Is At Sea

|29|Black|Canadian|Woman| A personal blog that is a random collection of things I find interesting. 💖💜💙

[wholeheartedsuggestions]

it’s okay to mourn lives you will never get to live even if you’re grateful for the life you are living now

[thehotelchelsea]

my wound salt that I keep beside my bed

[thepoisonroom]

she asks me what dr pepper tastes like and i say not everything tastes like something else

[furryprovocateur]

i think ultimately you do really have to kill that part of your brain that vividly imagines how you would redo parts of your life.

[girls4losers]

i gotta remember this

[larkandkatydid]

One thing I’ve become a real extremist about is little girl’s clothing and hair styles because if your kid can’t get her hair wet, hang upside down, climb over a fence or run full out in the outfit/hair she is currently wearing then why not? And the answer better be both extremely fucking good and describe something temporary.

[poodletrain]

Hope you don't mind a story that also made me extremist about this issue.

Took my friends daughter (2.5yrs) to the park. Dressed her in practical clothing that's ok to get stained, brought an extra change of clothing. She sat in the mud at the water bank and played with rocks and mud. A little girl came over, couldn't be more than 3yrs. She was looking longingly at my friend's daughter. She has her hair in a perfect style and she's wearing a pretty dress with white socks and dressy shoes. The parents say "Sweetie don't go into the mud, you'll get your dress dirty" and pull her away, while giving me a judgmental look as they see the kid in my charge covered in mud and throwing rocks into the water. It felt really weird, like we saw eachother as aliens with completely different ideas on how to raise children. When my friends daughter was done playing, changed her into clean clothing and went back home. She had a lot of fun at the park and a day full of nature and play. The other little girl kept her dress clean.

[blackmosscupcakes]

When my daughter was getting close to school age, I remember walking past her future school with my mum and noting that all the little boys were wearing the uniform trousers and all the little girls were wearing skirts. And I mentioned that I hoped the uniform policy allowed for girls to wear trousers. My mum asked why, and I outlined several reasons, including "because kids fall over when they're running and playing, and skinned knees are more likely if she's only allowed to wear skirts."

And my mum said "well, maybe in that case she'd learn to be more careful."

Aaaaand I think my resulting reaction of horror at the idea of forcing 50% of children to play more carefully due to clothing requirements made her realise exactly what she'd just said.

(The uniform policy does indeed allow her to wear trousers. She's now 10 and still prefers them)

[the-haiku-bot]

And my mum said “well,

maybe in that case she’d learn

to be more careful.”

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[beardedmrbean]

[changan-moon]

How to see whether a Chinese handmade teapot is well done or not - quality of the spout is an important standard. 

cr: 承启 建水紫陶

[amemait]

that last teapot is like witnessing an eternal and important truth

[ms-demeanor]

I just watched this with the sound on and i really recommend it because the utter silence of the last teapot is both perfectly predictable and totally remarkable.

[aquilacalvitium]

I think about this video every time I use a teapot

[the-haiku-bot]

I think about this

video every time

I use a teapot

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[autophage]

You make soup in a big bowl. You serve it in a smaller bowl. And then you convey it, using a spoon, to your mouth. But what is the spoon? Simply a smaller bowl still

[bibaleen]

[technofinch]

The real world is crazy most of the people I work with don't even know what an oubliette is

[valtsv]

i have a lot of affection for ghosts because they basically want one of two things: attention, or for you to leave their house as soon as possible. both relatable and respectable goals. and they're already dead so what are you going to do about it.

[mandycore420]

jigsaw tape that starts with a land acknowledgement

[shitpostingkats]

The strange relationship Wei Wuxian has with Mo Xuanyu absolutely kills me. Wakes up in a confusing place and the very first thing he does is go through every scrap of paper he can find and learn the story of the man who gave up his body for him. Puts everything on pause so he can mentally curse out the people who did this to him. The instant sympathy. It's about the human connection and the grief felt for the very person whose death is the very reason he has a second chance. Never forget that the reason Wei Wuxian snapped back to Jin Ling was because he felt he had to defend Mo Xuanyu's honor. It's never an angst Wei Wuxian feels, but instead a reaching across to the afterlife he just came from and saying "I see you. If no one else in your shitty life ever spoke up for you, then I will." The series doesn't spend too much time lingering on it because we have places to go and people to see, but the fact that before he did any of that, the first thing Wei Wuxian wanted to do was wash their face and simply acknowledge the life of a man who died too young.

[grootficguy]

it must feel good as hell when you’re a horse and you take a big bite out of an apple like ttshoke

[rubensmuse]

your command over onomatopoeia is unmatched bestie

[bahari-official]

blood work? i sure hope it does

[wowwforever]

I hate that ‘bad dream’ just means ‘nightmare’ instead of ‘shitty quality dream.’ I had a bad dream last night. It wasn’t scary it just didn’t make a lot of narrative sense

[hunybody]

please read this substack about pantone choosing cloud dancer for color of the year 2026

[three--rings]

No really, you should read it.

[fakelawyerbug]

"It is the color of bad news delivered with bureaucratic indifference"

And;

"The color of a person's thoughts while ignoring war"

And;

"The color of the humming sound that an overhead flourescent light makes in a disillusioning job"

And;

"It is, however, the color of the discussions on the subject, as well as the color of the awareness of the context from which those discussions inevitably spring"

And;

"It is the color of a corporate apology"

And;

"When the decision was revealed, I knew I would never own a house."

[the-haiku-bot]

“When the decision

was revealed, I knew I would

never own a house.”

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.