Agender Android Among Humans

Gen X, lingusitics and star trek nerd

[datasoong47]

About me

Late Gen-X

Pronouns: They or she, either is fine

My name is Christy (or Chrissy if you're Australian), but nicknames based on my username are fine too

Autistic ADD Trekkie. I tend to identify strongly with Data (hence the username) and Spock, both individuals who show definite compassion and love towards their crewmates, despite not showing emotions in a "normal" way. Outsiders who are nevertheless included in their respective crews

I'm an amateur photographer. Tag #mypics are pictures I took, mostly birds and landscapes and stuff. I think a lot of them came out pretty good

HRT since Jan 10, 2024

[mylordshesacactus]

For all that the 1800s etiquette guides are--obviously--derangedly sexist from a modern perspective? They're also mindblowing in how casually they will assert things that MODERN DAY CONSERVATIVES would scream and cry and shit their pants about.

"People back then always married young it's natural!!!" Every single 1800s guide I've ever met casually mentions that, of course, you really shouldn't get married before you're at least 20, and waiting until 25 is usually better.

Or, like. Okay here's a long segment:

Just firmly going "it is crazy sexist to blame The Wife for overspending when thirty seconds of asking questions will immediately establish that her husband was outright lying to her about how much money they had. Talk to your wife like a normal person."

Or--okay, here. A section on being honest and not writing love letters in secret, because that's usually a good sign that there's something untoward going on....

....except that he then immediately acknowledges that sometimes, the reason you're hiding this from your parents is that your parents suck. That there are parents who frankly have not earned the right to approve or disapprove of your partner.

(I realize the phrasing there sounds a lot less strong than my summary, but--trust me on this. When you're familiar with the narrative voice of these kinds of books, this passage is downright radical. The mere acknowledgement that if you treat your kids badly, it's your own damn fault when they don't talk to you? I've genuinely never seen that before in this genre. Don't freak out over "properly trained", either. It's just a linguistic shift--at the time, "training" was used the way we would say "raising" a child today. )

[mylordshesacactus]

"Delete all the nudes and sexts after a breakup or you're a piece of shit" has been the standard expectation since EIGHT. TEEN. EIGHTY. FIVE.

[mylordshesacactus]

"Men and women being friends with each other is literally normal. Don't be a controlling freak."

Anyway I was wrong the publishing date is actually 1882 so like.

[mylordshesacactus]

"If you have to abuse a child to keep order in your classroom then you're a bad teacher."

So like @ the modern Republican party, are the "traditional family values" in the fucking room with us right now--

[zinderant]

OP gives the source for the book in the comments:

Hill's manual of social and business forms : a guide to correct writing with approved methods in speaking and acting in the various relation

581 p. : 28 cm

[galileosballs]

Also, please do not listen to how people talk about cover letters on this site. Cover letters are important, and in many industries you can be damn sure they'll be read. And no, they're not 'fanfic about working in your office', or just re-stating the resume contents in a fancier guise. If you treat them like that, then of course they're not doing much for you. That makes you sound like a syncophantic windbag, and it's not doing anything else to help.

I was trained in the dark arts of the cover letter by my mother, who is a hiring manager. And her training has paid off: I've been consistently told my cover letters are excellent. Let me pass on the wisdom.

The job of a cover letter is to give a prospective employer strictly more information than is on the resume. This is where you take the resume contents and put them into context. You look at the job requirements (you are looking at the job requirements before applying, right?) and look at your resume and ask the question (in your head) "why would a person think this candidate would be good for this job?" and your cover letter is the answer to that question. If you don't answer that question, the hiring manager is going to have to do it themselves, and you have way more information to work with than they do.

This is especially important if you're moving from one industry to another, because then the relevant connections aren't obvious. It's also very important if you're overqualified, because then you can use the letter to say "I know it looks like this job would be too entry-level for me, but I'm interested to pursue it for reasons x, y, and z". You can also use this space to explain away something that might otherwise be disqualifying, like job-hopping or a long break in employment. The tone to strike here is always matter-of-fact and constrained to topic - don't go into detail about health stuff or personal tragedy, just tell them what they need to hear: that this period of your resume was affected by [bad thing] but that it's now in the past and you're looking forward to the next chapter. Remember, one of the things they're trying to learn is whether you'd be content in this role, or whether you'd be miserable and leave after 2 months, which would force them to do all the work of hiring again. You're trying to establish that you will fit right in and not cause problems. Knowing what drew you to this job in particular (and don't just say 'money', that's true for everyone) helps with that.

And the other mistake? Everyone writes cover letters that are too long. One page is fine. Two is the absolute maximum, and that's if you have a lot of specific things to say. It's a waste of your time and theirs to pad it out with fluff. Of my two most recent successful cover letters (i.e. jobs for which I was interviewed) one was 390 words and the other was 550. That's the length of this post. How long did it take me to write this post? About 15 minutes to write, 5 to proof and edit. That's how long you should be spending on a cover letter, maximum.

[ehyde]

Someone who knows more astronomy than me should write a fic about Irina Petrova just trying to finish her nebula research thank you very much but she cannot attend a single conference without getting the "Petrova, huh? Just like--" treatment

[kayosdoggo]

Oh no, not the Tony Hawk treatment, that's gonna accompany her for the rest of her life

[datasoong47]

@s-h-a-s-e @the-black-dragons-den

[sanguine-humor]

phm is decently popular in japan and i mostly see this when i check twitter and see accounts posting pictures of handmade rocky plushies that are so fucking round looking it brings a tear to my eye

[sanguine-humor]

he keeps me sane

[sanguine-humor]

btw, idk if this will be seen by any of the countless people who already have seen and reblogged this post, but heres the original guide posted on how to make the chibi-rocky! the OP also has a separate guide for a more accurate rocky, though obviously less simple of a guide than the little thingy shown off

(im surprised this post gained any attention, haha, if i had known i would have just shared the guides, the more handmade pebbles in the world the better)

[katebeckets]

"it's a tv show" "it's not real" i don't care. NO SHOES ON THE BED

[katebeckets]

okay if this breaks containment I think my asian grandparents would be proud of this post being my legacy. but for their sake i must clarify my personal stance. NO SHOES IN THE HOUSE AT ALL

[apeiron69]

God me and some friends are talking abt being dense af rn and i just remembered this one time i was shopping w my dad and i wanted to get rainbow shoelaces at the dr martins shop. And there was this punk girl, dyed hair face piercings rlly cute, behind the counter and like prince charming putting the shoe on cinderellas foot she offered to lace my gay shoelaces into my dr martins and i let her. “Wow what good customer service!”. And then in the car my DAD had to tell me that she was flirting with me a major L to gay people over the world

[apeiron69]

She was on her knees for me and everything and i noticed NOTHING im still so embarrassed good god

[apeiron69]

This world is so cruel

[apeiron69]

Why would you curse me like this 😭😭😭

[jawlipops]

do people just not find those AI pop-ups everywhere not incredibly patronizing: "help me write" "help me visualize" help me put my balls in your mouth

[fiyeli]

Girls in swamp

insta: _fiyeli

[cristalplanetheart]

😳

[savethewailes]

Let! That! Baby! Eat!!!!!!

[adelphicoracle]

Perfect tags

[i-cant-carry-it-for-you]

[transfemininomenon]

absolutely LOST in the sauce

[captaindrewboy]

I hate when I tell people I'm into Comp Sci and programming and they go "ooh there's a lot of money there". I'm not DOING it for the MONEY I'm DOING it because I want to FUCK the COMPUTER!!!!

[hazard-symbols-that-fuck-hard]

[mousegirlheart]

release me you bastard i am not a yummy gyoza dumpling

[datasoong47]

WTF, Tumblr?

[glitterskeletor]

Saw He-Man and Skeletor chronicles figures on sale and got them now I'm waiting for them to arrive so I can pose and draw them

[glitterskeletor]

Yayyy yippieeee

[spaghettihell]

Reblog to hug prev

Please

[datasoong47]

We also went kayaking today on this reservoir called Dillon Reservoir in Frisco, CO. The water level was really low :-(

A boat dock, currently on dry land

But once out on the water, it was gorgeous!

The water was pretty calm out there. It was very tiring kayaking though! I don't have enough upper-body strength to do that easily! Still, it was a lot of fun!

[the-black-dragons-den]

What you see is not the dark - it's just the gods upturning inkpots 'cause they know what you'll become.