There was this post where it said something along the lines of
What is it called when you miss someone but at the same time don't want them back in your life well battling with the thought of ending up together well refusing the option if it was proposed with out the imagination for someone else to accompany you
And many people called it cognitive dissonance
"Proposed by Leon Festinger in 1957, this theory suggests people are motivated to reduce this tension by changing behaviors, justifying actions, or ignoring conflicting information to restore harmony.
Key Aspects of Cognitive Dissonance
Definition: The distressing mental state arising from inconsistencies between beliefs and actions.
Causes: Occurs when new information challenges existing beliefs, or when individuals act against their personal values.
Signs: Feelings of guilt, regret, or psychological stress."
There was some that I understood. After taking time for my self and what it means to me. I was reminded of a person I knew
She was dating someone and things didnt play out but the person she was with haunted them. They were absolutely a ghost. Ghost from the past literally. At first it was strange, she was so hung up on the person and loved this person. She was all she knew and the first sign of love. And we are so impressionable even more when we are children. We all have our story and this is just my thoughts and experiences, my narrative you can say. This Ghost was lonely and slightly insecure sprinkled in doubt. Many people have been there myself as well. Only reaching out to the person I know when under substances. In a dark room but with lights music blasting air thin. This was their window their excuse. To Crack the door open to peep through for the affection, reassurance and maybe even intimacy. Ghost was quite selfish wanting her cup filled. The person was kind and overflowed love for others and not themselves. So when Ghost would call they would answer. The cycle never stopped. Person wanted to be together, so much. I dont know if it was to find a missing piece or if it was truly love, or even if it was to prove a point. When the person was straight up, blunt, and as forward as can be, can you guess how Ghost reacted? Excuses and reasons why they couldn't, always ending up hurting this person. They seem tough but to me their heart was fragile. So is Ghost really having this cognitive dissonance or is their narrative something else completely.
There was a podcast where they ask what is the worst thing someone said (maybe a video) that this guy randomly hit her up but she wasn't able to reply right away and this excuse of a man said after a couple drinks and relieving himself he said nevermind
We never know someones story there is something else through the looking glass or like a cute has different sides how every snowflake is different
If you made it this far I hope you had a something to take away and make your own. An answer, a feeling, a lesson, or anything.
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