What everyone talks about these days are the positivity of being a mom, a holistic approach to healing, how to teach your kids the ABCs and the hijaiyyah as soon as they’re out of the womb, how breast is best, how to be a Mother or else your kids will turn into scums of society one day. You get the drift. Nope, not being dramatic. And not saying that all the above aren’t good either.
Ok, positivity is good. People always want to be the better version of themselves and it’s great that they will do whatever it takes to be one. But have you stopped and pondered on what would happen if you take a step back and not have to be part of these ideals. And continue to live your own lives doing whatever you feel is right for you and your kids?
Well, for starters, you can take your time. Take your time to learn, breathe, cry, smile, you know, whatever emotions there are. Raising a child is hard work. However, you don’t have to follow what other people are doing to nurture and raise their kids. You don’t have to stress yourselves constantly to be the better version of yourselves because nobody is there to tell you what to do. You set your own rules, rules that you are comfortable with. Work towards that. Only then, you CAN be the better version of yourselves.
From time to time, you may be swayed by others’ way of doing things because let’s face it, we are just human. It’s fine to get swayed but at least know what you’re getting yourselves into, NOT because it IS the trendiest thing to do at the moment. God no please.
You don’t have to be a part of something because it’s trendy and because all moms who are doing it are considered cool. Stop trying so hard to be socially acceptable and being part of the perfect, cool mom group. You don’t have to be pressured to be that mother who sends her kids to all the best schools, the mother who home schools, the mother who doesn’t allow her kids any screen time, the mother who only serves organic food. Come on. What works for them may not work for you.
Start normalising the normal. Stop pressuring yourselves to be something you are not. Motherhood is already challenging enough as it is. You need to know that you are doing enough. Tell yourself that. Whatever decisions and choices you make, it’s super ok because you say so. Don’t let others dictate your way of mothering.
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