Girls are crazy; guys are stupid.
What are your thoughts on vulnerability?
What are your thoughts on girls who feel like they will never meet a guy they can open up to?
Maybe it’s difficult to empathize because I’ve always been romantically-inclined - for good or for bad. Probably as a result of my family and my upbringing, fear of vulnerability and fear of love does not come as natural to me. But I wonder for those who fear this, what is it that scares you? Is it because you fear being unknown? Or fear being known incorrectly?
Do you fear friendship in the same way?
In my personal opinion, I don’t think a romantic relationship has to be any different than a friendship. In fact, in the best case scenario, not much is different other than the potential for a lifelong partnership. Of course, the compatibility needed is much higher, but there is so much to gain from learning from and with another person. Is it because you don’t see these “men” out there as having anything to offer? I have found those the most valuable to have in my life have the absolute most to offer. As a flawed person (like we all are), I don’t think a perspective such as “we will always be the ones out of their league” is a healthy one to have. It breeds an unbalance of ego and an unbalance of respect. And at the core of it - you cannot demand respect without giving it. Why would you want to spend time with someone you don’t respect anyways? I think in order to truly understand the compatibility and type of person that will have the most potential for mutual growth, you have to understand your own flaws first. Obviously, after understanding them, working on them yourself is a good second step too. No one is perfect, and I think assuming someone else is going to be smart and hot and humble and kind but not giving yourself the same standards to meet is merely hypocritical. Only then can you be vulnerable with yourself and connect with another person in a genuine and mutual way.
To know yourself honestly and genuinely is to be vulnerable with yourself. Then and only then can you be vulnerable with others.
