sydney is my sweet girl

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[ethxocore]

jesus christ. spoilers below

i have a lot of thoughts. i’m sad and incredibly dissatisfied and disappointed. the writing? gone. the characters and dynamics? obliterated. nothing was joyful. save for a few moments this season felt like a new team came in and was debriefed every twenty hours on where they were and what they were doing and even that wasn’t enough. sydney’s cut screen time was heartbreaking. carmys flush of a character this season destroyed me, richie going back and forth between the worst, funniest, and the most ridiculous and pathetic. claire storyline becoming the worst addition to the series as a whole.

the faks? i’m sorry but they’re not important enough to have this much screen time. maybe everyone saying “the bear isn’t a comedy” got to chris’ head but they weren’t even that funny to warrant how much screen time they got. the cameos were bad. john cena did not fit. josh harrnet took forever to finish the scene. tiffs character this season felt like a mirror of what she was. donna was just too much and maybe that was the point but “you have ur dads ass” made me close my laptop for a very long time.

the pacing was awful. the first episode was the only one that actually felt apart of the bear. the rest felt like some white lady on the team got a hold of the camera and teleprompter and told sydney to fuck off. she said she wasn’t his babysitter then proceeds to babysit him and richie for four episodes? sydney not telling carmy she got poached just doesn’t make any sense. it does but it doesn’t. carmy not asking her immediately if something’s wrong doesn’t make any more sense. he was not himself this season and the push for claire was proof of that. they never talked about their partnership agreement once? she never even opened it? what the shit.

why didn’t they talk to each other? maybe this season was about avoidance but the whole point of syd and carmys relationship was that they were different with and for each other. like that was the whole point. sydney changed him. for the better. so he pushed her.

someone on twitter said chris once said he’s not good at writing plot and yknow what yea buddy it fucking shows. it feels like we got a lot of nothing. the hype for the funeral for it to be nothing. the hype for the review for it to be nothing. the hype for the fucking baby for it to be nothing. they hype for tina stepping up for it to be nothing. where did my cast go? where my family? why do i care about claire?

i still believe in sydcarmy. i’ve been through the slow burn before. i don’t think syd/luca will happen because he comes off so homosexual to me but it was nice to see her smile for once this fucking season. carmy confronting his abuser was the last saving grace this season but chef terry being the one to find him after it lost me. it should’ve been syd. it made no sense for her to take the ever chefs to her house? that felt like an ayo move, syd doesn’t know these people!! she’s very recluse! she likes her own space she doesn’t have people over! sydney should’ve found carmy outside and told him about her poaching and they should’ve read the review together as fucking partners but not because i want sydcarmy but because it would’ve made fucking sense dude. storer put me in coach.

[freedelusionshere]

Carmy is not leaving.

The last episode was how they changed his mind and sums up the journeys of each character throughout the season.

Syd, Richie, and Nat, all brought up Carmy's patterns and some of their own.

Richie accused him of running away, but now Richie and Carmy are being emotionally honest and Carmy admitted Richie is his brother.

Nat, like Lee did with Carmy earlier, didn't try to make him feel guilty or hold on too tightly. She is willing to let him go, to make up his own mind, instead of worrying and being afraid.

Syd tells Carmy she doesn't need him professionally, but he is her partner. The entire season, Carmy has been trying to be a better person because of Syd. It's because he loves her. Syd has been avoiding committing to Carmy (signing the partnership agreement) and now finally she has said she will. He was bailing because he thought if he wasn't there, she might not take Shapiro's offer and stay.

They still have all these arrangements to work out, anyway, and the time is about to run out on the clock. There isn't going to be an easy fix.

Carmy will realize that if he wants to keep growing, he will have to be around people better than he is, and he will have to treat them all as peers and family. Not use competition and the idea of bullshit stars as a measure of success and creativity.

His statement of how he doesn't know who he is outside of the restaurant. He never knew who he was inside of one, either! Claire is not going to help him work through his issues, all they do is talk in circles and focus on the past, this season made that evident.

The restaurant needs to stop working at this exacting pace and do what Syd and Carmy agreed to do in the alley in S1. There are already signs it's moving in that direction, anyway.

With that said, wouldn't be surprised in S5 starts 5 Years Later and people are in different places, but not because Carmy bailed, but because he stayed.

Carmy will fall in love with cooking again when he finally lets himself fall in love with Syd.

[havenalu]

I will advise Storer and his team to lock themselves in a room and watch season 1,2 and 3 of the bear because it’s like they have forgotten the plot in their own TV show.. so many holes and no consistency in the storyline

[devisrina]

Okay, so Sydney referring to Carmy as being the big brother of her metaphor while talking to TJ about her "two sleepovers" is romantic, even without TJ blatantly asking if she has a crush.

Because typically in sleepovers and friend hangouts with girl friend groups, you wouldn't be keen on noticing and talking about the big brother unless you're interested in them. Which is why TJ picked up on it immediately. It's very common for girls to have a crush on their friend's older brother, especially being able to have those alone moments like Carmy and Sydney do.

[eloiscbridgerton]

THE BEAR 4.08 – Green // 1.08 – Braciole

[mileenaxyz]

I've tried to avoid discussing Claire Bear the White Savior this season, but this scene made that unavoidable.

They gave that man a whole heart attack and traumatized an already emotionally and financially struggling Sydney...just so that the bitch we don't like could listen and call her "stunning". I repeat: they inflicted unnecessary trauma on a Black family so the white girl could score points with the audience.

Like, are you fucking kidding me???

Storer...Calo...we don't like Claire. We're never going to. In fact, we hate her now more than ever. We literally fast-forward through ALL her scenes. And is she even "Claire Bear" anymore now that Carmy has *loudly* declared Sydney "THE Bear"?

[rabidgoingons]

I have 2 episodes left of the Bear and I’m so disappointed with how it seems like things are going 😭 idk this show isn’t the same to me anymore, hope I change my mind 😢

[mileenaxyz]

😑😑😑😑

[mileenaxyz]

When Carmy tells Syd there are seven people willing to jump in front of a train for her, I was like...would they tho? Or are you really talking about you?

[l4verq]

how it feels being a sydcarmy stan in a world of claire x carmy propaganda

[ethxocore]

I will never die!!!

[emrambling]

I’m confused at Sydney’s reaction here, I don’t think I saw anyone talking about it.

But like… she didn’t have to be that awkward? I don’t think I ever saw her being this awkward with him 😭

And two episodes later, she'll be called out for having a crush on Carmy by a kid, btw.

[mayclairsupremacy-deactivated20]

finished the bear s4 and sydcarmy are soulmates, like there's no way they aren't soulmates no matter how much you deny it, they are!!!!!!

[freedelusionshere]

Were the Faks trying to con Pete into buying fine art NFTs at the wedding?

[blissmethone00s]

"The Bear" lost me with Claire. And it's not just drama"

I really tried to keep an open mind, to see what the writers were going for, but the insistence on inserting Claire into Carmy’s arc is frustrating. Not because she’s a bad person, but because her presence diminishes the story. Around her, Carmy doesn't grow, he shrinks. He stammers, shuts down, loses himself. It’s not endearing vulnerability; it’s disconnection.

And now? We're supposed to believe he’s stepping away from the restaurant because she told him he “needs peace”? No. Carmy doesn’t need peace. He needs fire, motion, pressure, the kitchen. He finds himself in the chaos. That’s where he breathes. That’s where he's alive.

And most of all, he finds clarity in Sydney. Their connection is deep, electric, and completely natural. It doesn’t have to be romantic to matter. It's about two artists who see each other, challenge each other, understand each other. With Claire, everything is awkward and forced. With Syd, everything just flows. He knows what to say to her. She knows how to ground him. That bond is the emotional core of the show, not some manufactured “healing” storyline through an old crush.

I don't want Carmy “fixed” by Claire. I want Carmy in the kitchen, sweating and spiraling and creating, next to the only person who really speaks his language: Sydney.

[opisaleo]

they're yaoi farming

[phedbeauty]

The Bear Season 4: Confusing But Good Acting

So... I'm confused. I feel like this season made no sense. I had a hard time following it. It was artistically and cinematically good, although they did recycle some scenes, but I just feel more confused because the storyline didn't flow or make sense (to me). You know. I would rather them take their time with these storylines rather than just throwing stuff out each year.

I loved the acting from the big 3 — Ayo, Jeremy, and Ebon — but the whole cast overall. Ayo and Lionel's episode 4 ate! I loved the fight scene between Syd and Carmy versus the one between Carmy and Claire. No hate, though. I'm just comparing. Their fight had more feeling or emotion behind it, rather just yelling. My opinion, of course.

I don't know. It would suck if they just ended the series like that, though, because if that's the case, they could have stopped at season 1. The further I watched this season, the more I wished they would have stopped at season 1 because it was perfect.

So Carmy is quitting and is going to find a way to repay the debt he owes Cicero. And then what? Travel the world with Claire? Become an artist? He was passionate about cooking, and now he's not.

My one word review of this season is: confused. I don't think any amount of rewatching can change that. I do have more critiques to share, but later.

Can't wait to read others' thoughts.

[djo]

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