Hi, I have been sick for three years and recently started dating this guy I met on tinder. He knows about my illness but I am nervous about relationships while being ill. Any tip for navigating with new relationships while being ill and managing the anxiety that you aren’t enough because you aren’t able bodied?
Being sick while being in a relationship has it’s hurdles, but as long as you communicate, are honest, and open, then everything should work out fine. I have like seven illnesses and I’m still with my able-bodied boyfriend after three years. Just make sure you let them know how you feel and why you can’t or don’t want to do something because you’re feeling ill. They should understand. So it’s not anything to be super nervous about, it’s just another aspect of being sick that you will just have to deal with. I think it might actually be easier than other relationships, because that person is someone you trust and can be very open with, even with gritty details.
If someone says that you are not enough or won’t love you because you’re sick, which is something you can’t control, then they’re terrible and not worth being with. If you have a mentality like that then you won’t be anxious that you’re not enough… because you are.