Hi there, Rubi here! Fandom Central, for the most part, aside from two specific sideblogs: @dragoon-mid-jump (Square Enix, mostly FFXIV) and @yae-mikos-toebeans (Genshin)
it being easier to pass for trans men but acknowledging that "women in general" are held to specific standards is totally ignoring that trans men are perceived as "women in general" and I know plenty of trans men who are visibly trans enough to be taken as women trying to break gender in a way that invites hate crimes
People saying that just don't see non-passing trans mascs as actually trans (men), so it's easy for them to disregard anybody who doesn't "pass" to as unimportant.
I mean... T gives you muscles, right? So surely you can just take t and pass no problem. Oh, it doesn't work that way? Well then maybe you're not dedicated enough.
Any time they see a non-passing trans person, the height of their acceptance is maybe using the correct pronoun with an added comment of 'by the way! You're disgusting' like, thanks, mate. You too
In reality it's no easier to pass as a man than to pass successfully as a women. And let's not even brush the topic of neutrality, because most people can't even begin to grasp that one, apparently.
My highest of heights is that sometimes a cashier thinks I'm a 13yo boy. And I'm not even a boy either way, but you go ahead explaining to Harriet 57 that there are genders beyond man and woman too and if she really needs to, asking takes like 5 seconds
That one time a lady at the gas station gasped after learning "Im actually female!" And "oh god I'm sorry do you have cancer?" (My head is shaved) And— no. Just give me my cigarettes please?
Yes it did. I just let it slide because I was taught that I'm "too sensitive" anytime something bothered me. But now I'm finally standing up for myself.
"You never struggled with this when you were a kid."
Yes I did. I just burned myself out in order to do it so I wouldn't be punished. But now I'm accepting myself enough to not force myself to do what I was never meant to do.
"You didn't have these problems when you were younger."
Yes, I did. I just spent my child/teen years with structured institutions like school while not having to worry about whether I had a roof over my head or food to eat and spent my early adult years using up every bit of adrenaline I will ever have to ignore the fact that I've been chronically burnt out my whole life.
you have to consciously unlearn racism and continue to watch for it because it will come out without realizing. because so much of society is structured around it. shrugging and going "i dont care" or "i dont know how else to say it" means you are okay with being racist and hurting other people with how much you dont give a shit about them.
everyone loves to hate terfs until they realise that it actually entails rejecting bioessentialism entirely and then suddenly you’re “taking things too seriously” and you “don’t have a sense of humour” like i’m sorry but saying protect the dolls doesn’t make you immune to terfism it has seeped into every corner of mainstream feminism and unless you’re actively searching it out and checking your own biases you will always be at risk of sharing a space with terfs
“Only women can—” nope. “But all men—” nah. “The divine femininity of—” gonna stop you right there. “Everyone born ama—” if you finish that sentence I’ll kill you. “Men don’t experience—” you’re wrong. “Gender isn’t real but sex is imm—” *loud incorrect buzzer*
It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.
Id like to point out how before trans people became part of the popular discourse, feminism was kinda devoutly AGAINST bioessentialism. One of the big things people were pushing for is that women are just as capable as men, that there wasn't some fundamental difference between sexes that made a meaningful difference in what someone was capable of.
Now that trans people are part of the discourse, a lot of people have fallen back onto bioessentialism as the easiest justification for transphobia. This rhetoric isnt just harmful for trans people, its regressive for feminism as a whole. Nobody wins in a bioessentialist world aside from the people trying to uphold the patriarchy
So this is a callout post. If you want to stop reading there that's cool, but I cannot let a raging misogynist, biphobe, transphobe, lesbophobe person parading as an upstanding queer artist keep getting platformed when he's said some heinous things, behaved terribly and begs for likes as if life is a popularity contest. Block me if you disagree but I'm writing this here as Tumblr is less ephemeral than other channels. Part of this post was originally posted here as a reply.
fragments/nights-at-crystarium/Jay have been posting misogynistic, biphobic, transphobic, lesbophobic, entitled comments and then claiming people are homophobic when they criticise him back. Please rethink if you want to keep supporting him.
A/N: warning this is a LONG POST and I have truncated it under the break. I have also added the most recent misogynistic rant at the top just below the biphobia.
Context: an anon send him a message about how Emet can only be gay, Japanese people don't understand queercoding and that people who ship femme character with him are delusional.
See here for why his Emet-Selch comment was biphobic at worst and misguided at best. (thank you @birues for bringing this to everyone's attention)
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Misogyny and Trans-exclusionary language
Jay HATES the idea that women want to share this space too. In addition to the Tumblr post above he posted this to his Patreon discord, which is not private as his patrons can access it. He laments that people make fem characters because it's default and he wishes they all would transition to men. He also jumps in to insult two artists with m/f Emet ships @nipuni and @ja-ck-du and calling their art hetslop:
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(continued with more of his terrible behaviour after the break)
Pattern of rancid behaviour over the years
Let's start with the laundry list of all the bad behaviour he's expressed through the YEARS. You can read this better on my reddit comment here which I posted in reply to a shill thread made by what most people agree as Jay's sockpuppet account on the ffxiv subreddit. All of these I had the displeasure of witnessing myself or have been corroborated by multiple people:
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Self-aggrandising behaviour
Here is Jay claiming that there aren't many queer creators in xiv which is INSANE because this is the queerest fandom I have ever seen. You can't sneeze without hitting a queer artist. He also calls himself a pillar of the community, which is HILARIOUS because I have never seen him uplift other creators. You can't be a pillar of the community if you don't engage with the community. Your sycophants don't count.
How can you victimise yourself to such a degree?
He also claimed that if he was a lesbian, all of these callout of his rancid behaviour won't happen, which is laughable because you ask any lesbian in this space what being femme entails, they'd tell you straight up that they have experienced misogyny, no less from people like you Jay.
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Entitlement
Jay being ungrateful that ONLY 25 people have shared his post, and then saying you deserve to not be helped when you need it unless you share his post because he's a poor comic artist earning $1.2k from patreon every month. Because not sharing a post from a popular artist is obviously equivalent to not helping someone in dire straits. If you have been around, you'd know that times are hard, especially when you're queer. He's wishing you ill for the offence of not pressing that repost button.
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Being ungrateful with a sprinkling of misogyny
Jay straight up insulting anon's wife because how dare she reads his comic when she hasn't played ShB because her mind would not comprehend the complexity of his plot. And this is AFTER he begs for followers, as he does with every single one of his goddamn post.
So which is it, are you going to appreciate people who read your comic or are you going to put up so many qualifiers you only deem them worthy of following you when they've ticked all of them?
Hey Jay, maybe you should connect to your readers in a genuine manner and not in bad faith where all you want is for them to stroke your ego whilst giving a facade of appreciation.
And maybe, just maybe, you should start uplifting your fellow queer creators before demanding everyone support you.
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If you've read this far, thank you. I hope if you have ever supported him in the past that you rethink if you want to still support him after this. I do not care how big his following is; I do care that mask off misogyny is being let loose in our space. It doesn't matter if you're queer or a woman, we should not sweep this under the rug especially during Pride Month.
throwback to when on new years day he misappropriated the "merry yaoimas and a happy new yuri" and said "happy new yaoi" and tried to tell him not to overwrite lesbianism day
TL;DR: in his livetweet of ARR, Jay dismissed the Ala Mhigans in Little Ala Mhigo as "politically angry men" and I argued that while it can certainly be rooted in racism, his "personal dislike" of them stemmed more from his unwillingness to engage with things that do not affect/involve him directly (who cares about a bunch of refugees when you're preventing primal summonings, amirite?), and that sort of attitude carries into everything else in his life including his (lack of) engagement with other queer communities that are not exclusively gay.
Jay very clearly wants to live in his bubble where he only wants to engage with things that matter to him, as exemplified by the "literally just having fun in my own corner" comment. He feels "invaded" when he's politely asked to take other people into account even when it takes nothing away from his ability to enjoy and make gay fancontent. He doesn't want to acknowledge happy new yuri. He doesn't want to consider queer M/F ships. He says gay ships used to be the default. He doesn't want to have anything to do with anything that's not male homosexuality, and that includes having the barest modicum of decency and respect for other queer identities. You can play with headcanons and make fancontent however you like, but when you're on the internet and making yourself publicly available as a content creator, you no longer function in an exclusively gay little bubble. You do not get to demand other people engage with you and get upset when they call you out for being exclusionary, but unfortunately he seems a little too self-absorbed to really understand that.
In conclusion:
Making exclusively gay fancontent because you're gay and that's what you want to see and how you want to play with your fave NPCs? ✅
Getting mad that other people do not headcanon your fave NPCs as gay and calling them homophobic for doing so while refusing to engage with or be mindful of other queer identities? ❌
I want to add some stuff to the aboves as well- because as much as he's against "waffles" in his "pancake" house, he do have lesbian representation in his art and comic- because the waffles are all tasty and welcomed in the pancake place when they can grab attention from other people and eventually turn into profit, aren't they?
"Why do you never see ME with my yaoi agenda under people's yuri posts"- not under post but you DID shove your yaoi agenda to replace the lesbian's day. And I cannot stress this enough but I'm all in for the gay agenda and celebration of it- same goes for lesbian, ace, trans and any other in the LGBT+ family. But not seeing how you actively overshadow anything else than your personal stuff by rude and offensive comments and playing a victim when met with any slightest criticism only makes you an asshole not really welcomed in the community.
And you know, it's a normal thing to not realize how rude or hurtful something you said may land as- but it's also a very human and common sense thing to listen to those you've hurt and apologize/make amends. But what Jay does instead?
He never shows any remorse nor apologize- instead attacking and ridiculing the ones who point out stuff to him. That and twisting every criticism into a "homophobic attack" and harassment of an marginalized person. Playing a victim card with one hand- while holding a credit card scanner with the other, as he begs followers to drop some $ since now he needs them more than ever.
Another thing, important to me as well as a person on Autism Spectrum- he tends to use weaponized Autism as a shield against criticism of his words and actions. He uses it to excuse how rude and self-centered he is, pulling those hurtful stereotypes as if people on spectrum needed more of such stigma. He also said that he's "too autistic" for adding alt text when posting images and his comic, when someone politely asked him about it. All you need to do is copy-paste stuff from your comic or add like at least one line of text that will help people who needs that; surely it's not too much to ask for from a comic author and well versed at yapping on social media about things you create about? Some things ARE big struggles to us autistic folks but you cannot use it as excuse for being an asshole.
I usually only want to spread awareness of things like this. I don't like witch hunts. However, fragments/nights-at-crystarium/Jay is causing a lot of harm with bi-phobic/transphobic/misogynistic and racist remarks. And with every new thing I see it keeps getting worse and worse. I just can't let this stand.
This is not a homophobic hate campaign, contrary to what he claims. This is a call for accountability. I would have called out anyone for being biphobic, transphobic, misogynistic and racist.
It just happens to be that a lot of cis gay men are biphobic and they come out in droves during Pride Month to spew their drivel.
Having your own headcanons for characters is totally fine. Everyone has them. Dismissing other people's sexualities and gender identities because they don't align with your views and being hateful towards them is a completely different thing.
Claiming that there are so few queer creators in FFXIV is absolutely ridiculous. Ever since I started playing during ARR's release FFXIV has had a lot of queer creators. Jay doesn't consider them, however, because they're not cis gay men like him. He's so self-absorbed that he claims to be a pillar of the community.
Sorry, but if you dismiss more than half of the FFXIV community and don't uplift anyone but yourself, then you're no pillar of the community at all. Especially if you refuse to engage with anyone if they don't support you.
All he does is shill his own comic. Begging for kudos and money and clicks and reblogs. He doesn't support anyone else if they're not cis gay men.
He only talks about celebrating everyone under the queer umbrella when it suits him.
That he has the nerve to diss on awesome FFXIV fanartists like Nipuni and calls her art hetslop is outrageous.
Jay invalidates everyone who isn't a cis gay man. He invalidates women who play femWoLs and there are a lot of them. Where he gets the idea that it's mostly other men who play femWoLs is beyond me. A lot of women also play male WoLs, btw. I'm one of them.
It's seriously pissing me off how much he hates bisexuals and women. Especially if they ship their characters with his favourite characters who are gay in his eyes.
If he wants to have fun in his corner, in his bubble, fine. But he shouldn't claim to be a pillar of the community, and shill his comic to everyone then. Once he created his comic and became a content creator he no longer had the option to stay in his own bubble, especially since he keeps begging for money and reblogs and kudos.
The audacity of him to reject readers who have not played through Shadowbringers makes me want to laugh at him even more, knowing he has not even played through Shadowbringers himself.
Oh, and he also invalidates writers of fiction. Since he claims that because he makes comics his OC is more valid. excuse me. I've been writing since before he was born.
This wouldn't have blown up the way it did if he'd only done some self reflecting, been more aware of things outside of himself and had he simply apologized things would have been fine, but no. He keeps on doubling down and playing the victim.
Oh and Jay? Autism is no excuse for being a biphobic, misogynistic, transphobic, racist asshole.
I want to add another, important thing:
for all those who support him and want to continue so: please consider some real support and help and suggest to him seeking professional diagnosis and therapy as needed. As much as I'm not equipped to diagnose anyone, all of the traits he's shown through the years are book examples of narcissistic personality disorder.
Your "support" of telling him that he did nothing wrong and agreeing that nobody should criticise him is doing a lot of harm to him instead- you are just enabling all the bad traits and deepening the problem, assuring him that there's nothing wrong about the way he behaves, which makes him even more blind to the issues. Tell him to look into this. Because from the looks it's not, as he claims, autism which makes him this way- but NPD and those two sometimes gets mixed up and confused as those can share some traits.
Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Walking for three minutes, is better than nothing. Drinking a glass of water and eating a snack, is better than nothing. Wiping down the counter, is better than nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. You don’t have to achieve grand things if all you’re capable of right now is the smaller things. They are still achievements. Don’t do nothing just because you don’t think you’re capable of doing bigger things, just do something you’re capable of today. 
I do love that somebody tagged tumblr's own frog scientist on this post. chop chop dr scherz, we've got 62 more frogs to discover and you're the only frog scientist any of us knows
GUYS amphibian species of the world is still at 7,994 species of frog BUT amphibiaweb is at 8,008 species of frog, and do you know who is a co-author on the 8,000th species of frog there???? TUMBLR'S OWN FROG SCIENTIST DR SCHERZ
