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everythinginsolace

Reblogging again for personal reminder

paprika

love-personal

bepeu-deactivated20171202

i just need a hug(e amount of money)

chessys

i have some issues with my past self but she was young and i forgive her my real beef is with present me what is she doing im embarrassed to even look

jessiiboo

If there's no reassurance I'll assume you don't care

motherbychoice

I hate when people say kids are not an inconvenience. As a mother of three kids who has missed a movie she paid for and half a fireworks show she desperately wanted to watch in two days’ time because of my youngest child, I am here to tell you that yes, kids are horribly inconvenient and they will ruin, maybe not everything, but a LOT of things.

So if you’re not prepared to make huge sacrifices (like giving up hopes and dreams) and small sacrifices (like missing a movie) do not have kids. Because kids will screw shit up. All the time. Do not let anyone convince you otherwise.

pro-abortion-rights

Yup. The only good reason to have a kid is wanting to nurture and raise another human being, and you have to want it enough to be worth the huge sacrifices you will make. Parents who want to convince you it’s easy or costless are generally men whose wives do all the work of raising the kids.

meangreenlimabean

So true. I love my kids but they break my favorite stuff and spill everything and throw tantrums at the worst possible times. Children are demanding and messy and ungrateful and not for just everyone!

If you desperately want to cuddle a baby, there are plenty of frazzled new parents who would be happy to loan you theirs for a couple hours.

If you want someone to love you unconditionally, get a pet. Your dog or cat or lizard or guinea pig will never scream “I hate you” and slam doors.

fan-of-many-expert-of-none

I see these and I just remember the times that my legal guardians referred to my sister as ungrateful or a brat because they themselves were in the wrong and refused to see it. I know having a kid isn’t a walk in the park, but the only times I’ve met a kid who didn’t behave correctly or politely is when the parent didn’t treat that kid with respect or as an equal. Kids are younger and smaller but they’re still /people/. And as someone who is the oldest out of 4 and had to grow up as I spent half my time looking out for them when my mom couldn’t, I can say that if you treat them like an equal and not as someone who has to follow your orders, then kids can be feather cooperative

motherbychoice

And still, kids are inconvenient. Every single child, regardless of age or maturity or usual manners, acts out. Everyone. And that can be and often is, extremely inconvenient.

Do not, even for a second, think that only ‘bad’ parents or disrespectful parents will have a child that acts out from time to time. These are the kind of misconceptions that lead to new parents being shocked that their child is throwing a tantrum.

Kids are people, sure. But they are also children. They scream in the middle of a movie. They try to run away in crowds. They shit themselves in the middle of a shopping trip. They puke after you’ve dressed them for pictures. They break things and lose things. And every single one of these things is inconvenient.

My point is this: if you are not prepared to be inconvenienced by parenthood, do not have children.

Your legal guardians should not have been raising children. They obviously weren’t prepared to deal with the inconveniences parents face. Nor were they prepared to make the sacrifices parents have to make.

ezzy-raw-deactivated20170920

Nowhere in here does it say inconvenient = not deserving of respect.

Inconvenient literally means “causing trouble, difficulties, or discomfort.“

Absolutely treat your children as small people and with respect, because they are people and deserve to be treated as such. But children are still children and will make a mess or be loud at the wrong times and lots of other things that can make your day a little difficult.

Hell, PREGNANCY is inconvenient as fuck. I can only imagine when I have a screaming potato that I have to try to figure out what the hell they want.

Children absolutely deserve respect and to be helped in learning to manage their feelings and communicate their needs properly. But until they have it down they’re inconvenient as hell. And there is nothing wrong with that. But if you’re not ready for that, don’t have a kid.