[intopermanence]

“Eros is an issue of boundaries. He exists because certain boundaries do. In the interval between reach and grasp, between glance and counterglance, between ‘I love you’ and ‘I love you too,’ the absent presence of desire comes alive. But the boundaries of time and glance and I love you are only aftershocks of the main, inevitable boundary that creates Eros: the boundary of flesh and self between you and me. And it is only, suddenly, at the moment when I would dissolve that boundary, I realize I never can.”

— Anne Carson, from Eros the Bittersweet: “Finding the Edge”

[lazz]

part of getting to know someone, once you’re already drawn to them and a relationship is under way, is becoming familiar with the phenomenological range inside yourself that is created by the relation 

like how does one feeling vacillate to the next, how does one impression about who someone is/who you are contrast from moment to moment

and how elastic is that impression, how much does it range

you’re moving around inside a space shaped like that person

intimacy with another is the animate record of those travels

such that knowing another person isn’t just abt them, or just about you, it’s like a person is a coordinate inside a much-larger circle and that circle contains all the different ways the person impresses upon you

lousy, gleaming, unimpressive, larger than life, weak, strong, etc. all in constant flux

maybe a ‘healthy’ relationship is defined by a person’s shape whose area you can withstand 

[romanceangel]

LOUISE BOURGEOIS 1999

[rifles]

top & gloves: Balenciaga AW99 -  P.U.R.E Magazine no.2

[antigonick]

—pardon the intrusion: but when in september will you be back? i would like to measure my breath in relation to the air between us.

John Cage, in a Letter to Merce Cunningham [postmarked July 22, 1944, New York], in John Cage’s Selected Letters (via antigonick)

[365filmsbyauroranocte]

L'amour à la mer (Guy Gilles, 1964)

[archivings]

Helmut Lang Spring/Summer 1990

[eternalandsilent]

It's so like me to breathe you To be lost to desire Your image comes to me like terrains of fire

[mariah-do-not-care-y]

Six No. 6 1990 photographer Brian Griffin

[mariah-do-not-care-y]

Six No. 6 1990 photographer Peter Lindbergh

[rickowensonline-deactivated2025]

NY TIMES 2002

[eternalandsilent]

[jinxproof]

[jinxproof]

Jaime King | Hussein Chalayan F/W 1997 ph. Albert Watson

[savagedefectives]

deleuze (from Proust and Signs)

[eternalandsilent]

Well I'm still a junkie for it  It takes me out of my aloneness But this relationship cannot sustain itself  Intimacy is when we're in the same place at the same time Dealing honestly with how we feel, and who we really are  That's what grown-ups do That is mature thinking  I just have to know how to be in the process Of creating things in a better way And it hurts but it's a lie that I can't handle it I still have a world of me-ness to fulfill I still have a life, and it's a rich one even with mourning Even with grief and sadness

[365filmsbyauroranocte]

La femme de l'aviateur (Éric Rohmer, 1981)

[a-state-of-bliss]

Kate Moss @ Prada Fall/Wint 1994