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[fedorahead]

people bag on tumblr for neogenders and mogai silliness but

tumblr is more true to the source than anyone else

[fedorahead]

i beat liberal crime squad and cloudpunk today wtf am i supposed to do with my time it is 3 AM and i don't want to open up baldur's gate

[fedorahead]

so we all agree tina is a metaphor for organized religion, right?

[fedorahead]

have you considered that collecting data in no way benefits any of us? it was even sold as "to tailor marketing to your interests" which is not a good thing like. now it's being used for tracking and harassing people but it was *never* a good thing.

seo is much the same. "to get your product to more people". it's at the expense of what people actually want.

everything in web 2.0 has been shaped to inconvenience people into spending money. with the added perk of completely eliminating privacy.

you know you could make an app or a website or a program or a service that does none of these things? with no loss. the only reason to add data harvesting to your shit is to make money. and if you're making apps, websites, programs, etc that don't make money on their own value, you're not making valuable content.

your life's work is worthless.

now, if you love what you do, that won't matter in the least. and if you're only doing it for that money, well, maybe get a hobby or a life? maybe try to add some value to the world instead?

[fedorahead]

what the fuck does anti c mean

[75percentbullshit]

I think it's when you really hate lemons. Hope this was helpful :)

[fedorahead]

oh then im definitely pro c, i love lemons

edit: gdi i looked it up using search terms that actually gave me an answer and i am Not Happy

[fedorahead]

zaphod + secco blorbo otp

[fedorahead]

crazy kitties all over the house

chasing all the spiders off or maybe find a mouse

crazy kitties climbing on my blouse

[fedorahead]

also anyone who reblogs my pinned post with a cw for any type of slur gets a free block! this is not a limited time offer. it never expires. please allow 1-96 hours for delivery

[fedorahead]

what the fuck does anti c mean

[fedorahead]

people bag on tumblr for neogenders and mogai silliness but

tumblr is more true to the source than anyone else

[fedorahead]

[fakelawyerbug]

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

[iridescentoracle]

#imo the potluck analogy applies- it would be rude to critique someone's icing technique at a potluck bc it wasn't as good as at the bakery #but if they had decorated their cupcakes w hate symbols it wouldn't be rude to tell them that's gross and gtfo #in fact it would be inappropriate to NOT say anything in that situation #or to complain that another guest who did point it out was 'ruining everyone's potluck' #and pointing out racism in fan works is 100% the second thing not the first! (via destructions-daughter)

[swamp-spirit]

There's also a tendency to conflate anyone who critiques general trends with bad faith randos. Like, there is fandom behavior that is 100% racist and should be talked about, but there are also trends of racist/sexist/ableist preferences.

If I say "I am uncomfortable with fandom's tendency to write trans men as feminine and submissive" I do not mean "I think every person who writes feminine submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I don't even mean "any cis-person who writes feminine or submissive trans men should be chased with pitchforks". I mean "I would like writers to seriously think about why this is so common, why they write that, and if it fairly and genuinely engages with what it means to be a trans man, or if they just think it's hot when submissive people have vaginas and didn't want to write omegaverse of m/f".

Similarly, when people say "fandom is systemically less interested in black characters, less willing to give flat black characters rich fanon than flat white characters, and less interested in black characters in ships", the response is not to explain why you, personally, just happen to like popular white guy in that fanon. Your job is to look at yourself and ask if you tend to "just happen to be more interested" in the popular white guy across fandoms, be honest, and start unpacking that. Sometimes it's easier to love the flat character who's already getting 10,000 fics with headcanons and art and meta.

If somebody says "I wish there were more gluten free options at the potluck. I hate always showing up and not finding anything I can eat*", they are not asking you to throw your cake in the trash and weep. They do not want to hear your long speech about how actually this is your grandmother's recipe, and you've tried it with rice flour actually, but it just didn't work. You think about what you can do, and you listen to how they feel.

*The metaphor here not being that you can't read fic that isn't "good rep". The metaphor here is that it can be isolating to be in spaces where nobody is trying to make sure people like you are welcome.

[talestobetold]

Agreed here,

but also the potluck thing gives more benefit of the doubt than is realistic.

Not bringing something gluten free because your sentimental recipe doesn't work with rice flour or because gluten free meals can be expensive is fairly easily excusable with a quiet "next time 👍" and a few seconds of brief reflection.

Not bringing something gluten free because you are suspicious that people who request gluten free food are trying to get one over on you, or you have an idea that beginner gluten free meals are still more difficult to make than your fun-but-difficult meals with gluten and you have no intention of testing that, or you suspect gluten free foods are made by people who want to hurt people and you would never associate with something morally complex like that is a different thing. That requires serious reflection and a mindset change that takes a long time and meaningful work.

Some people who engage in fandom in racist ways do it through social inertia and following what's popular. Most people who engage in fandom in racist ways do it because they do not see Black characters and other racialized characters as people in the same way as with white characters. All things equal, Black and otherwise racialized characters are more likely to be viewed as uninteresting to ship or difficult to write/draw or morally corrupt or whatever reason. At its core, these characters are less popular because many, many fans are racist. Seriously, banally, pervasively racist.

A lot of people are racist. A lot of people in fandom are racist. A lot of people in your fandom are probably racist. There's a good chance you are racist. Let's not let ourselves off the hook before we even evaluate whether we are being racist.

[fedorahead]

the potluck analogy is especially apt because someone is always going to bring some nasty food, and anyone can bring food that satisfies their own desires/interests/needs. which leads to the "just write the stuff yourself" response that a lot of people with criticism receive.

BUT

going to a potluck isn't about eating food you made specifically for yourself. it's about sharing as a community. it's true that you should write your own fic that you want to see, bring your own gluten-free deliciousness. it is also true that the community would be more accessible to you if more people decided that their recipe wouldn't lose out and might actually be even better with some ingredients substituted.

as a community, we need to be responsible for our own dish that we present, but also we all benefit when we start taking other peoples' needs into account since the whole point of a potluck is to bring us together as a community.

and honestly, if someone wants to bring cookies with swastikas on them, we can all just not eat that shit. and there's nothing wrong with telling them that they're nasty. and if suddenly half the potluck is people picking up on the swastika cookies trend, it's completely valid to start talking about that, loudly, in front of the people doing it.

they can take their hate cookies to a different potluck. or keep bringing them to ours and keep facing the disdain and disgust and hopefully rejection from the community. that choice is on them. but nobody has a responsibility to shut up about it to make them more comfortable.

[fedorahead]

damn, liberal crime squad: new age hitting way too close to home

[indouscurse]

you have to consciously unlearn racism and continue to watch for it because it will come out without realizing. because so much of society is structured around it. shrugging and going "i dont care" or "i dont know how else to say it" means you are okay with being racist and hurting other people with how much you dont give a shit about them.

[fedorahead]

i have to convince a 16 year old female m1 abrams that i'm a conservative, or i die

[fedorahead]

being haunted by catholic guilt without being catholic is dumb because you can't even eat crackers and drink wine and pretend they're gonna make you a better person

[fedorahead]

every time you push against the world's expectation of you, you get hurt. but the world doesn't get hurt at all. it gets better. and you grow up, and you push bigger, and it pushes you harder back into your little box. and the world has broken the spirits of so many of us, because it pushes so much harder. and convincing yourself it's worth pushing isn't just a logic game, it's overcoming forces larger than you that reach inside your soul and grip it. and it pushes even when you don't realize you're straying. and every single thing you do could be cause for criticism, and every question or inquiring glance could be the gateway to a punishing universe. and the harder a pusher you are, the stronger the force gets. to the point where you can't get out of your chair without calculating how many risks you're taking to do so. and leaving the house is a far-off fantasy. and the moments of joy get fewer and further between. and you remember the time where being ostentatiously you felt good, and you would do anything to go back and be that person again, to bring that energy to your life now. but you don't know how because you can't let yourself remember how, because you know that being that person, and the consequences of it, is how you became this one now. bitter, jaded, scared of your own shadow. the path feels repeatable, and maybe becoming that person means losing that person again and that's horrifying. and where some people say sorry, again and again, you ask for permission for things that you have every right to have instead. because maybe that wasn't something you could ever take for granted. or maybe you once could, and then something changed, and then you lost that trust in the universe.

[dateamonster]

look i WISH more horror movies were just the directors thinly disguised fetish. instead we got all these horror movies that are just undisguised reflections of culturally hegemonic values and anxieties. like if we got some weird fetishes up in here it would probably add some variety thats all im saying.