All things ENTJ

As one of the rarest personality types, ENTJ's are often misunderstood or villianized. I want to provide some raw, honest ENTJ posts that will hopefully help people understand who we really are and why we do what we do. Submissions, asks, and feedback welcome!

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

Have you ever realized that ENTJs seem to have a common hate for self-destructive behavior? I, being an ENTJ, notice that quite often. I basically don't understand people who are drunk every weekend, take drugs, smoke or do life-risking activities, I usually end up provocating them or talking to them aggressively because I can't understand why you would do something that harms and damages you, it's not logical to me

I have definitely noticed this. As an ENTJ myself, I feel basically the same way. When I see people getting drunk and acting like idiots, or doing something incredibly stupid for no good reason, I really don’t understand.  I don’t mind taking calculated risks if I have a good reason for doing so but pointlessly doing something like that is not my idea of fun.

Despite this, I would also mention that, being an ENTJ doesn’t mean that you can’t do those kind of things and enjoy them. I  have no problem with going out for the occasional drink or doing some sort of adrenaline-filled activity. Generally, I think we get much more enjoyment out of intellectual and conversational stimulation though, so most of us won’t do these things often.

Sometimes I think ENTJs can get caught up in their intuitive and extroverted traits and this can make them a little silly at times too. I think we are just much less likely to do things that we really know can harm us, like smoking cigarettes, doing drugs, or something similar. In fact, if an ENTJ is doing things like those on a regular basis it’s probably a sign something might be wrong. We are just too logical and care too much about self-preservation to engage in really harmful, pointless, and frankly, stupid pastimes.

Thank you for the ask! - Mod Lindsey   

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

I’m back,

What, almost two years later to say this is bullshit. I smoke weed weekly and my Ni/Se fucking loves it.

ENTJs have Se in their function stack so they will often (especially young ones) very much enjoying letting go and having a little fun. It very much depends on the person, but for many ENTJs it allows them to loosen up in a way they normally can’t.

As a young ENTJ, I often get caught in Te - Se loops - going from a workaholic to a reckless partier in seconds. I’d like to think I’m smart about it but just because you’re an ENTJ does not mean you can’t have fun, or make stupid decisions. Weed helps me unwind from my Te, and remember to be a person and connect with my Ni/Se, and even Fi.

Damn i should go through my old posts like this and update them...

[meanderfall]

ah yes, the enneatypes 1, 3, and 5. or as I like to call them, the “if i make a single mistake, i’ll Die” squad

[personality-studies]

Enneagram Type’s Childhood

Enneatype 1

Children with the One pattern try hard to be good. They have an unconscious feeling of needing to justify their existence. They became their own disciplinarians and often the discipliner of other siblings.

One or all authority figures are either inadequate, not present, or too demanding and punitive. When the parent is not present, they decide to make their own rules and moral code. When the parent is too punitive, they internalize these rules.

They feel deep guilt, intrinsic inner flaw, and try to cover it up with an identity of being good and responsible. They can perceive others as having less integrity, being lazy and messy.

Enneatype 2

Children with the Two pattern learn to put other’s needs first - to give in order to receive - and that love must be earned. They try to read the needs in the family and see how they could fulfill them.

They often learn to please the opposite sex parent and this becomes a special relationship, which causes a difficult relationship with the same sex parent. It also leads to a triangulation, which is often carried out in adulthood.

Enneatype 3

Children with the Three pattern do not feel valued for themselves. They get praise for what they do and become productive to get this praise.

They often unconsciously adapt themselves to become what the nurturer wants them to be. They often pursue a career that may make their nurturer proud of them.

They have a deep feeling of shallowness and deceit, their insides do not match the image they have created.

Enneatype 4

Children with the Four pattern feel different than their parents. They believe they are not seen by their parents.

There is the feeling that they were kicked out of the nest because there is something tragically wrong with them. Often there is some event that changes the family structure and stands out as the event that changed everything.

Some remember a time when everything was wonderful and a moment when they were rejected for no apparent reason. They spend their childhood trying to regain love by being special.

Enneatype 5

Children with the Five pattern feel unsafe in their families. They experience their families as intrusive and overwhelming. There is no privacy, no where to hide except in their minds.

They experience the emotional needs and expression of their parents as invasive. Some create an inner fantasy world.

Enneatype 6

Children with the Six pattern experience their parents as inadequate and unable to protect or care for them well. Early in childhood they feel safe, as they get older something happens that makes them perceive their parents as inadequate.

Usually this occurs during the phase of separating when they need a strong parental figure to show them what is and isn’t safe about the world. At this time they experience parent(s) as inadequate - absent, unavailable, weak, etc.

Enneatype 7

Children with the Seven pattern feel cut off from the nurturer, causing frustration and anxiety. They feel there was not enough love for them in the family.

Sometimes there is someone needier who requires more attention. Sometimes the nurturer is distracted by emotional pain to give to all the children.

Their role is to be positive, not need much, and help everyone be happier, particularly the nurturer. As adults they often have a close bond with their mothers.

Enneatype 8

Children with the Eight pattern grow up quickly for a variety of reasons. There is violence in the family or around the family. The protector is missing and they must protect and provide for the family at a young age.

They survive in bad neighborhoods - survival issues are important. It is not safe to be gentle or giving, that seems weak and soft. They feel rejected/betrayed and learn to be tough.

Enneatype 9

Children with the Nine pattern feel overwhelmed by their families. They try to disappear and/or make peace. They dissociate from drama by becoming invisible or mediating.

They are very low maintenance. They learn that having needs, getting angry, or having difficulties is not acceptable. They lose energy and become listless.

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

I’m back!

This time armed with wayyyyy more cognitive function knowledge, and more than six months experience running an mbti account on instagram. Should I go active again, for those of you still around? If so, what would you like to see in the way of posts?

-Mod Lindsey

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NTJs trying to get NTPs to work

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

Hello ENTJ world! My name is Oliver. I'm the new mod for the page. I'm 18. I'm studying international relations at Uni and I'm a huge language nerd. I'm an ENTJ and I really enjoy sharing my experiences and learning about others in the MBTI world.

[the-anomalous-infj]

ENTJs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)

What I noticed and observed about them: (FOUR FEMALES & 1 MALE)

They can talk to adults so flawlessly despite how young they are. Their maturity level is definitely high up there. If you’re friends with them, you’ll be able to get away with anything (they’ll back you up with their conversation skills).

All the ENTJs I know have loud, clear, and deep voices (even the females). When they’re talking about something, almost everyone in the room knows about it. 

You’ll be able to see their noisy and crazy side when they’re with their friends. They may even end up looking childish, which may seem pretty rare. 

They are/were probably known for several leadership awards or student council stuff in school. They like to get all sorts of things written in their resume. The more, the merrier. 

They may have this mature and independent vibe– because as children, they were most likely put on some kind of pressure to grow up quick. Most of the ones I know grew up with parents with high expectations. Another one I know didn’t even grow up with parents… Tough childhoods definitely make tough people.

They get super insecure when they can’t do something. It hurts watching them look so helpless because they’re usually so well-poised. But they really take it to heart when they take awhile to learn something–or are unable to fix a problem. 

They are private about their love life but keep mentioning little bits and pieces of it for the world to wonder. If you ask about personal things, they’ll tell you about it but leave out a lot of details and just give you a big and blurry picture. You have to be considered a close friend to know the juicy parts. 

The ones I know are quite materialistic when it comes to clothes and looks. They have an eye for fashion and manage to look classy even in plain clothes. Quality matters, the brand matters, but the price doesn’t matter. (Unless it’s a totally unreasonable price)

I noticed how they enjoy inviting and gathering people together–even those they aren’t close with. This is how they express their warm and friendly side. They make great hosts and love making sure that everyone is feeling comfortable and at home. 

The ENTJ females I know are advice-givers. They really know how to take in the problems of people and are willing to figure out ways to solve them–using order and practicality. They are considered the mother-figures. 

They are trustworthy and reliable people. They will always find a way. If they can’t take action–they will easily talk their way through it. 

If there’s ever an awkward silence, they like to fill it in with stories. Embarrassing stories about their close friends, especially. That’s another childish thing about them that is rare to catch–they love poking fun at their friends. 

When ENTJs stare at you, it feels like they’re inspecting you. Yes, they’re staring into your eyes–but they’re not exactly staring deep into your eyes. I’m not sure how to explain, but their stares may seem intimidating… and well, they’re probably just not aware of it. (And that’s okay, it’s totally understandable) 

When they compliment you, they really make you feel special. ENTJs are sincere folk–so feel glad when they say something positive about you! Next thing you know, you’re feeling all “high and mighty.” Their approval is just the best thing ever. It’s like their way of expressing that they’re “cool with you.”

They love posting on social media. Posting pictures of their achievements and trophies and certificates. Memories of getting together with their family or large group of friends. Or posting a picture from a time when they were coincidentally walking on the same grounds as some celebrity while they were strolling around some expensive mall.

They are excellent multitaskers when it comes to both thinking and talking. They can do both at the same time– like, it doesn’t take them awhile to think things through before saying the right things aloud. They are quick thinkers in that way and if ever they do say something wrong, they can correct themselves in an elegant manner. Such skill. 

When they talk to people, they perform a quick analysis in their heads about the person they are currently talking to–making sure they know their background so that they can find a perfect topic to talk about. Again, such skill.

Every action they do has some sort of motive and has to bring them somewhere “farther in life.” Whether it’s adding more meat to the knowledge they have, or about planning a next get-together with a group of friends, or about a plan that will lead them closer to where they want to be. They live with purpose and efficiency. 

When an ENTJ is alone, they look like a totally different person. You may catch them looking “not present in the world” since they are most likely thinking about something way too hard–and have no one to share their thoughts to at the moment. (This is due to their second function, Ni–them internalizing their ideas and thinking about the future).

 They usually end up as the leaders of the group and may seem bossy– but they really just want to make things easier for everyone. They have good intentions for the group. (Similar to ESFJs) But if they aren’t the leaders, they’re usually the ones helping the leaders. After all, they have the potential. They just have to use their powers (functions) right. 

Well, fellow ENTJs, what can you say? :) Do you guys relate? Or do these statements fit the ENTJs you know?

Credits to: @ayyyycaramba & @mr-entj – Thank you so much for giving me more information about ENTJs~ I feel much more confident about this post after adding your insights :) I’ve also started appreciating ENTJs more~

[aromaticcedarwood]

This is literally a hundred percent accurate. You’ve somehow peered deep into all ENTJ’s souls; that, or you know them extremely well and are very observant. Congratulations, I’m super impressed!

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

This is an awesome and accurate description of your typical ENTJ. It completely cuts the bullshit that we’re “evil” or something and does a thorough job of unpacking our actions,traits, and values.

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

Are you still taking ENTJ mods? I came across this Tumblr and it's so cool! And I would like to help in anyway I can.

Hey! Thank you! I’ve been very inactive lately so I’m sorry if this reply is very late. I am not able to be as active as before but I am open to the idea of adding on another mod. If you’d like to dm me I’d love to discuss it!

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

views on female intps ?

Hey sorry for the late response. If you are referring to my personal opinions on them of course it varies. But generally, I get along really well with them. They have enough similarities and yet enough differences with me so that it works out really nicely. In fact, it is often INTPs who are able to fulfill my need for deep conversation. A good amount of my close friends are INTPs or INFPs for such reasons.

However, being such a planner myself can make being with INTPs extremely frustrating. They can often be indecisive, and sometimes can be procrastinators. So trying to set up something with them can be pure hell, as can having to always be the decisive one. Additionally, their introverted nature can make it difficult to get to them. So overall, a mixed bag. They’re good conversationalists and definitely intellectual equals but some of their differences can be frustrating.

-Mod Lindsey

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

Cognitive function anon here - funny enough, I am an ENTJ, though I wouldn't make a good mod due to my low posting frequency. All the best for your blog

How often could you post? Once or twice a week is all I’m looking for. Let me know if your interested! And thank you!

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ENTJ Quotes #2

“I need input... well, actually I don’t NEED input, but I’d like it.”

“Its not that I don’t want “love”... I’m just bad at it.”

“I want your honest opinion, not your nice opinion.”

“Sorry, but honestly I really don’t care.”

“Being an ENTJ isn’t about power... its about empowerment.” 

“Put your feelings aside for a minute, and tell what you really think.”

“How can I improve?”

“Hating you takes too much energy. Ain’t nobody got time for that.”

“You don’t need someone else to make you feel great. You are great. Stop waiting for other people to recognize it and just own that shit.”

“If you want me to respect you, you have to show me why I should.”

[entjs-are-misunderstood]

I don't see much about cognitive functions here. Do you have any knowledge about them, or are you only familiar with MBTI letters?

Not really. I’m definitely an amateur here.  I’m learning more and more as I go. I just saw that there was a severe lack of ENTJ blogs so I decided to make one, but I don’t have any formal education or anything. I do know somewhat about them though so I could potentially make posts about it in the future. I am looking to add a new mod who does though, if you know anyone.