i remember i made a post that said if you’re a toxic person, keep to yourself, focus on you, and don’t enter into a relationship until you’re ready and you’ve dealt with what makes you toxic to other people
and i got so many messages of people up in arms. saying “how could you say that?” and “everyone deserves love!” and “you don’t have to be perfect to deserve love!”
and all i could think is that they completely missed the point. because no one was even talking about who does and doesn’t deserve love
but you know what someone doesn’t deserve? no one deserves to open their heart to a person who is so toxic that it will destroy their lives. that’s what no one deserves. i don’t believe in this entitlement to relationships.
i feel like when a person opens themselves up to me, and allows me to love them while also loving me, is a privilege. it is an honor to love and be loved. if you can’t be in a healthy relationship, then don’t be in a relationship. don’t make someone else suffer because you haven’t taken the time to deal with your demons.
if you have issues with anger, jealousy, inadequacy, abusive tendencies, etc. deal with that. focus on you. take time to sort yourself out. don’t drag a person into your toxicity because you’re afraid to be alone, disregarding how you’re ruining someones life.
