I always hated when people told me how to live my life, even when I knew they meant well. It’s my life–and while I appreciate people sharing their life experience with me–I don’t appreciate being bullied into living a certain way based on someone else’s experience. When I realized I was treating the person I loved the same way, I understood why there was tension in our relationship. Now I see that when you love someone it’s better to provide them with the support and encouragement s/he needs to grow on their own–rather then try to mold them into something you think they should be or what you think you want them to be.





