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I get a small kick out of seeing this picture every time. First I smile, because the woman is stunning and at first glance her kneeling that way is breathtaking. Then I remember with a small roll of my eyes that she is in fact leaning against a wall, as evidenced by the sideways mirror behind her, and the dangle of her earrings toward the floor. Such a wonderful reminder that what we see here in the Tumblr world is coiffed, and photo-shopped, and teased into perfection. Nothing at all like the D/S most of us experience every day. Then I smile again, because the real thing is so much better.
100 NON-SEXUAL WAYS TO MAKE HER FEEL LITTLE
Help me tie my shoes
Wash my hair in the bath
Pet me
Pick out my clothes
Pull me into your lap
Get my paci if you notice me chewing my lip
Cuddle me
Make me giggle
Use my little dishes for a meal
Bring me a drink in a sippy cup
Stick a crazy straw in my drink
Hold my hand in public
Order for me at a restaurant
Drive me places (and pick me up)
Go to my doctorâs appointments with me
Help me make tough choices
Let me fall asleep on you
Ask me to help you with things
Tell me when Iâm a good girl
Tell me if I make you proud
Take care of me when Iâm sick
Remind me to take my medicine
Suggest naptime, especially if Iâm crabby
Read to me
Ask me about my favorite things; tell me about yours
Whisper secrets to me
Teach me new things
Remember my plushiesâ names
Ask about my plushies and toys
Tuck me in at night
Remind me of bedtime
Ask if I remembered to do things
Kiss the top of my head or forehead
Color with me
Check for mean-monsters
Listen to my excited-babbles
Play pretend with me
Take me to a park
Push me on the swings
Let me pick the movie
Tell me Iâm cute/adorable
Kiss my owies
Use awesome band-aids
Surprise me
Get me little gifts
Set up a bubble bath
Let me draw a tiny heart on you
Check on my planner
Make music with me
Pick my jammies
Cook with me
Take me to the zoo
Take me to the library
Plan and go on a picnic
Take a walk with me
Take me stargazing
Visit a museum with me
Paint my toenails
Make sure I have something to cuddle
Invite me to a tea party
Ask about my imaginary friends
Plan a themed date night
Play board games with me
Play video games with me (or watch me play them)
Do arts and crafts with me
Give me candy/sweets
Make me hot cocoa with marshmallows
Blanket. Forts.
Show me a place Iâve never seen before
Whisper âshhhâ in my ear when Iâm upset
Wipe away my tears
Take me to see a kiddy movie in the theatre
Sing with me when I break out into song
Call me âprincess,â âlittle one,â âkitten,â âbunny,â âgirl,â or âdollâ
Appreciate little gifts I make/give you
Make a funny face at me in public
Scoop me up princess-style
Watch cartoons with me
Make me a healthy snack
Make a meal of special little foods
Give me an allowance
Have me complete chores
Remind me to wash my hands before I eat
Get things from places I canât reach
Rub my tummy when it hurts
Start a pillow fight
Shoot me with a water gun or nerf gun
Quote from my favorite books and movies
Ask me silly questions
Try to win me a prize
Take me somewhere I need to dress up to go to
Ruffle my hair
Boop my nose if my emotions are getting too intense
Let me wear your t-shirt/hoodie
Write a note and leave it somewhere for me to find
Congratulate me for doing something difficult
Start my sleepy music at night
Take me to an amusement park
Take selfies/photobooth pictures with me
Make a pinky promise with me
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100 Non-S*xual Ways to Make Little feel Special
A major part of many kinky dynamics is a focus on discipline. While âdisciplineâ can be a fun part of your everyday activities, it can also mean something more specific in terms of punishment. âPunishmentâ differs from the general sense of discipline in that it has a specific goal to focus on that changes a submissiveâs behaviour.
Many people engage in what can be called âfunishment,ââpunishment-type activities, like regular spankings or other forms of play, that are not meant to alter the behaviour of the submissive but rather to provide enjoyment to either/both/all parties. However, it is important to distinguish the difference between playful discipline and serious punishments. Punishments are consequences of negative actions, whether this is based on officially-written regulations or unspoken general behaviours like brattiness, defiance, or dangerous behaviours.
The idea of punishment is based largely on psychological research in the area of behaviourism. It consists of techniques that are supported by science to effectively alter the behaviour of an individual. (If you want to learn more about the research behind punishments, look up B. F. Skinnerâs work in this area.)
Two types of punishments exist: positive punishments, which add undesired consequences to the behaviour, and negative punishments, which take away desired privileges.
Now, before I get into some specific ideas for punishments, there are some important key points Iâd like to make. Please be sure to read all of these before deciding on a specific punishment.
Punishments do NOT negate the right to a safeword. Some people are mislead into dangerous situations by being told they cannot safeword during a punishment. This is completely untrue. All parties have a right to safeword at any time during any kind of play or punishment. Taking away the right to safeword equates to abuse, plain and simple. Donât ever tell your partner they cannot safeword or ignore their safeword for the sake of punishment. This is not effective and is extremely harmful to your partnerâs mental and/or physical well-being.Â
NEVER punish out of anger. Anger is never a healthy motivation for punishment. Punishments are meant for the submissiveâs benefit, at the core. If the submissiveâs behaviour has made the Dominant angry, they should have a cooling-off period where they can calm down, think about an appropriate punishment, and resolve the matter at a later time, after healthy discussion about what happened.
Limits are NOT to be used as punishments. Many people have activities they donât particularly enjoy that arenât on their limits list. Some people have specific ideas for punishments that suit them best. However, regardless of you or your partnerâs experience with punishments, it needs to be understood that hard limits are not punishments. Hard limits are never to be used for punishmentâs sake because âhard limitâ means âI do not want to do this under any circumstance.â Using a hard limit as a punishment would be an abusive act, as hard limits come with an automatic safeword attached, since they are specificly stated as things the person does not feel comfortable with. Never, ever, threaten or use hard limits to punish a submissive.Â
Use healthy discretion. This one should seem obvious, but donât follow through with punishments if rule-breaking was out of the submissiveâs control. Say the submissive has a 11PM bedtime, but they recently suffered a trauma or loss and canât sleep. Let them engage in healthy coping skills instead of punishing them for something they arenât doing on purpose. Above all else, make safety and well-being a priority.
Make the punishment fit the crime. Punishments that are relative to the defiance are much more effective at changing the behaviour than random punishments. For example, if the submissive cums without permission, try a punishment from the âorgasm controlâ section. This will better reinforce the reasoning in the submissive and more effectively guide them to make better choices in the future. There are also punishments that work best for specific dynamics like for littles or pets, so be sure to read into those, below.
Aftercare is absolutely required. Like any kind of play, aftercare is required at the end of the scene. This is especially important during punishments because often times, the submissive is consumed with feelings of guilt and disappointment. After a punishment, Dominants need to give their submissives aftercare that includes a conversation about why they were punished, how proud the Dominant is for them taking the punishment so well, and that there are no negative feelings between them. The submissive should leave the punishment scene feeling forgiven for their mistakes and proud of themselves for making things right with their Dominant. Do not leave your submissive alone after a punishment without aftercare, ever! This is highly abusive and can seriously harm your partner.
Humiliation
A great way to get a submissive to stay in line is to humiliate them when theyâve done something wrong. There are several ways to go about this, depending on your dynamic and kinks, but itâs an effective and amusing way to get the message across.Â
Clothing Restriction
Clothing restriction can be done both domestically and in public. Restriction can be as much as not allowing any clothing (in legal or private settings), ordering a certain amount of skin be showing, or choosing a specific outfit or collar for the submissive. For shy submissives, clothing restriction can be intense. This is an especially good punishment for submissives who have said negative comments about their bodies.
Diapering
For ABDL or little submissives, this can either be a reward or a punishment. Depending on the comfort level with diapers, they can be used as a punishment that ties into humiliation. Making them relieve themselves in only the diaper for a set amount of time or wearing it around the house as their only clothing can be very humiliating for some people.
Sissification
Sissification is a kink that is most common in submissive men. Itâs the act of dolling a man up like a girl and humiliating him based on his presentation as such. This can be very effective for some people but can be very problematic to others. Be careful not to use this kink as punishment with trans or gender non-conforming subs without their explicit consent, as it can very easily trigger dysphoria and cause severe emotional problems.Â
Public Humiliation
Public humiliation can be done in any subtle way that embarrasses a submissive without breaking any obvious laws. Some examples include making them wear an anal plug or remote-controlled vibrator to dinner, public leashing, or making them kneel at social gatherings. Work this idea into the submissiveâs specific kinks and limits to be sure itâs just enough to embarrass them, without making them unbearably uncomfortable.
Orgasm Control
Orgasm control is simply thatâcontrolling the submissiveâs orgasms. Most of these types of punishments are used for submissives who break rules about orgasms, be it without permission or when they were told not to touch themselves. Controlling orgasms is an amusing way to teach the submissive who their orgasms belong to.
Edging
Edging is the act of getting your partner right to the edge of orgasm, then denying them release. This can be done multiple times, even in short amounts of time. Itâs a little psychological torture, best for those who cum without permission.
Toy Restriction
For a submissive, like myself, who is accustomed to using toys during masturbation or play, toy restriction is a very effective punishment. This is especially good for submissives who have a difficult time reaching orgasm without toys, as it makes things very frustrating very quickly. An evil punishment may even combine toy restrictions with a quota of orgasms for the day that they must reach in order to get off restriction. Desperation will sink in very quickly and this lesson will be easily learned.
Forced Orgasms
Forced orgasm is another great punishment for submissives who cum without permission. It turns a great sensation into a torturous experience very quickly. This is especially great with toys like the Hitachi or a Sybian. Focus on a goalâeither for number of orgasms, or a specific amount of time. An hour spent riding a Hitachi can really be the most agonizing thing for some people due to heightened sensitivity after each orgasm.Â
Denial
Denial is the complete opposite of forced orgasms. Itâs like edging, but there is no orgasm at the end of the scene. This can be doing while using toys and not allowing the person to orgasm or it can be done by restriction orgasms or even touching oneself for a longer period of time.
Chastity
Chastity, much like denial, is the refusal of orgasms. However, with chastity, the submissive is completely unable to touch themselves, even if they wanted to. Devices for people with penises and vaginas are available to purchase online to assure your submissive is following orders properly.
Domestic Discipline
Domestic discipline includes things that can be done within the home. Some of these include behaviour modifications or restrictions. While some of these can be done outside the home, these are good examples of things for couples who live together can do for punishments.
Chores
Chores not only benefit the entire household, but they can also be an effective punishment for unruly subs. Added chores can be especially fun if you make her clean the bathroom with a toothbrush or make him do dishes with nipple clamps on. Combine with other punishments for your amusement!
Furniture Restriction
Especially fun for people into pet-play, furniture restriction involves limiting where the submissive can sit or lie down. Require that they sit on the ground instead of the couches or sleep on the floor next to the bed if theyâve been defiant.
Caging
Another good one for pets, especially. Caging can be used to make the submissive reflect on their reasons for being punished. Be sure to use a cage small enough to confine them, but still large enough so they arenât going to hurt themselves by spending too much time in the cage.
Bedtime
A great one for littles! Bedtimes are good for college students who donât do their homework, or easily distracted adults with work to do. Set up rules that require all obligations get done and enforce an early bedtime to be sure they are well-rested (and easily frustrated) when they donât follow these rules.
Time-Out
Another punishment for reflection. Time-outs are good for brats and littles because it makes them analyze what they did wrong. Put them in a corner or a special âtime-out chairâ so they know they are being punished. Increase the time or add in other punishments if they break rules more than once.
Sensory Deprivation
Sensory deprivation is a lot like time-out, but can be used for added psychological torment. Plug the submissiveâs ears or use headphones, blindfold them, bind them to a bed or chair, and completely ignore them for a set about of time. This desensitizes them and not only makes them reflect on their reasons for punishment, but makes it very uncomfortable, assuring they wonât want to end up in isolation again.
Objectification
Objectification is fun for Dominants who like their submissives in service to them during punishment. Make them kneel and become your footstool or coffee table while you watch TV or catch up on work. This is even better when you make them do it completely naked and/or in front of guests.
Dietary Restriction
If a submissive has done something against the rules, you can make them follow a strict diet. This is especially useful for those using behaviour modification to lose or gain weight. However, be careful to ensure the submissive is still getting enough nutrition. For littles, see how much they want to be a brat after you take away their dessert privilege. For pets, try making them eat out of a bowl on the floor for each meal.
Speech Restriction
For disrespectful submissives, punish them by taking away their right to a personal pronoun, making them refer to themselves as âthis girl,â âYour slut,â âMasterâs puppy boy,â or anything else you want to use. You can also make it a rule that they must refer to you by your Dominant title at all times, even in public. Having to remember their restrictions on speech will keep them thinking about their punishment all day.
Corporal Punishment
Corporal punishment is enforcement by physical contact. These types of punishments involve pain, which is a tricky subject for punishing. Typically, pain punishments donât work as well to change behaviour, especially if the submissive is also a masochist. Be sure to carefully choose what kind of pain if youâre going with one of these methods.
Impact
If your submissive likes thuddy pain, use stingy pain. If they like stingy pain, use thuddy. Push their limits carefully, but make it clear this is a punishment and not for fun. Have them apologize as you strike them. Tell them why they are being punished and make it clear that they are to be good and learn from their mistakes.Â
Rice Kneeling
Kneeling on uncooked rice is an age-old technique that leaves painful marks. Be careful with time, as this can scar if done for long periods of time or used constantly. Be present during this to be sure the submissive can take it and listen carefully for safewords. Use this as a time out or have them recite an apology to you as you do this.
Figging
Figging is done by carving a plug out of ginger and inserting into the anus. This causes a stinging pain that ranges in intensity depending on the person. Frozen ginger is a milder form of this punishment.
Writing Assignments
Writing assignments are usually meant to bore a submissive into obedience. Whether itâs writing lines or a random homework assignment, the punishment focuses on making it undesirable for the submissive to misbehave.
Lines
Writing lines is effective if you use it reflectively. For example, for a submissive who is disrespectful, you can have him write, âI will always be polite around my Sir,â a hundred times. For a submissive who cums without permission, you can order, âI will ask permission from Mistress before I cum,â until they fill up five pages. Whatâs even more fun is making them be stuffed with a toy or on their knees with nipple clamps on while they write.
Apology Letter
An apology letter is a simple task meant to make the submissive think about what they have done, analyze why it was wrong, and have them apologize formally by writing it down. Have them read their letter to you our loud or crumple it up and put in their their underwear for that added perk of remembering all day that they were punished.
Essay
An essay is a good assignment for submissives who donât seem to understand their rules. Make them come up with reasons as to why these rules are in place and write a formal essay about the reasoning and purpose of these rules. Making them analyze the fact that this is for their benefit will remind them that rules are not just there to be mean, but to guide them to healthier behaviour.
Homework
Especially fun for people with school girl or teacher fantasies, assign a random homework assignment. Ever wonder about a certain subject but never have time to actually research it? Assign a paper to your submissive about a subject of your choosing and have them report back to youâbecause knowledge is power! Grade their paper and reward/punish again as necessary for the quality of their work.
Itâs important to remember that reinforcements are also important in addition to punishments. When your submissive follows directions, reward them. Give them a treat or praise them and thank them for being so good. If you mix positive reinforcement with punishments when necessary, theyâre sure to be trained in no time!
xx SF
Punishment Management
Donât go easy on me
When I donât do the thing I say I will, when I sass at the wrong time, or when I do something only halfheartedly, please donât go easy on me.
Itâs easy to punish me when disobedience is blatant. When I break a rule knowingly and willingly, when I push too hard, or act petulantly, the path is clear. But what about when the waters are muddied? What about the grey area? What about the times when I âbendâ the rules, hiding behind pedantry and the letter of the law?
Those times are an opportunity to show me that youâre watching. They are a chance to create stability. To build a structure around me that will support me when I feel too weak to support myself.
There is no kindness in âletting it slideâ, in a âfirst warningâ, or a three strike policy. Submissives thrive on structure, on consistency, and on knowing what to expect. There is love to be found in the bondage of rules, and affection echoes every time you make it clear that the rules do not bend, I do.
Never Neglect The Rules!
Letâs Talk About Safe Words
What is a safe word?
Safe word: a word serving as a prearranged and unambiguous signal to end an activity, such as between a dominant and submissive sexual couple. (This is ideally a word you are unlikely to use otherwise, but likely to remember, such as âturnipâ.)
Are safe words just for sexual scenes?
No. Safe words can be used in other times too. They can be used anytime a person feels that they need to suspend what is happening (generally to be calmed and offered time to regroup).
Does everyone need a safe word?
Iâll likely lose a few followers by saying it, but the short answer is no. âNoâ, âstopâ, and âthatâs enough,â are perfectly adequate for couples who are not engaging in consensual non-consent play (CNC). But, while not strictly necessary, there are reasons to use one anyway which Iâll talk about below.
Should I consider a safe word even if I donât do CNC?
Yes. Why? Because sometimes, especially as a submissive itâs difficult to say no. It can feel defiant and disrespectful. Safe words donât have that connotation. Additionally, as mentioned above, they can be used outside of sexual scenes. Safe words, unlike the words no also signal that you require comfort and then discussion.
What about when youâre unable to talk?
This is a great time to use a safe signal instead. You can snap fingers, wave, drop a bell on the floor, shake something that rattles, etc. Non verbal signs are very helpful in scenes where the submissive is gagged or loud play is involved.
Are safe words only for submissives?
Safe words are generally only used by submissives, because a Dominant is in charge at all times anyway. However that doesnât mean they canât be used by Dominants. In fact while the actual word may not be necessary itâs the responsibility of the Dom to end the scene if they feel the sub is no longer capable of using their safe word for some reason. For example, a sub who is so deep in subspace that they cannot quickly respond with their own name when prompted.
Iâve seem âyellowâ and âredâ used a lot, what do they mean?
These color safe words are the most common safe words to use, and they are generally understood to mean similar things by the BDSM community. Yellow is a sort of pre-safe-word used to indicate that a sub is approaching their limit. Red is a full safe word indicating the need for a hard stop.
Is it okay to use a safe word during punishment?
Yes. Safe words can be used any time, and are especially important during punishment.
What do I do when my partner uses their safe word?
Stop everything immediately. Remove any restraints, clamps, or pain implements. Proceed with aftercare. Unless your partner shows a need to discuss something immediately put off discussion of what happened until after aftercare has taken place. Be sure to tell your partner how proud you are that they used their safe word.
What if someone ignores a safe word?
Run! Run far, and run fast. If appropriate report them to the authorities. Get some place safe, and donât second guess yourself. People who ignore safe words are DANGEROUS!
Importance of Safe Words!
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Me: *jumps from behind daddy* peek a boo!
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Me: *huffs* why you no scared!? đ¤
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Me: *blushes and acts annoyed but really screaming inside* ?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?
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20 rules for Daddy Doms
1. Hold her hand while crossing the street, watching a scary movie orâŚjust because. 2.Leave loving notes all over the place to surprise and delight your littlesâ heart. 3.Brush her hair, help her bathe (bubble baths preferably), treat her stuffed animals like living creatures and talk with them. 4.Know all her stuffiesâ names. 5. Punish misbehavior with time outs, spankings and occasionally make her write out an apology or things like âI wonât sneak a cookie before dinnerâ (50 times is good). 6.Take her to fun places that appeal to her inner little. Places like the zoo, a kids movie, build-a-bear, the swings at the park, an aquarium, or a carnival. 7.Reward good behavior with treats and kind words of encouragement. 8.Never lose your temper just because you are having a âbad dayâ. 9.Know all of her favorite foods, allergies, and all of her favorite things; whether it be color, hair bows, dress, or stuffies. 10.Bedtime routines. If youâre going to do something, make sure (if circumstances allow) that you do it everyday without fail. If you stop doing something you always did before, it makes the little feel as though theyâve done something wrong to lose that treat. Examples: brushing her hair, reading her a story, or just tucking her in at night. 11.A good Daddy Dom does not make idle threats. If you threaten a consequence for a certain behavior you are looking to change, and do not carry through, not only will the little not learn to break the habit, but they will take your threats with a grain of salt. Also, it may make the little feel unimportant if a consequence is not followed through with. 12.Always spend time reassuring your little of your love after a consequence. They need this assurance, and the knowledge that you still love and care for them. Aftercare is incredibly important. After allâŚthis relationship is built upon trust. 13.Send your little a text message (or many) throughout the day if you must be apart. It warms their little heart! 14.Surprise her with a new stuffie from time to time. 15.Watch a Disney movie of her choosing with her. And it doesnât hurt to know her favorite oneâŚand all the songs from it. 16.All boo-boos, whether scratches, bruises and scrapes need to be looked after by her Daddy. Nothing makes a little feel safer and totally cared for than having a feel-better kiss, or their Daddy getting them a cool band-aid (Hello Kitty works well). Be sure to lavish them with lots of TLC! 17.If your little makes you something: no matter how big or small, you should always make them feel like their creation is cherished. Hang it up, save a pic on your phone so they see you like it and plan to look back at itâŚanything at all. Nothing is sadder than a pretty picture, colored with love and care, that is left sitting and collecting dust, and then forgotten. 18.If your little is in a playful, youthful mood (and you are not), do not roll your eyes, get mad or yell. Simply and calmly tell them that Daddy is not feeling playful right now. Everyone canât be fun and playful all the time. Littles understand thatâŚeven if upset about it at times. So tell them, and that way no oneâs feelings get hurt, or feels like they did something wrong. 19.Aid the age play dynamic. Do such things as carrying, lifting, and reaching high places for your little. It helps them feel as though they are seen as vulnerable and protected. Also, asking things like, âAre you sure you donât need Daddyâs help putting that straw in the juice box?â, or âMaybe I should do that, itâs a big job, too big for you.â It keeps the little feeling happy and loved. 20.Ask your little to sit on your lap from time to time. Itâs an instant smile and a blush trigger. Other things also work like tying their shoes, brushing their hair or buckling their seatbelt. -Dumb Babyđź
20 Things Dom should do!
Long Distance Tips from a submissive
See each other, and talk, as often as possible Hearing, and seeing each other, as often as possible is the number one way to feel connected to one another long distance.Try to find little times to connect, even if itâs not a time when you can give your full attention. Talk while you are driving or grocery shopping. For my Dom and I our time differences, and schedules, make finding time to give each other 100% attention hard for us. My Daddy sometimes turns on âDaddy TVâ for me, allowing me to watch him on cam while he is working. We mute the sound and chat via text, but being able to see him is a very calming experience for me, and it certainly helps this needy sub feel connected.
Text when you canât talk Having your camera on, or headphones in, isnât always practical, but communicating through text chat is often a more manageable way to keep in contact throughout the day. Donât underestimate the power of a message that says âJust wanted you to know Iâm thinking of youââ.
Have a cam âdateâ Order the same takeout (Chinese food, pizza, etc.), and pop on the same Netflix show/movie while you cam together.
Keep a panty catalog Both my Dom and I love when he chooses my panties. I, like most women I know, own more panties than he is able to keep track of without help. What I did was create an album for him, a picture of me in each pair, and a corresponding number, so that all he needs to do is glance at the album and leave me a number to let me know which he chose for the day. This works great with lingerie too.
Send Voice Messages There is a great service on Vocaroo.com that requires no sign up. You can record voice messages for each other so that you have something to listen to at time you will not be able to communicate via voice/cam.
Send pictures and videos as often as possible A silly morning selfie, or a video recording, can go a long way toward making you feel connected. Google drive is a great way to organize these and control who can view/download the videos and images. (However these methods are not hack-proof and you should always be discreet and completely trust and vet anyone you share sexy/revealing content with.)
Donât make every communication about sex Things donât need to be sexy all the time. Have a cam session where you just talk. Ask about your partnerâs day. Time on voice/cam is often limited in LDRs but that doesnât mean every opportunity needs to be used for something sexy. Those sexy times will feel so much more special when youâve fostered a real connection.
Share a to-do list Google keep is a great app that lets you share a to-do list, so you can check tasks/chores off, and your Dom can see what has been completed at any given moment. It also allows either party to add or remove tasks at any time.
Share your playlists The days of mixed tapes are over, but listening to the same song (preferably at the same time) is a great way to feel connected to another person. Shared experiences have a way of uniting us that is very powerful, and music has a draw all itâs own.
Donât hide your bad days LDRs are, after all, just relationships. Donât impose on yourself the need to always come off as happy and put together. Iâve had calls where Iâve done little more than cry while my Dom listens and attempts to just be there for me. When another person canât read your body language you need to make a greater effort to communicate what your feeling. Tell them if you feel sad, or frustrated, or angry. If you know that youâll have trouble with this Iâve heard some people establish emojis or code-words ahead of time that they can use to communicate a mood when they canât find the words.
Send a good-morning and goodnight message This is an important practice, especially for people in different time zones. Let them know you are thinking of them when you wake. Tuck-in is a very reassuring ritual for submissives (especially littles) and these simple messages can go a long way toward reassuring both Dom and sub that they are thought of, and missed.
Have a comfort object Itâs my intention to write something more extensive about aftercare in a LDR later on, but a great place to start is with a comfort object. It can be a stuffy, a blanket, or a sweatshirt that smells like your partner; anything that reminds you of them. Create good associations by keeping the item close by while you are talking and enjoying yourselves, this will make the object more comforting when youâre feeling down.
Cut yourself some slack Some days will be difficult. Youâll miss connecting because of busy schedules or bad luck. Itâs easy to feel neglected and unimportant, but try to keep perspective. Remember and appreciate the effort that your partner puts into your relationship and try to cut them, and yourself, some slack.
Well written. Simple ideas to put in place.
~Primal
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Aftercare
Aftercare 101
Aftercare For Dominants
Coping With Emotional Subdrop
Dom Drop
How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
Online Aftercare
sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
Subdrop and Aftercare
Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Consent & BDSM
Guide to Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
45 Things A Girl Wants, But Wonât Ask For
50 Rules for Daddies
100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
Alternative Names For âDaddyâ
Alternative Domme Titles
Aspects Of Control
Asserting Ownership - Rules
Daddy Up!
Defining A Daddy Dom
Dominants Need Training Also
Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
Help For New Doms
How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
How To Be A Good Dominant
How to Find a Submissive
Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
Observations On Doms By A Submissive
So you want to be a Dom?
So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
The Dom Commandments
Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissiveâs Perspective
What does the title Daddy mean?
What is a Daddy Dom?
What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
What It Means To Be A Dominant
What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
7 Common Types of Submissives
10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
26 Baby Girl Jobs
50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
A Bottomâs Responsibility
A Dominantâs Advice To His Submissive
A Man Who Knows YouâŚ
A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
Acid Test For Subs
Ask A Million And One Questions
Attraction to DD/lg: A Littleâs Perspective
Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
Care and feeding of Daddies
Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
Feminist Submissive
Finding Your Dominant
Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
âHow do I find Daddy?â A guide to help you safely find the Daddy youâre looking for.
How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
How To Find A Dom
How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
Novice Submissives
Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
Signs Of A Fake âDominantâ
Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
Submissive Pride
Submissive Traits - Intelligence
Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
What is a Little?
When newbie subs, with asinine âdoms,â need to run away.
Why I call him Daddy
Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
BDSM practitioners âhealthier and less neuroticâ than âvanillaâ peers
Body image & BDSM
How to Get Over Feeling Sad
Is BDSM normal?
Love your Vulva â a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
Meditation And Mindfulness
On Cutting
Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
Things to Do When Youâre Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
Tips for Recovering from Codependency
What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
10 Habits of Happy Couples
10 Top Communication Mistakes
10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
50 Best Ways To Say âI Love Youâ
BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
Communication Is Key
Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
Daddy Doms and their little girls
Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
Date Night In A Jar
DD/lg In Public
D/s and Domestication
Factors That Make A Relationship
Finding Love When You Least Expect It
Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
How To Be Present In Your Relationships
How To Build A Healthy Relationship
How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
How To Know When Youâve Found âThe Oneâ
How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
Searching for a D/s partner?
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
Stop Arguments Before They Start
The Rewards of a Submissive
Types Of Relationship Insecurity
Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
What Is Real Love?
When He Doesnât Call
Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
Another life ruined because of the morality police
Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldnât
Limits in BDSM
What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
10 Steps To Self Care
10 Ways To Be Happy
10 Truths To Live By
Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
How to be Yourself
How To Deal With Your Enemies
How To Ignore Haters
How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
Slut Shaming Explained
Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
Basics of Breath Play
D/s or Kinky Sex?
Fetishes Explained
How To Make A Girl Squirt
How To Tell Your Son About Sex
Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
Sensual Biting
Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
Sex: Practical Details
Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
Squirting Educational Video
Squirting Notes
Toys
Advice on Dildos and Buttplugs
BDSM on a budget
Bondage Rope: How To Choose Yours (And More)
Training
10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
Age Play: A Short Guide
BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
Glossary of BDSM Terms
Guide To Blood Play
Guide To Bruising
Guide To Talking Dirty
Guide To Wax Play
How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
How To Make A Comfort Box
Introduction To BDSM
Newbieâs Guide To Vaginal Fisting
Punishments in BDSM Relationships
Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
Some Thoughts On Rules
The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
The Need For Rules and Discipline
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