did adeline not groom slade when he was a teen in the army or am i genuinely crazy i feel like there was a comic with it but idk if it's even an actual thing or got retconned
this isn't me trying to hate its a genuine question because i wanna learn and don't want to have any misconceptions about characters n stuff
thanks for the clarification at the end cause people "ask" this so condescendingly to the point it's not even a question anymore.
anyways to answer your question i feel like i should address this one thing. grooming has multiple meanings and has evolved over the years. you probably know this but you'd be surprised how some people don't and some are willfully ignorant about this concept. grooming is not always sexual and grooming can come in many forms.
that being said adeline did not groom slade as a teenager or sexually at that. slade joined the military at sixteen (later seventeen in rebirth) and didn't meet addie until he was a major. while he was obviously gifted and a great fighter he couldn't have become a major that fast lol also he didn't meet adeline the first year he joined. in fact if i'm not mistaken he met wintergreen before her. so they met when they were both consensual adults although i will admit there is an age gap.
also people will say they got married when he was 18. that's a damn lie.
(tales of the teen titans #44)
i mentioned grooming earlier because while i said she didn't groom him sexually i WILL say she groomed him into the military industrial complex. while he didn't need her help to join as he chose to join due to his abusive home life she arguably did train him to be a better fighter. also, you could argue wintergreen also enabled some of these aspects.
i'm going to assume the reason why you feel this way is because of the out of context panel that floats around from the priest run where the riddler basically says "groomed him for genetic experimentation..." and ever since then people who are illiterate and have chip on their shoulder use that as their #1 source. this leads to a misconception that he didn't want to take the serum but literally in every iteration he willingly volunteered to take said serum.
so yes... adeline groomed him and so did the entire military. that being said no she isn't a pedo like certain people want you to believe. also, funny enough she's actually stated to be slade's junior in pre new 52. marv's misunderstanding of the military is a whole nother thing we can get into that also contributes to this convo lol.
(dc's who's who in the dc universe #9)
will i say their relationship is perfect or healthy ? no. not at all. however people do tend to do a lot when it comes to them specifically adeline. i've seen people try to use her "grooming" him as to why he groomed a teenage girl (applies to before and after THAT retcon) when he was very much created specifically to be a villain and to play a part in the judas contract.
sorry this was longer than expected but i just wanted to clear some things up and put down my sources.