radical but still pretty chill

follow 4 pastel grunge questioning of easily marketable feminism

[foulserpent]

god not to beat a dead  horse but peak MOGAI tumblr is taking a Serious symptom of sexual trauma that is Absolutely Not a part of a healthy sex life and should be a sign that you should seek help. and calling it a sexuality

[oncelerfucker69-deactivated2019]

this is like…a major symptom of abuse

[closet-keys]

we desperately need more education on healthy sexuality, compulsory heterosexuality, internalized homophobia, sexual abuse, coercion, trauma symptoms, and meaningful consent to replace contextless validation of every experience with the implication that any possible relationship to sex is healthy. 

young people are being groomed into believing sexual abuse is just a natural part of their identity and it’s incredibly scary that abusers have been able to co-opt the general language of sexual/romantic orientation to normalize this.

it’s really important that adults help kids and teens in our community understand that this is not what orientation is. 

informed education needs to replace contextless validation

[cheaphalloweencostume]

I was asking myself just now why they have “16 and pregnant” but not “16 and impregnated a girl” but I realized it would be pretty boring to watch a 16 year old boy play video games and go to school and live life as normal

[eclaire89]

Whoop there it is

[grumpy-radfem]

also:

[themanicpixiedreamgrrrl]

[vanillasunsets]

say it louder for the pedophiles hiding in the back

[jendahsucks-blog]

This is your periodic reminder that nine out of ten of prostitutes do not want to be in prostitution. If you care about listening to sex worker voices and trusting them to know what’s best for themselves, the best thing you can do to support prostituted women and men is to push for more comprehensive exit services. 

http://www.prostitutionresearch.com/pdf/Prostitutionin9Countries.pdf

[fairypage-deactivated20190421]

corporate feminism is a vicious cycle which consists of:

- pretending women are oppressed for being feminine

- telling women it’s ok to be feminine when this sentiment is already everywhere

- creating even more rigid and impossible beauty standards 

- using the opportunity to sell women more useless beauty products, clothes, shoes and plastic surgery

- starting all over again

[reina-rubia]

Hattie J on the connection between eating disorders and Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) in young girls

[kesus-deactivated20180911]

Young girls really are pressured now more than ever to be seen as beautiful and sexy and perfect like IG models and whatever the fuck…..like that’s why you see “me at 14 vs 14 year old girls today” posts……….we didn’t have this constant stream of content like they do…..content telling us to be perfect and to have perfect clothes and sharp eyeliner wings that look photoshopped and shit like that….I mean it’s always been there but not like this…and while I think girls should be able to dress however they want and do whatever they want…..you have to take into consideration the fact that this all stems from a toxic culture where women have to be perfect and beautiful…now at younger and younger ages….and it’s really gross…and the media continues to sexualize and like…make young girls seem older and more appealing than they actually are idk the whole thing makes me so uncomfortable and it’s only going to get worse :/

[djokovicnovak-deactivated201809]

And the wildest thing is, people will still try and justify it with the “there’s always been girls that dress older than they are!” argument. Which is true. But it was never the norm. Pre social media, most young girls were allowed be young girls. Here’s Miley Cyrus, Selena Gomez and Lindsay Lohan at 14/15 in 2001-2007. They were arguably the biggest young stars of the time but this is how they presented

They aren’t being styled to look leagues older than they are. They’re allowed to just be their own age and look their own age. Now, here’s Millie Bobbie Brown at 13 in 2018, Veronika Bonell at 15/16 in 2017, Skai Jackson at 13 in 2015, and Caitlin Carmichael at 13 in 2017.

There is a deep problem in our society that this is what people are styling children to look like. They don’t look like children, they look like young adults. They could wear these exact same looks in 10 years and they wouldn’t be questioned because they’re dressed and made up to present as adults. This is what is presented as normal for young girls, this is the image they’re told is the “right” one, the one they should aspire to.

There’s nothing wrong with girls - or boys - wanting to be pretty. But there is a problem with young girls being constantly told that pretty for them means looking over 21 at 13.

[powerfulwizard]

DDLG is a gateway into normalizing pedophilic behavior. Orgasming is positive reinforcement, and sexualizing childlike behavior is going to make you attracted to childlike behavior, regardless of where it comes from.

[wolpertinger-prince]

[feministism]

[radical-bias]

If putting naked pictures of your ex on the web for other men to pleasure themselves to is “revenge,” what does that say about pornography in general?

[mossghoul]

I hate the whole culture that valourises women who ‘take a chance’ on men who objectively have terrible prospects wrt generally moving forward and aren’t capable of contributing emotionally or financially or otherwise to the relationship. It encourages women to settle for less because of the vague hope that things are gonna get better. It contributes to the sunk cost fallacy wrt the relationship. It turns women into pseudo-mothers/carers. It tells us to self-efface, always, for the sake of a man.

[mossghoul]

If you stop wearing makeup, stop getting manicures, stop plucking your eyebrows and dyeing and heat treating your hair and fastidiously putting on night repair serums and pinching your feet into pointy heels and sucking yourself in with spanx and wearing impractical lingerie and bleaching the tiny hairs above your lip, the world won’t stop.  You’ll be the same strong, compelling, lovely woman you always have been. Just as radiant, just as worthy of love and desire and respect. Other people may treat you differently, but that doesn’t alter your value as a woman. Your value transcends your conformity to femininity.

[lavenderpanda-deactivated202604]

why is femininity here being equated with artificiality?

[mossghoul]

Because baby girls aren’t born wanting to wing their eyeliner and restrict calories and defer to men. Femininity consists of a set of behaviours that is socially-imposed upon women to demarcate women’s social class. That’s why so many aspects of femininity are actively harmful and restrictive. Femininity isn’t simply about expression, it is an all-encompassing role imposed on a class of people. The failure of female people to conform to this role leads to violence and discrimination.

This post isn’t calling women fake, it’s drawing attention to the fact that femininity isn’t inherent to women, and isn’t a natural state of being. Femininity as we know it is enforced by men, assisted by female self-policing. If patriarchy did not exist, and little girls weren’t socialised into femininity from birth, then femininity as we know it would not exist.

[fifthwave-sideblog]

This is a wonderful post and it reminds me of this post about how a woman found unexpected freedom when she and her boyfriend stopped living together because, when not always in the presence of male company, she no longer felt pressure to always primp and make herself “presentable” (read: artificial) within the confines of her home.

It is really hard for me to imagine a world where I stop investing so much time and money into beauty routines while still remaining happy. I can’t imagine what it would take for me to stop doing everything in OP’s post and still feel successful and strong but I really hope I find a way! I have tried to outgrow femininity in the past but I always feel ugly and therefore miserable. Some day! Posts like this remind me to keep this goal in my heart instead of just saying c’est la vie.

[mossghoul]

I really hope you get there, I honestly do, and I hope that even if you don’t, you find happiness. Two years ago I did everything on this list, and couldn’t have imagined anything else. Regardless of how we look, our achievements and our personalities shine through. Anyone worth their salt will be there for you.

[fifthwave-sideblog]

thank you so much <33 you seem like such a warm person and your reply put a big smile on my face!

[samflow]

The SCAR Project: Breast Cancer Is Not A Pink Ribbon

The SCAR Project is a series of large-scale portraits of young breast cancer survivors shot by fashion photographer David Jay. Primarily an awareness raising campaign, The SCAR Project puts a raw, unflinching face on early onset breast cancer while paying tribute to the courage and spirit of so many brave young women.

Dedicated to the more than 10,000 women under the age of 40 who will be diagnosed this year alone, The SCAR Project is an exercise in awareness, hope, reflection and healing.

Read more here

[pmmdj]

www.thescarproject.org/david-jay

[gael-garcia]

♫ Pink like the inside of your, baby / Pink like the walls and the doors, maybe / Pink like your fingers in my, maybe / Pink is the truth you can’t hide / Pink like your tongue going round, baby / Pink like the sun going down, maybe / Pink like the holes in your heart, baby / Pink is my favourite part ♫

Janelle Monáe & Tessa Thompson in the official video for PYNK

[straightgirls]

Is it just me or is the “body positive” movement not working? Like at all?

[nada-mal]

Other people have said this before/better, but the problem was presenting all women as beautiful as opposed to eliminating the need for women to be beautiful

[wine-and-queer-deactivated20180]

It’s not working because the focus is STILL on trying to view yourself as attractive no matter how you look, instead of (as stated above) eliminating the need to feel “attractive.“

The body positive movement SHOULD be focused on bodily autonomy and taking care of your health. The best way to be “positive” toward your body is to treat it well, not by repeating some “I am beautiful” mantra over and over. You don’t have to be pretty. You don’t have to see yourself as pretty. Others don’t have to see you as pretty. PRETTY IS NOT IMPORTANT. Pretty is not your worth. You exist for you, not for anyone else’s gaze.

[inkskinned]

Me: oh oops I almost drank my paint water lmao

The pretentious man writing my life: this is what drove him crazy about her, her wildness, her insanity. One moment she was peaceful, the artist in her nest - the next, she dived into chaos, dined on it, challenged it. Just when he thought he understood her, she moved to again rewrite her definition, always unknowable, always glittering like the ocean, hinting at a story yet untold, laughing at a joke not meant for him, her eyes twinkling with secrets and humor and the otherworldly feminine. She was surrounded by color, loved it so much she tried to pour it inside of her, tried to poison herself with it, tried to paint even her organs. He wanted to kiss her, to entangle that art into his own skin - but the moment was passed. She was again order, peace. The chaos ceased. He didn’t even get to touch her boobies.

[hobs-birb]