act like your bodys existence in and of itself is a sexual topic.

you have a question or something to tell me? ask or dm! no matter what! ... unless it breaks the above rules ok? but ya i lov talking so dont be afraid! especially if you have a problem just tell me and i can fix it or clear things up

submissions may take a bit to show up! be patient please <3