Fat Mermaid Melody

she/her. 29. TME. Married and figuring this world out. The mermaid with desires finally has a suitable main blog.

[tinyyfairyyk]

some bendy rope!! sometimes rope is also cute and silly 🥰 third pic is me swinging myself around and being goofy

I don't often share this side of things, but there are always lots of smiles and giggles as well when I tie with @falinger 🩷🩷

[d1ssimilis]

i basically assume that people don’t like me unless they explicitly tell me they like me and then periodically remind me

[d0nn0]

[kitteecassee]

easy access always cat,

[sawed-on-shotgun]

the human body when you use it and exist in it

[small-good-wolf]

actually fuck it I’m just gonna talk about laundry I really love laundry

first and foremost— most every single laundry detergent on the market is filled with a bunch of crap and chemicals that you don’t necessarily want on your body. even the ones that are “free of dye” etc will coat your clothes in substances instead of washing everything fully out. I recommend using a castile soap instead. I use Dr Bronner’s 18-in-1. it’s more expensive, but you need very very little of it per load

leading me to my next point— if you use the big name laundry detergent, the cups are a LIE. you do not need NEARLY that much laundry detergent, it is just sold that way to trick you into using and buying more laundry detergent.

speaking of tricking you into buying shit… fabric softener? just a wax that coats your shit making it feel “softer” but it destroys fabric over time and makes your clothes More Flammable. same with like, scent beads or whatever other bullshit they’re pushing on you now. you don’t need it. it’s bad for your clothes.

if you actually want to soften (and deep clean!) fabrics, a tiny bit of distilled white vinegar goes a long way. it should go in the like bleach container or wherever your washer has to put additives that get released later in the cycle. no, your clothes will not smell like vinegar. every 3rd or 4th wash, some baking soda directly into the load is also a good cleaning softener. don’t do them both at once, vinegar and baking soda neutralize each other.

dryer sheets are also just a waxy flammable lie. don’t bother. so, so wasteful. get a wool dryer ball, they usually have like 100-200 uses, actually help with lint and static, and don’t just ruin your clothes as they go.

and that’s hippie laundry lessons. now you know

[eerie-discordant-archives]

Mini of the day?

How about this dreadnaught I made for a raptors kill team? Yeah? He’s good! Let’s hear it for this big guy.

[nessimaki-deactivated20141106]

[dialupmodern]

Babe, you okay? you reblogged “and we were nice to each other” like 12 times again

[kingofthefae]

google search: how to stop feeling evil for having sexual desires

[catilinas]

i love shipping magazines and i especially love them when they sound like they were written by a mildly aggravated cargo ship

[katatonicimpression]

Blade will turn up to a party but point blank refuse to have fun.

I can respect that.

[hellyesbro]

[satanfemme]

I don't like it when people are trying to (even sympathetically) explain why teenagers can sometimes have emotional volatility as "well they're just biologically stupid and angry and bad because of their hormones and underdeveloped brain" with no mention to be found of the fact they're also still trapped in an incredibly oppressive environment 24/7.

working 12+ hour days for school without pay or the right to "switch jobs" to something better, often working a real job on top of that, still the legal property of their parents, can't even dye their own hair or use their own name or have a door to their own room in many many cases. yeah I would be at the end of my rope too, especially when dealing with the adults in my life who are enacting and/or facilitating the abuse! it feels pretty glaring to ignore this dynamic when talking about the strained emotional capacity of teenagers. did you forget? what it was like to not have the right to your own life yet? to be hurt 24/7? and then to have your (extremely reasonable!!!) emotional reactions dismissed as pure hysteria?

purely anecdotally, I'm also not convinced that teenagers are "biologically" more prone to volatility in a meaningfully distinct way tbh. thinking back to the people I knew as a teen vs the people I've known in adulthood, in both demographics there have been people prone to lashing out, and people who were completely stoic, and the differences between the two groups have always seemed to be split not along age or hormonal makeup but along life experiences and who had better support structures. (but again this is anecdotal, and somewhat besides the point. because even if there is a non-pseudoscience biologically provable difference in teenagers' brains that make them universally moodier across the board, perhaps they could better manage their own moods if they weren't being crazy abused as an entire class with no legal ability to escape.)

[pipsqueaky-toy]

I need to get better pictures of this set because its SO pretty!!

[pipsqueaky-toyy]

new blog 🥰

[sacred-portal]

[gveleshapi]

I cannot believe degendering pregnancy is a controversial topic. idk how it is in the west, but when I went to a doctor, told her that I'm pregnant and I needed to do blood tests and many other things she laughed at me and said smth like: "you a 180cm grownass man pregnant??? honey, pregnancy is for those who are women. if you're a mentally ill trans then you can visit a psychologist instead", and I told her that I'm intersex but she was like "not pregnant, *h slurs* are sterile and can't get pregnant, especially if they're a man like you are." I saw 6 different doctors and I was mocked by all of them, until my partner somehow made one of them listen, and she saw that I really was pregnant and being intersex didn't make me "sterile." if pregnancy was degendered and was replaced with neutral language I'd have easier time accessing healthcare. and now that I did, the doctors are still confused and they're like "yeahhh, they never taught us how to treat defects like you so let us treat you like we would treat *normal pregnancy.*" first of all why are you calling a human being a defect, and secondly, do you treat EVERY pregnant woman you see the same way? there are different kinds of pregnancies. not every pregnancy is the same. different people have different complications and needs. why do you treat intersex pregnancy as something impossible that cannot be helped and monitored. especially for pregnant intersex men (or phenotypical "man", idk how to say it). the medical system makes you feel horrible for being intersex and pregnant intersex man. they'll either deny your healthcare or they'll abuse you and force you into womanhood even when you never lived it.

[khmali]

I wasn't originally planning to add anything, but I need to add more

I'm his partner. I'm also intersex. and my face looks "too feminine", so let me tell you, the medical system doesn't take any of us seriously. while he was being abused for being a pregnant man and they called him a "mentally ill trans", I was getting laughed at for having long hair and for "not looking manly enough." we had doctors telling us to abort the fetus because we would fail being parents. they said that the child needs traditional mother and father, not "mentally ill defected anomaly parents who will make the child ashamed of being born." doctors did everything to make us feel awful about ourselves, however we know how bad intersexism, transphobia and queerphobic in general is in our country and we decided to ignore them. we're getting a lot of hate from people, mainly medical system and they're trying to "fix" us so that the child can have traditional mother and father. Gatsi would become a mother and woman, and I'd be a father and a man. people find it too hard to be normal about male pregnancy, and it's even worse if you're intersex because they'll tell you to abort your baby to your face because "you're a defect who will birth a defected child like you." (and there's additional transphobia because they immediately assume you that you're a "mentally ill trans", and while we both identify as agender it's still sickening how they treat him)

[occidentalist]

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[fidaiaatsaddam]

[small-good-wolf]

next time I’m really sad can someone remind me noise cancelling headphones + shoegaze at inhuman volumes + laying flat on my back in the dark for 2 hours doesn’t fix the problem but it does regulate me in a way other stuff doesn’t

[fatmermaidmelody]

@small-good-wolf I threw this in drafts when you posted it but now feels like maybe a good time to remind?