I’m not trying to attack you or anything, just trying to get a more clear idea.
But from what I’m understanding a creator posted a boundary about something they’re uncomfortable with and you’re just deciding to ignore it?? If so, that’s actually insanely disrespectful. If not, is there possibly something more clarifying to say?
I’m actually glad you asked! This is probably the last post I’m going to be making on this subject, but let me provide you with a comparison that might make things easier to understand.
This is a bit like someone you know saying; “Hey, people listening to rap music makes me uncomfortable, can you please stop?”
And it’s like… what? I mean, I can… not play it out loud when I know you’re around. A bit of a weird request to make, but if it’s really that bad, then I don’t mind making accommodations.
And they reply with; “No. The fact that people listen to it all makes me uncomfortable. I want you to stop listening to it entirely. It’s against my boundaries.”
Which like… that isn’t a boundary. A boundary is something that dictates how people interact with YOU. Like, I can’t even listen to it in my OWN privacy? How the hell does that affect you in any way, shape, or form? That isn’t a boundary, it’s an attempt to control my personal agency and interests. I don’t even have to LIKE rap music very much for this to be a problem.
Then they say; “If I catch you or anyone else in this community listening to or creating rap music, then I will be sending people to harass and excommunicate you from this space.”
like… ??? I’m sorry, but that’s absurd. You do realize how that’s entirely absurd and unreasonable, right? In a community that is known for loving and thrives off of it? It is not our job to coddle your internet experience- if something is triggering or makes you uncomfortable then it is your responsibility to avoid those things. I am not shoving these things in your face, and at this point you’re only going to find it if you are actively looking for it.
This doesn’t even begin to address the issue of queer-baiting and internalized homophobia of the matter. A fan space ultimately belongs to the fans, first and foremost. If there is something that makes you uncomfortable, then you don’t have to interact with it at all. When you share a creation, you forfeit control over how people perceive and interpret those things, that’s just the nature of art and performance. If you truly cannot handle the way people interact with the things you make, then perhaps this is not a career you are fully equipped to handle.
Hopefully this helps explain a couple things- this allegory has been floating around in my mind for a while, and I appreciate the excuse to share my perspective on things.