Along the same vine as the previous post, I’m not a female who never blames my environment, my family or my sweet husband. In fact, I’m quite well-practiced at reality-denial and placing blames.
The body issue blame, however, has never been my game. Even thought, I think it is amazing that plus-sized models are a thing these days and there is a movement towards healthier-weighed models.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a skinny, “perfect” bodied lady. I was told by my GP when I was 17 that I needed to lose weight. I think I was around 66kg at 165cm at the time. The GP’s explained to me that women get fatter as they get older due to metabolism slowing down, and if I didn’t start losing weight then, I would grow into an obese Asian woman by the time I was my 40. I did not like my size, I felt heavy, but at the same time, I didn’t pay too much attention to what the GP said. I had poor discipline and I was not a fan of exercising or dieting - due to the poor discipline and self-control.
Fast-track 15 years, I have been between 57-60kg for the past 2 years without having committed myself to any diet programme or exercise programme. I’m at a healthy weight, and I don’t have a magazine bikini body, and to be honest, it really doesn’t bother me. I have my own bikini body.
(I’m not only lighter but taller as well - I grew 2cm since graduating from university. Girls stop growing at 15/16 years of age is a bit of a myth in my opinion)
And how did I lose the weight? I would put it down to being happier, living more mindfully, having made friends with a few of my demons, and now I focus on eating foods that actually make me feel good after eating them. I stopped eating most cakes because they give me a sugar headache and yucky feelings in my throat after eating; most of the time I steer way away from crisps as well for the same reason - I feel yuck after eating these things. Oh, and I stopped overeating and mindlessly eating.
I believe a lot of women would actually get a body they are much happier with, if some introspection and mindfulness were employed in their daily lives.
Stop reading the tabloids, stop reading the women’s magazines or looking at billboards with a skinny ladies and feel the unjust of this “patriarchal” society we live in.
Start reading our inner reality. This is where the gold is.
