The Evening Ramble

Rants from a 21 year old gay in WA

[eveningramblerouser]

so i've spent a few clubbing nights dressed up as a bit of a queen recently and the rumour of me being an egg has popped up a frightening lot like, i've done a bit of questioning before, very comfy with being a man. but there's a notable set of people who still think gender expression = gender identity.

if that's one of you uhhh yeah. no. think otherwise.

i love my dresses. i love my stubble. i love my manliness and how it comes out in different ways

[eveningramblerouser]

istg every conspiracy theory relies under that the false assumption that international institutions are actually effective in swaying global affairs

"the un is trying to implement a new world order" girl the un cant even get people to agree that poverty should be eradicated

[eveningramblerouser]

So the anorexia anxiety's coming back and goddamn I cannot believe these thoughts used to burden me so much. Nowadays it just feels like having to listen to an old aunt over Christmas lunch. "wow that foods quite fatty, isn't it?" yeah shut up janice

anyway not sure if thats much of a recovery but its something

[animentality]

[animentality]

Obsessed with AO3 writers, who are a particularly fascinating subspecies of homo sapien.

[eveningramblerouser]

me: wow, what a stimulating discussion about psychology, the theory behind all this is really interesting! I like learning about it all :)

my therapist, in desperation: are you going to apply this to your life?

me: lol of course not

my therapist: *tears up notes in anger*

[eveningramblerouser]

yeah being rejected by ur crush sucks but have you ever found a band or artist whose work your ears adore only to find that every critic and reviewer considers their music to be utter dogshit

[mochacoffee]

soon may the wellerman come, your brain gets smart but your head gets dumb

[mochacoffee]

the reviews are in

[eveningramblerouser]

"all gays flirt with other guys" actually just statistical error. Captain Jack Harkness, who flirts with every single living thing every single second, is an outlier adn should not have been countrd

[thecoolertails]

thanks that was really helpful

[thecoolertails]

now that this has broken containment i have some things to clarify:

1. this isn't a hypothetical scenario. i searched how to remove the complexity bar in spore, clicked on the first result, and was met with someone condescendingly describing how to use google (no actual answer present in the whole thread). "actually if this happened-" no but it did though. it did actually happen and i was compelled to immediately draw it (losing all desire to actually find out the information i was initially looking for)

2. "just use duckduckgo" i was using duckduckgo. i said it was goople.fart and added in the ads for comedic effect, and bc they might as well be the same bc the problems run deeper than the search engines themselves. duckduckgo isn't a superior search engine, its strength lies in that it doesn't track you the way that google does (and it's not overrun by advertisements)

3. "use marginalia search" have YOU ever used marginalia search??? it's not good for finding the answers to questions. in fact it is not good for finding anything specific at all. it's good for finding random websites when you're bored. it's like, a novelty search engine. i appreciate it's existence but really it's not very helpful in the day-to-day

4. "it's ok you can say reddit" INCORRECT. it was steamcommunity

5. for the record, someone saying "just google it" in a forum setting is different than someone saying "just google it" when you're asking them specifically, like in a social media or blogging context. it's still not particularly helpful, but strangers don't have an obligation to explain things to you (esp when in many cases they would just be the one going on an aggravating goople.fart journey in your stead). the difference with forums is that everyone saying "just google it" is going out of their way to leave unhelpful non-answers on a thread that they easily just could've ignored (plus, when someone makes a post on a forum asking for help, it's safe to assume that they've already been searching for an answer and couldn't come up with one. NOT the case for social media), with the unfortunate side effect that pages like that are the ones that come up when you search for that question

[myothertardisisonthemun]

Plus, maybe in the past googling would have been helpful. But now google is getting worse, and this old unhelpful answer is all that is left

[eveningramblerouser]

artists of tumblr one of my friends have a theory. is it true?

[animentality]

[animentality]

Obsessed with AO3 writers, who are a particularly fascinating subspecies of homo sapien.

[elledotexe-deactivated20260530]

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

FRIENDS IN AMERICA: DO NOT SIGN UP FOR ANY LGBTQIA+ STUDIES OR SURVEYS. chances are they’re fake/being monitored and your real/legal name will be recorded

[bonyassfish]

Um, no? This is an awful response.

Does this kind of thing happen? Yes, sadly. But to just say that ALL surveys/research about lgbtqia people is either a psyop or a moment of genuine ignorance.

Research matters. And marginalized groups are often underrepresented in research and studies. And this leads to serious problems.

Often, people on tumblr will make fun of studies that say stuff like “trans people are happier when they get access to gender affirming care” or “disabled adults would prefer to decide for themselves when they go to bed”. Sure, it might seem like water is wet type of stuff, but without official research to back up decisions, it’s harder to get policy changes and funding to go along with this stuff. The reason many insurance companies cover gender affirming care is because of the mountains of research to back it up

Is there a dark and horrible history of marginalized communities being exploited in academia and research? Of course. But this is true of medicine as well, and I don’t think any of us want to advocate to refuse to ever see a doctor

As a queer person myself in academia, with a lot of other queer friends in academia, a lot of research these days about queer people is being done by queer researchers. And we’re going to have more difficulties doing the research and work we want to be doing over the next four years, so we really don’t need any more hurdles

If you’re contacted to do research or a survey, just do some basic research. Look up the authors of the study, what institutions they are affiliated with, and what types of review process they went through. Conservatives and Christians can fake and lie a lot, but it’s hard to fake being affiliated with an actual university or research institute, because you can take contact said institute and confirm if the person is affiliated or not

Please, let’s not fall into anti-intellectual bullshit out of fear. It takes only a few minutes to verify that the researcher is legit, and chances are they might be queer themselves

[eveningramblerouser]

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8:30: Terms of reference for the next royal commission

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That's returning February! You can either watch it on telly or catch up on iView!

[eveningramblerouser]

i fucking warned you about shinigami eyes people!!! this is also why i've continually refused to make blocklist import/export tools. you ca

this post knows what im talkin about yeee

[eveningramblerouser]

On Shinigami Eyes

So, I've only just heard about the downfall of shinigami eyes because I have a crap internet connection, but controversially, I will just say

Thank God

If someone turns out to be a transphobic cunt, I want to find out through my own research and by talking to them. If they've said bad shit but turned over a new leaf, good for them, but that never came through with that fuckin' thing. Plus it gives more of an incentive to avoid people purely because of assumptions, rather than see if those assumptions are falsehoods (or even see if you can change their mind!)