I don't know if you're still active enough to see this, but I'll try my best to explain the history and difference here.
The difference between xenogenders and xenoids is that
Xenoids are a label used to describe aspects of an individual's core personality, interests, or traits using specific concepts or things, entirely separate from their gender, all of this makes it rather apart of a certain trait of their identity, not gender
Xenogenders are people who use metaphors or hypotheticals to describe their gender, or someone who views their gender roles as a certain concept/object/etc, or someone who's gender was influenced by something (which there's a microlabel for that. It's called veogender), xenogender is basically an umbrella term at that point. Multiple experiences/defenitions.
Xengen kids just....well...have a different way of looking at gender! and honestly, there's nothing wrong with that at all. It's just a merely misunderstood concept by some people, and a lot of them confuse it for alterhumanity at some times, too.
Actually, we aren't ENTIRELY different. We have differences, but we also have similarities. We are BASICALLY the "same", it's just that the difference is that xenoids aren't gender based, while xenogenders are...which I already explained that, but this one is a bit more simplified.
And yea. It's true. Back in 2021-2020 or somewhere near that era, genoid (Old gen Xenoid users) folks disliked xenogender kids, I watched it happen myself.
Actually, the concept of xenoids was made as a protest and to separate themself from xenogenders because there was a big misconception that xenogenders "harmed" the lgbtq/queer community, or that it was "made to be transphobic" (which is completely false, these accusations came from people who didn't like different flavors of queer, they saw something too abnormal and tried to push it away to "look normal", while theres nothing wrong with wanting to be accepted, the problem is they are targetting the wrong people TO BE aaccepted).
Although during that era, personally for me, I saw the definition and just used it for what it was for, not for what it was going against. Never was and never will be against my xengen folks/siblings.
But mannnny of these xenoid users were either transmeds or people who couldn't tell apart from sex and gender. Gender is a role, sex is biology. And they were basically convinced that xengen folks were "speaking over transsex/transgenders!" (Yes I'm also targeting a very specific blog. Even if it's been inactive SINCE 2023-2024, I have it blocked regardless )
The community was full of bullshit. But later, they eventually gave up their protest, I'm sure they probably moved onto tiktok or whatever platform they wanna cause drama on. Or maybe youtube even.
Now the community is just...dead, and well I guess, in a way, it's defenition now evolved to it being no longer a protest, at least that's how I see it. I feel like very specific people like me just reclaim it in some ways. Because barely anyone I see now that uses xenoids are anti-xengens, most either don't care or are pro-xengen (like I am), its just people like me expressing themself through connection/flags/identity in a very specific way. Since then xengen kids and xenie kids coexist in harmony after all of that.
Hope that was informative