By Ijeoma Umebinyuo
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@feigned-perfection
By Ijeoma Umebinyuo
Radical softness is the idea that unapologetically sharing your emotions is a political move and a way to combat the societal idea that feelings are a sign of weakness.
Lora Mathis, interviewed by Hooligan Magazine (via synestheticwanderings)
Who else is busy confronting hard truths
PARADISE: LOVE - TRAILER
On the beaches of Kenya, theyāre known as āSugar Mamas:ā European women who seek out African boys, selling love to earn a living. Teresa, a 50-year-old Austrian and mother of a daughter entering puberty, travels to this vacation paradise. She goes from one Beach Boy to the next, from one disappointment to the next, and finally she must recognize: on the beaches of Kenya, love is a business.Ā
So are we supposed to feel bad for the white lady or nah?
why does the media keep tryina make me feel sorry for rich, amoral white ladies? I canāt do itā¦
I see these women a lot when I go to Mombasa. Theyāre literally just sex tourists and I side eye this film for trying to humanise themĀ
I AM SO ANNOYED right now. Ā I am so annoyed right now.Ā
Trigger warning for sex tourism
wow.
this is disgusting
but
also a good reminder that it isnāt only white men who engage in sex tourism
WHITE WOMEN ARE AND ALWAYS HAVE BEEN COMPLICIT IN WHITE SUPREMACY
This stuff is very rampant all over Africa and the Caribbean. In Jamaica, they call it ārent a rastaā or a ārent a dreadā. Divorced white women are blowing their alimony payments on ārent a rastaā in Jamaica. See a trailer for a documentary of it here.
In Nigeria, there are small pockets of women from the UK who have ārent boysā in cities like Port Harcourt, Uyo and Calabar. They prefer those places because they are very hospitable to foreigners, and it isnāt as congested or hectic like Lagos for instance. They can come and go as they please, and the likelihood of them getting scammed is much lower. They have boys the posted up in flats, and they visit them several times a year.
Make no mistake about it though, these women are predators. Their rent boys are usually young, around 18 and 19. You will rarely see them with men over 25. The younger ones are easier and cheaper to maintain, and they have high sex drives, which is why they are there. Itās a commodification of a taboo; sex with a black person. They get to live out their wild fantasies, and then they go home to their mundane, boring lives.
Iām always weary of white people in Africa in general. Be it ex-pats, vacationers, NGOs, UN peacekeepers, church groups or anyone else. There always seem to be ulterior motives with them, no matter how benevolent they appear on the surface. They will find a way to impose their sexual will and desires over people who are less fortunate. In the DRC, UN āpeacekeepersā were violating young girls. Child prostitution was rampant, and many were leaving girls pregnant. See here. This type of thing is widespread.
When white folks go to some tropical getaway where only black and brown folks are, the impetus for a lot of those trips are cheap thrills and cheap sex. They didnāt fly half way around the world just to lie down on a beach. Especially if itās a solo trip. They could have done that in locales much closer to home. 50 year old white men donāt go on solo trips to Kenya, the Dominican Republic or Thailand to take in the culture and to see the beach. They go for cheap sex, often with minors. White women are following their lead.
Anyway, what irks me about documentaries that focus on white women who partake in sex tourism is that they always try to humanize them, or make them out to be helpless women looking for love. No, these women are predators who are exploiting young men for sex. These dudes are poor. These white women arenāt going after the movers and shakers in society, or people with money in the countries they visit. They know what theyāre doing and their targets are the poor and vulnerable. They wave a few bucks in their face so they can have their way with their bodies. This is what it is.
Be weary of white people in general in Africa? There are white people who live in Africa who are not looking for cheap thrills but were simply born there and had no choice. I understand what youāre intending to say but your wording needs to be adjusted slightly.
Towards the film, I donāt understand who in their right mind sides with offending party. Just because it makes a better and lighter film? Completely against how the film makers decided to frame this movie.
re: the bold
Anytime Iām remotely critical of white people in Africa, someone always makes this point. I usually ignore it, but I wonāt today. This is the first thing that this person had to tackle and comment on. Out of all what I typed, this is was what they needed to address first. Ok then.
Iām an African. From the Niger Delta to be exact. It has been destroyed and exploited by white people, so my lived experiences tell me I should be especially wary of them. Places I visited regularly to see extended family have been destroyed and polluted. My people canāt fish and they canāt grow crops. It was their livelihood for generations. All that is left is ruin. Some of the white people responsible were born, bred or resided there because Royal Dutch Shell, BP, Chevron, Willbros Group, Exxon Mobile (btw Bill Gates is the largest shareholder in this company. Donāt believe his philanthropic BS. Exploitation is always at the root.) and other multinationals have been sending white people there to rob and exploit us for a very long time. Many of these white people live there and raise their families there. They are there eating good food, dancing to African music and fucking (literally and figuratively) African people, while their parents plunder the minerals in the country. These are the sons and daughters of a colonizing and brutal force who are only there because of unmerciful might and massive greed. There is no other reason. None. They didnāt emigrate to Africa at the behest or with approval from the locals. The driving force has always been greed. They came, they saw, they conquered. They seized lands that werenāt theirs. I wonāt ignore that, or the history of white people in Africa.
The history of white people in Africa has a repeating theme, and it always ends with them propping themselves up at the expense of indigenous Africans. Usually in some kind of imbalanced relationship where they get to exploit the indigenous and claim the mineral wealth and assorted treasures for themselves. Thatās when they arenāt sexually exploiting the locals, imposing their religious beliefs via missionary work, blindly working with unscrupulous NGOs who do more harm than good, claiming the rights to land that isnāt theirs, participating in slum tourism and exploitative photojournalism, or supplying the instruments of warfare to militias and warlords that will exacerbate unrest and civil wars, which makes it easier for them to further exploit the land and the people. We need to think about who facilitates the flow of weaponry used in African conflicts in the first place.
White people donāt go to be humble residents or to respect their host African nations. Not in the past, and not in the present. They donāt go to Africa to take a back seat to indigenous Africans, they go to commandeer and control. Often with bought and paid African leaders they use covertly, so that they can work behind the scenes and shift blame when the shit hits the fan. They impose their ideologies on unsuspecting people. They donāt look at the indigenous Africans as their equals. There is always paternalism, and Africans are always their subjects. They always go to Africa to take something. Even the white person who goes to Africa on a self-discovery trip to find themselves also takes. The people and the lands become a tool and a backdrop for whatever self-discovery crisis they are going through, and they will usurp the culture and land for their own benefit. Itās always about them and how they can benefit. Even when they appear benevolent, itās always about them. The Africans are their backdrop. They cannot help it. This is how white supremacy works. It is systemic. It doesnāt matter if they have good intentions. Power dynamics will overrule intentions.
The children of white African nationals donāt get a pass because they had no choice in their place of birth, or because they donāt realize that they are part of an occupying force. Being citizens of an African nation by virtue of birth changes nothing. You need to think hard on how those Europeans ended up in Africa in the first place. Wherever there is a sizable population of white people in Africa, ask yourself how they came to be and how white lineage started on those lands. Once you come to terms with those findings, realize that those findings donāt get wiped out because those white people gave birth to kids on the continent, or because they have been there for several generations.
What kind of point is āsomeone didnāt have a choice in where they were bornā anyway? Does anyone have a choice in where they are born? Thatās quite an irrelevant statement to make, and Iām not sure why people continue to make it as if it matters. Even when black people are being exploited by white people on their own lands, someone has to chime in to defend white people. Itās very unbecoming, and it lets me know what your priorities are.
Blizzard Christophe Jacrot
It is the dream-like aspect of climate that interests me, as well as its romantic-fictional dimension and its unpredictabilityāthat which emanates, after all, from the implacable whims of the skies and offers us an infinite range of atmospheric moods: a typhoon in Hong Kong, torrential rain in Tokyo, a snow storm in New York, icy rain in Greenland, a cloudburst in Paris, the monsoon in India, snowscapes in Iceland, a blizzard in Normandy, in Bucharest, or Chicagoā¦
I loved wandering through mega-cities as they grappled with weather phenomena, and capturing the harsh beauty of these āmeteorsā from the point of view of an observer of the fragile equilibrium of the world we live in.
Images and text via Christophe Jacrot
5 years ago Prince said King was the future of R&B. Their new album is proving him right.
Five years ago, R&B believed it had found its future in three songs. They came from King, a Los Angeles-based trio of two sisters Amber and Paris Strother and Anita Bias. Those songs made up an EP titled The Story, brimming with lush, dream-laden R&B. Prince was among their top endorsers.
However, as suddenly as the music flooded the space, it stopped. King went underground to record their new album. Years passed. Stars rose and fell. Friday, King finally emerged from their studio with a record. The albumās title makes a simple statement: We Are King.Ā
Within seconds of pressing play, listeners will understand what that means.
New thesis material.
okay but when bey said EIGHT continents i snortedĀ
I actually attack the concept of happiness. The idea that - I donāt mind people being happy - but the idea that everything we do is part of the pursuit of happiness seems to me a really dangerous idea and has led to a contemporary disease in Western society, which is fear of sadness. Itās a really odd thing that weāre now seeing people saying āwrite down 3 things that made you happy today before you go to sleepā, and ācheer upā and āhappiness is our birthrightā and so on. Weāre kind of teaching our kids that happiness is the default position - itās rubbish. Wholeness is what we ought to be striving for and part of that is sadness, disappointment, frustration, failure; all of those things which make us who we are. Happiness and victory and fulfillment are nice little things that also happen to us, but they donāt teach us much. Everyone says we grow through pain and then as soon as they experience pain they say āQuick! Move on! Cheer up!ā Iād like just for a year to have a moratorium on the word āhappinessā and to replace it with the word āwholenessā. Ask yourself āis this contributing to my wholeness?ā and if youāre having a bad day, it is.
Hugh MackayĀ (via cenobiteme)
Morning NY (at Tivoli, New York)
Missing this pup already š¶š¢ (at Heathrow Terminal 3)
Diamond girl takin me back State-side (at Heathrow Airport)
Like father like son. (at Chiswick House and Gardens)
A pillar has fallen but in its place more will rise. Bowie's such an epic fave I had to Repost this from @rebeccajoyoga
Peepin @ ya. Live from HKIA. š bye HK āļø (at Hong Kong International Airport)
Don't post food often anymore but damn that was some delicious fish. š šš¬š³ (at Sushi Mori)
When I was little I used to have names for the buildings in HK. The one on the right was the spaceship building. Fittingly driving past after finding out my favourite spaceman has passed. RIP David Bowie ⨠(at Hong Kong)