its getting to the point where i cant tell if people are purposefully misinterpreting my words or if they are just assuming the worst out of me because they saw the word feminist in the tags.
i never said that all trans people “believe child sexual exploitation is great.” never have i ever said anything even close to that, not in this post and not in any other.
what i DID say was people who claim to be representative of the trans community as a whole constantly reply to my posts about about child marriage with comments like “who cares” and my posts about rape saying things that imply that if i dont want to be raped i should change my belief system.
before and after saying that i go out of my way to clarify that i do NOT believe that the trans community as a whole thinks this way, and i go out of my way to say how horrible it is that these people with these view points are often the only interaction the tumblr feminist community and the tumblr trans community (or at least the people who claim to be part of it) ever have with each other.
i say that i wish there could be more open non hostile conversation between the two communities because the lack of it prevents each side from ever understanding and sympathizing with what the other side experiences and how those experiences effect our social and political beliefs.
i say that i dont believe that the whole trans community wants me to be raped and murdered (despite being told this) and in response people tell me im a bigot and deserve to be told these things because i acknowledge the people that say these things to me.
i say that both sides deserve empathy and understanding and the only way to do this is through open communication, and in response members of the trans community and members of the radfem community alike say that the other side is to extreme and far gone to deserve to be heard out.
you dont have to believe that people say those things to me, you dont have to believe that i really want positive change or that my intentions are truly pure, but every time you purposefully assume the worst out of someone and ignore their attempts to reach out and find things to connect on you push us farther and farther away from ever being able to stop fighting each other and start making meaningful change for both groups.
and this isnt directed at the person in the reply. this is directed at every person who assumes an entire group is evil without even bothering to let them show you what they truly believe and why.
i choose to love and support and learn about the trans community no matter how many rape and death threats i get, if the fact that i do this while using radfem tags makes me a bigot with bad intentions then i guess im a bigot with bad intentions.