One day you’ll have whatever it is you’re now so confusedly seeking. That kind of calm that comes from knowing oneself and others. But you can’t rush the arrival of that state of mind. There are things you only learn when no one teaches them. And that’s how it is with life. There’s even more beauty in discovering it for yourself, in spite of the suffering.
Clarice Lispector, from “Gertrudes asks for advice” in The Complete Stories
#there are things you only learn when no one teaches them.#i always feel bad taking firever to learn something people older than me say they would have learned a lot sooner in their lives#it always bugged me how inefficient it is thay almost every person alive has to reinvent the wheel for themselves#by experiencing different parts of life for themselves and living through their struggles instead of learning just from the advice of others#but im slowly accelting that this is just how life is#youth is 'wasted' on the young over and over and over again because we all need to learn for ourselves#there are some things that cant be taught or understood deeply through only theory#you just have to reinvent that wheel yourself#no matter how well people describe the grass on the other side of the fence you always just gotta see jt yourself
