Aro Aro Aro

My aro side blog, because our community is far too small

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It’s the last day of Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

This meme series wouldn’t be complete without a joke about third wheeling.

I’m so happy to have seen so many folks taking part in this week, and I know I only contributed dumb memes but I hope you enjoyed my content! As always, my inbox is open!

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We’re on the sixth meme of Arospec Awareness Week!

I tried to make a joke about “six” and “sith” but it ended up being really dumb so take this instead

For real, I made this blog to help spread word about the aro community! I’m always happy to talk to y’all and my inbox is always open.

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*cough* Riverdale *cough*

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week Day 5. Send me asks if you feel like it. Today’s fun fact is that we all hate Riverdale.

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Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, Day 4

Remember, if you’re aro or ace as well as heterosexual or heteroromantic, that doesn’t mean you’re straight. Don’t get bogged down by people trying to pick dumb fights with you on the internet. You don’t have to feel like you need to take the bait and respond to people who just want to hurt and exclude you.

As always, my inbox is open if you have any questions or comments for me

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Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week, Day 3

Once again, feel free to shoot me any questions you have! (Although it could take me a hot minute to respond if it’s anything too fancy)

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It’s day two of Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

Have another meme

Remember, not experiencing romantic attraction to someone is a-okay and both aromantic and alloromantic folks should never be made to feel guilty about it!

[zemathememequeen]

[Image description: Top text: When aro week finally arrives. Bottom text: I’ve been looking forward to this. Image of count dooku from star wars episode III]

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Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

To kick things off, have this meme I made!

I got really excited and made a bunch of aro prequel memes, so I’m going to be posting one every day. If you have any questions about aromanticism, as always feel free to ask me whether you’re arospec or not! This week is about awareness and acceptance and everyone should be able to ask their genuine questions!

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Even if you’re not ace, you can still feel a connection between your aromantic identity and your sexual one

Maybe you’re gay, lesbian, bi, or pan. Maybe you’re demisexual. Maybe you’re fraysexual. No matter how you experience that sexuality it’s okay to feel that it is connected to your (lack of) romantic attraction.

I’m bi, and I’ve recently come across the term fraysexual, which I find describes how I experience sexual attraction almost perfectly. Before then the only way I had to describe my sexuality was through my aromanticism, because I believed that I—as an aromantic person—had a view of sex that was much more detached from intimacy and emotional closeness than others.

I’d imagine that someone who is demisexual could go through a similar experience. Discovering that your sexual attraction is linked to friendship and emotional closeness could be confusing to someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction, and learning to embrace that closeness and remain confident in your own convictions about what you are experiencing should be a powerful experience. You can be both emotionally and sexually close to someone, and still not experience romantic attraction for them. Or maybe you’re demiromantic and the connection comes from feeling both the romantic and sexual attraction arise together.

If you don’t feel a connection, that’s cool too.

There are so many ways that sexuality can be linked to an arospec identity, and feeling that the two are connected is just as valid as other people’s connections between romance and sex, no matter what labels you’re using. So keep on keeping on aroallos. It’s your experience, and you get to define it.

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there’s nothing better than a nice, hot cup of Respecting Aro People tea on a cold winter’s day

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PSA

It’s okay if you don’t like cuddling (or any other forms of touch—platonic or otherwise). You choose your own boundaries and you don’t have any obligation to explain them to anyone.

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there are a billion problems with allo people yelling ‘minors can’t id as ace!11!!!’ not limited to the fact I knew I was ace at 14 and definitely could have known earlier if I had the language but I’d like to point out: While aromanticism is still seen as a subset of asexuality, that kind of rhetoric is denying people the aromantic label. Allosexual aros talk all the time about how difficult it was for them to realise they were aro, since questioning as ace is really the only route to questioning as aro, and I have no idea how I would have realised I was aro if I hadn’t been able to accept being ace first. I would rather a thousand teens realise they’re wrong about being ace when they grow up than even one aro be barred from the label and community they need because they’ve been brainwashed into thinking they can’t be ace and therefore can’t begin questioning. All of you saying this ‘wait til you’re an adult’ bs have no idea about our identities and the context of our community/questioning process and need to remember to stay out of aro/ace issues because you’re not one of us and your opinion doesn’t matter. Also like… teens are sexually active and it just be like that so you were always wrong regardless.

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this may sound a little odd but I’ve been turning this post over in my head for a while and can’t think of a better way to word it. anyway:

decouple being aromantic from being asexual.

aro and ace are no more inherently linked than aro and bi, or gay, or straight.

of course our communities have a lot in common, by virtue of our similar positions under amatonormativity and heteronormativity, and our similar lack of visibility. I’m not trying to erase our shared history and terminology.

but it seems like these days we can’t just be Aro. we gotta also be ace.

so yeah. let’s decouple our ideas of what it means to be aro and what it means to be ace.

(side note: I am both aro and ace. I love the ace community but I am Frustrated by the constant drowning out of aro resources by the ace community and by well meaning allies.)

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So like is a bisexual aromantic a thing? I’m somewhat confused about my romantic attraction ((or lack therof))

It is 100% a thing!

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That me!

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all these people: fallin in love and shit idk

me: eating mangoes, thriving

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Someone: “my boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other is my best friend”

Me, hiding the cake with a picture of us subtitled “best friends” in swirly pink icing: oh haha yeah that’s how that works