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#555

problemnyatic

"Punishment works!!!" We're drowning in three to four generations of people so pants-shittingly terrified of ever being wrong that half of everyone has constructed a worldview wherein they never even consider the possibility that they could be wrong and the other half behaves like one wrong move will make anything or anyone explode violently into a million irreperable pieces. I don't think it works guys

problemnyatic

I know this might be a bold take but maybe teaching everyone from a young age that ever making a mistake will be met with unimaginable pain and misery doesn't actually encourage learning or correct behavior. If anything it creates a sense of terror so powerful it completely suffocates curiosity and exploration, thus leading to people knowing absolutely nothing but whatever is brought directly to them, which is a big problem in a world where information is so tightly controlled that a very small number of very powerful people basically have complete power over what people see and hear on a day-to-day basis when not actively seeking new and rigorously verified information from diverse and trustworthy sources.

problemnyatic

if any of this sounds like you, start by looking up the definition of words you've heard and are pretty sure you know what they mean, but haven't actually double-checked for yourself. Just like, whenever it occurs to you. Great first step

problemnyatic

This post goes out to the "we need to bring back bullying" crowd. Just because you aren't hitting someone physically doesn't mean you aren't being punitive. Maybe it isn't actually healthy to believe it's necessary to harass and humiliate anyone who makes you upset or uncomfortable. That sounds like a you problem actually.

problemnyatic

Anyways, breaking the cycle of abuse starts with you and how you treat yourself. You have to give yourself grace and room for error or you'll never be able to cultivate a healthier mindset than your trauma left you with. It's not easy, but you have to trust yourself that whatever seems kinder than however you usually treat yourself is probably a good enough start.

#222

stillnaomi

using violence to liberate people from sweatshops, unsafe mines, and grinding poverty isn't the same as using violence to impose those things on people. the idea that violence is morally repugnant regardless of context is a belief that every oppressor throughout history would love for the oppressed to hold

cazort

i'm very anti-violence and a huge fan of nonviolence, but the one use of violence that i see as legitimate is self-defense.

violence is not any less violence just because it is done in little tiny, incremental ways, and not in one big fell swoop. it's not any less violence just because it's indirect. if it's intentional and it acts on the body to cause pain and/or harm, has a high likelihood of doing so, or threatens to do so, then it's violence.

examples include people being forced by economic circumstances into situations that gradually wear down their body. whenever a person knowingly and intentionally perpetuates these economic circumstances, they're committing violence

another example includes pollutants that cause diffuse, indirect bodily harm, such as increasing cancer risk, over long time scales and large populations. whenever a person knowingly and intentionally releases these pollutants, they're committing violence

and yes, scale matters and agency matters

with the pollution i'm not talking about a poor person who lives in a car-dependent area and is forced to drive a polluting car because that's the only way to get to a job and get to the store. i'm talking about the CEO's and investors that make decisions that increase their profits at the expense of pumping pollutants into the environment. i'm talking about the affluent people who could afford to buy any vehicle they want and choose to buy a dirty, gas-guzzling one. i'm talking about the people who consciously and actively promote car-dependency, such as the auto industry, which profits from it.

bohogojoe

#222

stalgivc

artemis-the-catgrill

reposting this so staff will have a harder time trying to make everyone forget it <3

#222

pnglove

mousidy

One thing that really gets lost in the discussion about the term "femboy" is how it pushes the idea that the only way to have your femininity accepted is to provide sexual attention for men. Many young trans girls are exclusively shown the "femboy" charactur as a solution for their dysphoria. That to be accepted they most provide sexual attention for men to even slightly be seen as a girl.

HUH. fucking yeah

txttletale

"the idea that the only way to have your femininity accepted is to provide sexual attention for men" is also packaged into 'womanhood', trans or otherwise in cultural, historical, and institutional ways and has been for thousands of years. it has been both historic and modern practice in many medical systems to predicate access to hrt and surgery on the patient's heterosexuality. this is just accusing the tail of pushing the idea that the dog ought to wag

#222