Anxiboygender is a xenogender for those who identify primarily as a boy/man (or with masculinity) but experience strong urges to express softness, cuteness, “femboy-like” qualities or playful/feminine aesthetics— such as wearing pink, dressing cute, or embodying gentle traits. These desires are often entangled with anxiety, fear, sadness, and pain caused by internalized transphobia and restrictive societal expectations of masculinity.
An Anxiboygender person may wish to embrace softness, cuteness, or femme-coded aesthetics while still rejecting anything that associates them with girls or women (e.g., being called “princess,” “fem,” or “girly”). Their identity remains rooted in boyhood and masculinity, even as it explores gentle femininity or softness on its own terms.
They may also feel deep envy toward cis femboys and other transmascs who can freely embody femme aesthetics without conflict. Anxiboygender represents a masculine identity intertwined with gentleness and softness, often shadowed by tension, longing, and the struggle for acceptance.
While it is centered around people who experience anxiety, it is not limited to them. This xenogender can also be embraced by enby mascs who share these experiences!
Coined by me!
✦ Flag meaning:
#7a929c • Dusty blue: masc/boy core.
#93a4ab • Muted blue-gray: masc stability but dulled by anxiety.
#e3e3e3 • Pale gray: repression, internal conflict.
#93a4ab • Dusty pink: softness, cuteness, femme-coded desires.
#bfb4c4 • Muted lavender: in-between space, envy, longing for free femme expression.
DNI: T.R.A.S.H, child predators, ableists/sanists, anti pet/age regression/dreaming, anti paraphilia, anti alterhuman/physical nonhumanity, radnormal, cleanqueer, xenosatanists, kinradicals, theriomeds, harmful/anti transIDs, pro/neu/comp contact paraphiles, antishippers, TMA/TME users, pro government/military, exclusionists, puritans, arthropod/mollusk kins, if you post insect pictures or talk about them, anti plurality, those who judge others based on personal religious beliefs*, MAGA/ICE supporters, f/o doubles, and alters/roleplayers/kins of my f/os
*ex. "I am against your sexuality because of my religion"
I look at every blog that interacts with me! I'm a NO-ACT paraphile! Even if I'm uncomfortable with your paraphilias, you deserve sunshine. I'm radinclus, fleur, & purepunk, & KogumanekoPunk!! Transrace, transdisabled, & radqueer critical but not anti
Alterhuman identities: canidae cladotherian/holothere, demon/incubus choicekin, backrooms entity otherspin, euclid SCP otherspin, Among Us impostor otherchain, fruit bat otherlink
Neurodiversity & disorders: AuDHD, OCD, BPD, cPTSD, social anxiety, major depression, hypersexuality, general anxiety, maladaptive daydreaming (moderate support needs)
Instead of a human/person, I prefer to be called a: canid/puppy, any member of the canidae family, any dog breed that doesn't have a flat snout, a demon, an incubus, an SCP, an entity, an impostor, a cherry, or a creature!!
Miscellaneous: I'm a theistic satanist, gnostic, draw, write lyrics & poetry, and I love music! My favorite color is orange, I'm POSIC+, extremely entomophobic, and I'm an INFJ!!! Here is my pronouns page! I'm also Myheroacademiaixure!! Maybe visit my Quotev account if you want to see the fandoms that I'm in, poems/songs I've made, and other miscellaneous stuff about me! Here is a master list of the alterhuman playlists I've made! I'm a fear based misanthropist. If you're wondering, my pfp is one of my dogs; His name is Choe Choe and he's a senior Chihuahua. I text how I speak (boutta, y'all, doin', etc.). My best friend is @felikit and you should follow her now!! If you like me, you'll like purr :3
Disclaimer: I'm still getting used to all this "act like a human" stuff, so please be transparent with me; Tell me what I'm doing wrong, but kindly, please :3 It's embarrassing to be wrong, but I want everypup to be comfortable and safe! PLEASE be upfront about your boundaries right away, politely! I do use c.ai so block me if that bothers you, but I avoid ai other than that. I'm an artist after all!
ASK TO DM!!! And I'm not stupid; I won't let you use my paraphilias to harm me. I am open to paraphilic discussion, but don't go too far with me. Let's unlearn paramisia! Here is my paraphilia blog! @proudparapuppy
I have a new side blog as of 6/28/26! It's just for reposts cuz this blog was getting cluttered; @orange-reblogging I also have a stimboard reblogging side blog; @cherries-stimgarden
Please don't mention "God", because it makes me uncomfortable. I don't like the Demiurge.
Yes, I am an irl yandere. My romantic f/os are my darlings, but I have had 3D darlings before when I was younger. It didn't end well for either of us the first time! And the second one just hurt me. In freshman year, I had another one, but he was already in a relationship. It drove me insane... I haven't had a 3D darling since then. I'm a worship & obsession type! Here's a yandere playlist I made! :3
Here is my Ficto Log on Quotev! It has song playlists I made for some of my f/os and other stuff related to my relationships! I'm not poly; I consider all my relationships separate! Except in specific situations, but I still don't consider myself poly.
F/Os:
Romantic f/os (aka my husbands): Izuku Midoriya (who is TLOML 💕), Soshiro Hoshina, Harvey Harvington, Fumikage Tokoyami, Katsuki Bakugo, Shota Aizawa, Tomura Shigaraki, Dr. Jack Bright, Dr. Simon Glass, Kaga Kusha, Andrew Graves (don't even get me started on his sister), Braeburn Apple, Huey Freeman, Riley Freeman*
Crushes: Roger Smith (Big O), Pim & Charlie, Zuko, Springtrap, Vincent Charbonneau, Johnny C (JTHM), Sal Fisher, Senpai (FNF), Shadow The Hedgehog, Rick Sanchez, Pico (FNF), Gregory Eddie, Robin (TTG), Sonar (Dispatch), Jude Lizowski (6teen), Umbert, Elder Mark
Enemies: Ochaco Uraraka, Himiko Toga, Ross Geller, Ashley Graves
Characters I relate to: Sheldon Cooper, Gregory Eddie, Janine Teagues, Beast Boy, Izuku Midoriya, Chandler Bing, Kyle Broflovski, Squidward, SpongeBob, Mangle, Tomura Shigaraki, Twilight Sparkle, Rarity, Rigby, Morty Smith
*I didn't have a choice in falling in love with them. My attraction stems from the fact they are written like young adults, and it's hard to see them as their ages because of that. I have a therapist, so you don't have to tell me to get one. Please be understanding when approaching me with this topic! I do not want to be a part of drama/discourse. No, I do use my teenfluidity as an "excuse".
‼️I'm NOT a "casual" ficto or a yumeshipper/selfshipper. I just so happen to form bonds with many fictional characters. I do not "collect" nor hugblanket. I do not "choose" f/os. These are real relationships to me and I cherish them. They developed over time like any other relationship. Please DNI if you don't treat your f/os with the same respect you'd show a 3D partner.‼️
This is my new song hyperfixation!! (I always update)
a xenoid and/or xenogender related to any type of white lily and comforting connections & complicated definitions of love. yearning for days in the warm sunlight, surrounded by lillies and with someone you adore.. it also feels sort of hazy, as if this scenery is trapped in a memory.
I'm curious bur what does that post mean saying xenoids are inherently anti-xenogender? I don't really understand nor do I know how zenoids are different in that regard
xenoid / xenoidentity was coined by a transmedicalist as an alternative to xenogender. from their own carrd (archive link): "Xenoidentities are identities based off things you connect to. These were created because Xenogenders are harmful, and gender is hardwired into your brain."
by the original standards by the term, xenoids and xenogenders are incompatible, because they view xenogenders as innately harmful. the MOGAI community promptly did not give a fuck.
nowadays, people use them alongside xenogenders, and after a while transmeds seem to have given up on the concept. the line between xeniden (archive link) and xenoidentity appears to have been blurred significantly, and i often see them being used interchangeably.
from the stuff linked in the carrd's resources (archive link), /r/xenoidentified was dead on arrival, the tumblr blog has been pretty much dead since 2022, the xenoidentity wiki seems to have one or 2 people interacting with it per year since 2021, and /r/xenoidentities is both dead and seemingly defined it as being inclusive of xenen who use them alongside xenogenders
A xenoidentity system related to both cuteness and [x]. Any non-gender part of one's identity connecting to or being described by [x] and cuteness, [x] being cute, being cute and [x], [x] in a cute context, one's [x] xenoidentity being inherently tied to cuteness, etc.
Flag parts:
Patterns taken from here and here , center sparkle symbol made by Us and Up (flaticon link)
