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Proudly PrObLeMaTiC uwu Left within reason | Pro-accountability You can make the choice to do the work to heal or not, it's your life; but we've got beef if you make your unwillingness to grow everyone else's problem. Diagnoses is a tool for treatment, not an excuse to be an entitled bitch baby :)

[lastoneout]

"sugar is poison" sugar is your body's preferred fuel choice and if you stop eating entirely you will die

[merlinus-uwu]

[lastoneout]

but fr when I see people claiming sugar addiction is this huge problem because when they stop eating sugar their bodies start relentlessly craving it I'm like yeah and the low fuel light on your dashboard means your car is addicted to gasoline like do you fucking hear yourself????

and then they go "but if I tough it out eventually the cravings go away, that means I was addicted to sugar" and I just want to grab them and scream "the cravings go away because your body has deduced that you must be living through some sort of famine and is diverting power to desperately attempt to keep your meat suit running by any means necessary and that's NOT a good thing!! pls believe me there is absolutely no food you could possibly eat—bar actual life-threatening allergens and shit that's gone bad—that could do more damage to you and your future descendants than spending significant amounts of time in famine mode!! you have officially started the slow process of starving yourself to death and it will not save you from the "horrors" of being fat oh my god stop treating your human body like a monster that must be tamed instead of a beautiful and complex organism that is doing it's best to keep your dumb ass alive!!!!"

and then they ignore me or give me some other flawed excuse as to why it's fine to never eat food and I get to go back to shutting up while watching people I love destroy themselves for the sake of being skinny while imagining going full [REDACTED FOR LEGAL REASONS] on the nearest diet brand CEO or health food influencer

[lastoneout]

also lets be real most people have no idea what an addiction actually is and seem to think it's the same thing as having needs and desires which makes me want to attack John Harvey Kelloggs' dusty corpse with a shovel but whatever I'm fine I'm over it nbd *screeches loud loud enough to shatter glass*

[enbygunderson]

As a fellow fat ass I am BEGGING you McBrainiacs to think for two fucking seconds before spreading gift wrapped excuses for people to mindlessly binge. NO FUCKING SHIT your brain ~prefers~ carbs/sugar. WHY, oh WHY, do you think it's so EASY for us to get addicted to simple carbs? WHY OH WHY do you think it's so easy to manipulate us into reaching for otherwise nutritionally VOID shit like donuts and cookies? NO FUCKING SHIT humans can't survive on protein alone, but you do NOT need to gorge yourself daily on $1 fruit pies from fucking Walmart and wash it down with full-sugar soda to live. It's not """fatphobia""" to acknowledge that, it's common fucking sense! Eat a fucking apple instead of all that beige, oil drenched sugary garbage that is literally DESIGNED to get us to buy and eat more and more by people who know a hell of a lot more about nutritional science than you ever pretended to; I PROMISE you'll feel better for it!

[enbygunderson]

[enbygunderson]

Fucking hate how every post critical of Chrome is full of smooth-brains crowing "just use firefox!!!" No. I stopped using firefox because that browser would slow my computer to a CRAWL for no fucking reason. Unless they've actually put some effort into fixing that in the last couple of years, I'm not interested.

[enbygunderson]

Tell me primary school let out for summer break without telling me

[werewolfbneimitzvah]

vent post. There are two stories i was told in my teenage years that even before i had a real concept of trans issues made me uninterested in discussing the supposed sacredness and safety of separated sex-based spaces.

First, when i was like 13 or 14 my PE teacher told us about a time she went to a women's public restroom, some guy was hanging out outside the bathrooms, she didn't think anything of it, went to the bathroom, and he walked in after her and like, creeped on her over the top of the stall. She was ok, she wasn't telling us this to scare us, just telling us what to do in situations like that (and iirc she was telling the whole co-ed class this, not just girls, bc it's useful for everyone), but this taught me immediately and forever that there's nothing actually keeping these spaces separate really, that anyone can be a creep in any space, and that establishing a space like that as for women only isn't actually particularly useful for safety.

Second, when i was 16 i was at an anime convention, a friendly acquaintance of mine and i ended up in conversation outside, and he showed me his bare wrist and told me he'd been kicked out. A female friend of his had stepped in dog poop outside, and between that and the stress of the convention she'd had a bit of an emotional breakdown, so being her friend, he started comforting her and ushered her into the women's restroom so they could wash the poop off her shoe together. And because he was a man who went into the women's bathroom, he got kicked out, no matter that he was doing something that was actually beneficial to a woman. Punishing a woman's friend for supporting her was supposed to... protect her somehow? This made it clear to me that a no-exceptions rule separating the sexes like that wasn't actually inherently good for everyone.

And this isn't even getting into me as a child needing to accompany my younger sister to the restroom when we were out with just my dad because she had certain support needs past the age he felt comfortable bringing her into the men's room with him. And what if I'd been born a boy, or she'd been the first born? Who's helping her then?

And of course even putting all this aside, we should always prioritize compassion and support anyway. But i never even needed to meet a trans person to know that "keeping men out of women's bathrooms" is silly nonsense. But trans people also need to pee anyway and as humans they have that right, so leave them the fuck alone. your precious women's restroom is just a fucking room with a door, holy shit give it a fucking rest, if someone is attacking you in the bathroom that's bad and if someone is in there to pee that's good and it doesn't fucking matter what their junk is or was when they were born.

a woman could have done the exact same thing to my PE teacher and it would have also been bad no matter how "supposed" to be in the restroom she was, and no one should ever be punished for helping a crying friend wash their shoe.

Anyway i know I'm speaking to like-minded folks here, i just think about those two stories literally every time bathroom gender shit comes up and it pisses me off.

[enbygunderson]

No shit the sign on the door isn't going to stop someone, just like a "No Gun Zone" isn't going to stop someone. It does give you an extra layer of awareness though? Like if a (blatant) male goes into a women's restroom and is clearly tending to his child or helping a friend, you have the common sense to realize that, right? Are we not capable of understanding the concept of exceptions without taking away the "pause and reflect and be ready to act" effect of a strange man following you into a space he has no reason or social expectation to be in for no apparent reason? Just like you might take notice if someone waltzes into a carry-free zone with a gun in plain view? It is a situation awareness aid, not a hard and fast rule of thumb. JFC be for real.

[enbygunderson]

The stumbling and flustered response of gen Zers when they find out the person they're humblebragging at about being a furry or queer ends up being a furry/queer/whatever as well--it never gets old it's almost like some of us don't make it our whole ass personality or mistake stuff like that for being interesting

[enbygunderson]

Did I miss something or is Israel seriously crying victim right now over Iran threatening to retaliate? After THEY have been trying to wipe Gaza off the map for nearly half a year in retaliation? I wish they'd all knock this shit off in general but the sheer hypocrisy is unreal.

[fin-has-opinions]

I love when someone writes this massive callout google doc trying to get an ex canceled and 95% of it is basically "idk I didn't like xyz about them but I expected that to magically change when we were together," and then they throw in some ""bombshell"" like 'oh we were both high and I was being physically intimate with him and then he groped me but stopped the moment I so much as hinted I didn't want it, and it was sExuAl AssAuLt' like...gurl....

[fin-has-opinions]

We get it; you hate minimalist interior design, certain color schemes, and home security cameras. Now stfu and go reflect on why you think that justifies you being a judgmental asshole about shit that has literally no impact on you or your life.

[homoluigi]

She's getting cooked on twitter but she's entirely correct

[enbygunderson]

eh. I'm gonna have to go with the Darwinists on this one; That looks nothing like a coke zero can design. When has the Coca-Cola label ever been shoved way down to the bottom, nevermind the giant 7.0% alcohol on the bottom there, which your eye should be picking up on even if you somehow managed to skip over the first 3/4s of the information. This shit is why most of y'all don't notice when blatantly photoshopped/AI imagery is thrown in front of your face. We kind of need people with better observational skills that a damn brick or y'all are just gonna be the next bunch of boomers believing fake news or jumping to wild conclusions because you read/interpreted something wrong.

[anarchopuppy]

Just found out that the dietary calorie is still measured by burning food in a "bomb calorimeter" and then measuring the heat produced. There's no solid evidence that this method is at all equivalent to how our bodies process food (an entirely different chemical process from combustion), the accuracy of this system has been disputed for as long as it's existed, and there are no available alternatives

There are 4800 calories in a kilogram of dry sawdust even though wood is completely indigestible to humans, because calories don't measure nutritional value, just how well something burns

Nutritional "science" is pure bullshit

[queeranarchism]

A good primer on this topic is the Maintenance Phase podcast episode ‘The Trouble with Calories’: https://maintenancephase.buzzsprout.com/1411126/10671811

Prefer reading? The sources list for that episode is full of goodies:

History of the Calorie in Nutrition

Caloric Equivalents of Gained or Lost Weight

The Foreign Policy of the Calorie

Why the most popular rule of weight loss is completely wrong

The energy balance model of obesity: beyond calories in, calories out

“Calories in, calories out” and macronutrient intake

Calories on food packets are wrong—it’s time to change that

The Nutrition Facts Label: Its History and Updates

It doesn’t stop there though, almost everything we think we know about nutrition is kind of bullshit.

You need 2000-2500 calories a day? There’s no evidence to support that claim. It’s fully a made up number.

Calories in - calories out = weight gain or loss’? Absolute bullshit. No credible scientist believes this anymore. Your body compensates for dieting in like a billion ways to the point where reducing calorie intake often results in long term weight gain.

2 liters of water per day? Again: a made up number. ZERO evidence.

The BMI? Not remotely based on science. Absolute bullshit.

Being ‘overweight’ or ‘obese’ is bad for you? Heavily disputed for all but the highest weight categories.

And of course: there is no evidence based way to lose weight and keep it off. The idea that people can decide to be thinner if not supported by evidence. Almost every study shows that almost all humans just keep returning to their set weight again and again.

Vitamin supplements? We still don’t really know why they sometimes work and sometimes don’t. Your body seems to decide whether to absorb them pretty much on a whim.

It all falls apart the moment you go looking for evidence. It’s such a sham.

[enbygunderson]

2000-2500 is too high for most modern people with desk jobs. And yes, there IS evidence to support CICO. People who have ever tracked completely and honestly for any length of time can tell you that it fucking works. You may need to adjust your fire a bit from the general starting numbers, but if you actually ever tried you would see the cause-effect for yourself. Y'all honestly sound like flat earthers when you start talking about this stuff lol. You don't return to a "set weight" because you're programmed that way or something, you return to a "set weight" because you eventually go back to eating the way that got you fat in the first place.

The mental gymnastics y'all do to deny any accountability for this shit is honestly mind-blowing to me; y'all try to argue that you're so confident in yourselves/your body, but you'd rather try to make some stupid strawman about sawdust having calories than just admit that you like food? JFC. I'm currently obese and it's 110% because of how much I eat.

[enbygunderson]

Are they really being "transphobic" or have you made that such a cornerstone in your whole personality that when people don't react/react neutrally to it, you find yourself taking offense? I see so many think pieces where the OP is all "I try to exist in queer spaces irl and it's awkward uwu" and like. Yeah, it IS awkward, because a lot of y'all are competing with everyone around you constantly and it's exhausting for those who don't consider being queer all that interesting. That's just what we are. I don't need to dye my hair bizarre colors and adapt a fruity voice or develop myself into some sort of caricature to be queer, and if you come in hot telling me about your fake junk when we've just met, I'm not gonna want to have anything to do with you. Just because the space is queer doesn't mean anyone there is equipped to handle a special ed class.

[enbygunderson]

the irony when the cry bully transtrender, who claims to be a dog and acts even weirder when a biological woman comes to the local than the guys do, whines about "awful people" and "creep behavior" in the community.

[hopelesslyyearning-deactivated2]

If you read "narcissist abuse" as "all narcissists are abusers" you neeeeeed to go to a psychiatrist ASAP lol because my eyes are fine 🖤

[staff]

A message from a few of the trans staff at Tumblr & Automattic:

We want trans people, and LGBTQ+ people broadly, to feel welcome on Tumblr, in part because we as trans people at Tumblr and Automattic want it to be a space where we ourselves feel included. We want to feel like this is a platform that supports us and fights for our safety. Tumblr is made brighter and more vibrant by your presence, and the LGBTQ+ folks who help run it are fighting all the time for this, for you, internally. 

A few days ago, Matt Mullenweg (the CEO of Automattic, Tumblr’s parent company) responded to a user’s ask about an account suspension in a way that negatively affected Tumblr’s LGBTQ+ community. We believe that Matt's response to this ask and his continued commentary has been unwarranted and harmful. Tumblr staff do not comment on moderation decisions as a matter of policy for a variety of reasons—including the privacy of those involved, and the practicalities of moderating thousands of reports a day. The downside of this policy is that it is very easy for rumors and incorrect information about actions taken by our Trust & Safety team to spread unchecked. Given this, we want to clarify a few different pieces of this situation:

The reality of predstrogen's suspension was not accurately conveyed, and made it seem like we were reaching for opportunities to ban trans feminine people on the platform. This is not the case. The example comment shared in the post linked above does not meet our definition of a realistic threat of violence, and was not the deciding factor in the account suspension.

Matt thereafter failed to recognize the harm to the community as a result of this suspension. Matt does not speak on behalf of the LGBTQ+ people who help run Tumblr or Automattic, and we were not consulted in the construction of a response to these events.

Last year, the "mature" and "sexual themes" community labels were erroneously applied to some users' posts. An outside team of contractors tasked with applying community labels to posts were responsible for this larger trend of mislabeling trans-related content. When our Trust & Safety team discovered this issue (thanks largely to reports from the community), we removed the contracted team’s ability to apply community labels and added more oversight to ensure it does not happen again. In the Staff post about this, LGBTQ+ staff pushed to be more transparent but were overruled by leadership. The termination of a contractor mentioned in the original ask response was for an unrelated incident which was incorrectly attributed to this case. We regret that the mislabeling ever happened, and the negative impact it has had on the trans community on Tumblr. 

Transition timelines are not against our community guidelines, and weren’t a factor considered by the moderation team when discussing suspensions and subsequent appeals. We do not take action against content that is related to transitioning or trans bodies unless it includes violations of the Community Guidelines.

When it comes to the experience of trans folks on Tumblr encountering transphobic content, and interacting with bigoted users, we understand and share your frustrations. Tumblr’s policies, and Automattic’s policies, are written to ensure freedom of speech and expression. We prohibit harassment as defined in our Community Guidelines, but we know that this policy falls short of protecting users from the wider scope of harmful speech often used against LGBTQ+ and other marginalized people.

Going forward, Tumblr is taking the following actions:

Prioritizing anti-harassment features that will empower users to more effectively protect themselves from harassment.

Building more internal tooling for us as Staff to proactively identify and mitigate instances of harassment.

Reviewing which of the tags frequently used by the trans community are blocked, and working to make them available next week.

We’re sorry for how this all transpired, and we’re actively fighting to make our voices heard more and prevent something like this from happening again in the future. We know firsthand that having to deal with situations like this as a Tumblr user is difficult, particularly as a member of an already frequently targeted and harassed community. We know it will take time to regain your trust, and we’re going to put in the work to rebuild it.

We appreciate the space we have been given to express our concerns and dissent, and we are thankful that Matt’s (and Automattic’s) strong commitment to freedom of expression has facilitated it.

We will continue to fight to make Tumblr safe for us all.

— This statement was authored by multiple trans employees of Tumblr and Automattic.

[enbygunderson]

Coming from another queer person with dubious connections to the concept of gender, if it's true that she was spamming tags with porn and making threats of violence on side blogs, then ALSO had the gal to frame her banning as an act of ""transphobia"" instead of owning up to her own shit behavior, then she absolutely deserved to be banned and I hope the door hit her on the way out. Any "harm to the community" is coming from someone behaving like that and using their trans status to maliciously stir up additional drama and to try to dodge accountability. Not from the suspension itself or Matt's to-the-point explanation that he was forced into on account of people on this hellsite getting the torches and pitchforks out without knowing the full story.

[sataniccapitalist]

“Poor? Have you tried starving? “

[enbygunderson]

While I agree with the notion that this article's headline is outlandish at face level, I guarantee none of the people commenting on this in pure outrage has any idea what "starving" actually feels like If you're clinically obese, I guarantee you've been spending a LOT more than you realize on excess food. And cutting back on that wouldn't equate to ""starving"".

[enbygunderson]

Kinda with the conservatives on this one; with the sheer number of you that'll guiltlessly lie about being disordered just for attention and clout, I can only imagine what lengths you'd all go to the moment it involved monetary benefits. Yes, multi-million dollar companies like WalMart need to pay their employees enough instead of relying on social security nets to cover the bill, but we ALSO need to make sure benefits are going to people who legitimately need them.