Help a Trans Girl Escape the South Without Becoming Homeless(EDIT: Safe for the moment! Thank you for the support!)
Links at the end.
In 4 days my name will legally be changed. This is such an amazing and wonderful step forward in my life and in my transition. It's also far more terrifying than it ought to be.
I'm still in my dad's house. Every day I'm forced to overhear people spreading horrific transphobia on Fox News or whatever Christian channels my dad and his wife watch. On the occasion I hear either of them talking about queer people and queer issues I have to hear hate and bigotry from their mouths too. I've had to listen to his wife tell her friend whose daughter is a lesbian to reject her own child and all but disown the poor young woman. I avoid both of them to the best of my ability.
At home I have to wear clothes that are loose enough to hide the effects of HRT and androgynous enough to not give any hints as to my own gender. I spent 90% of every day sitting at home in my pajamas. If I want to go out in the clothes that I want to wear, I have to plan 2 outfits, both what I want to wear and something that I can safely be seen in when leaving and returning home in case my dad happens to be walking around the house. I have to change my clothes in the car. Sometimes when I worry that my dad might walk outside while I'm changing, I have to drive around for a while looking for a secluded and empty parking lot to change in. Just going out is exhausting and coming home just means immediately and quickly changing back into pajamas.
It's so miserable and stifling in this house. It's so tiring to live like this. Outside the house isn't much better. With the looks I sometimes get, the threatening behaviors people make around me. The cruelty and hatred that permeates every part of this shitty region is so uncomfortable and scary and there are few places that I can escape it, not even my own home.
One way or another, things have to change for me. Once my name change is complete and I've updated all of my documents, I'll be coming out to my dad with a letter on his bed and a few booklets I ordered for him to read that will, if I'm very lucky, help him understand how to connect with, support, and love his daughter. Unfortunately I know him too well and can't allow myself to even hope for any kind of positive reaction. I have about a week to prepare to leave forever.
I know what he watches on TV and online. I know what he listens to on the radio. I know the articles he reads. I know where he gets his ideology from. I had a thought, as I was considering how I might come out to him so I can at least get past this need to repress myself at home. I realized that that there's a chance that he could find out and decide to follow the advice of monsters he watches like Tucker Carlson and simply walk into my room while I sleep and kill me. That possibility seems impossible to me, yet a small part of me doubts that it's truly impossible. After all, how could someone listen to so much hatred for people like me, so many extreme positions about how trans women deserve death, and then continue to listen to them? For this reason, when I come out, I'll be spending the night with a friend with my most important possessions packed in my car, ready to never come home if that's what it takes to be safe.
I have a few local friends who will give me a temporary place to stay and another friend in another state who's offered to help me get started in my own place near him and help me get a little bit on my feet. The place I'll move isn't a great step up from where I'm at now, but it's at least a little better and somewhere to start until I can get somewhere I want to be.
I have barely enough money saved up to support myself as it is, let alone move to a new state. I'm still paying $350/month for laser hair removal (fortunately it's a chain and there's a clinic near where I might move) and my HRT costs about $100/3 months. I need more money to get out of here and I need it soon. The folks in town who will help me can't host me for very long and I'll probably have to stay with several of them over a few days until everything I need to take care of in town is dealt with and I'm ready to leave. Even if by some miracle my dad decides to be a decent human being about this and not make my life a living hell, I'm still going to need to get out as soon as possible. Things are very bad here and only getting worse. The only thing that changes in that slim chance is that I'll have a little bit longer and a little more freedom to prepare.
Please donate if you can! I know we're all struggling here, but I desperately need to get somewhere safe. I need to be somewhere I can actually live my life. If you have anything to spare, I'll gladly take anything I can get.
Donation links:
Cashapp: $ninefoldrin
Venmo: ninefoldrin
Ko-fi: ninefoldrin
(Might add more later)
(Original post below the Read More)
I've been debating whether to make a post like this or not. I prefer to give money than ask for money, but I'm kinda desperate.
I'm currently living with my transphobic dad and step mother, still just barely in the closet at home (despite being generally out whenever I'm not home). My dad and his wife, getting their entire ideology spoonfed to them by Fox News, are not at all accepting of queer people in general and definitely not trans people and the fear and concern I have living here is overwhelming, not to mention the issues with transphobes out in the wild (followers might have seen my post from a few days ago).
On top of that, I've been unable to find work that wouldn't put me at risk of being outed to my dad and have been living off of the small amount of money he gives me each week that's barely able to get me through the week most of the time.
Since starting HRT back in April, I've been trying to prepare myself for inevitably having to come out to my dad and since August I've realized that I have to be ready to get out of here too when it almost certainly goes poorly. I've been quietly packing up my things for a month or so now so that, when the time comes, I can easily just put it all in my car and leave. I've got a few friends who are willing to give me a temporary place to stay and I'll be moving to another state as soon as possible after I'm out of this house, but that's gonna be an expensive road trip, not to mention the possibility of my car breaking down along the way or anything like that...
I hate that I have to ask, but if anyone is able to donate some money to make sure I can afford to get out and move somewhere safe and welcoming, it would be so very appreciated! Below is my cashapp which is the easiest for me to work with right now but maybe I'll remake this another time with other ways to donate. Anyway, any help would be so much appreciated, even if it's just enough to grab a snack on the road, that's still so valuable to me. With any luck, I'll be able to safely get out of here soon before things get worse.
Cashapp: $ninefoldrin
(Link to original post: https://www.tumblr.com/edit/ninefoldrin/762886530534686720)
Me, convincing myself to perform basic hygiene rituals:
Scary critters have clean teeth, brush up!! Pretty birds have shiny feathers, take a shower!! Nobody likes wet dog smell, put on deodorant!! Long claws hurt paws, clip your nails!! I want scales but not like that, wash your face!!
Long awaited Hera's mask tutorial (no cat base, low budget)
example of the masks I've made, here:
Author note: I have a 3 year experience, and I got used to making gear like this, so if you are trying masks for the first time, you might find some difficulties.
also, the whole thing Is REALLY "trust the process"... Anyway here we go!
You need: Cardboard, paper(optional), hot glue gun, felt/something to fur it/any material is okay if it works, foam (optional), basic tools like scizzors
1. Cardboard forming
You need a piece of cardboard that's kinda a little bigger shape than your face, and measure where the eyes should be, so you can see well.
you can make the mask symmetrical by bending it in half, but it's optional
the first picture down there shows the back of the mask, don't be scared to pull it in and out, I'd say, you need to form the mask shape with your fingers VERY GOOD.
it really depends on what species you wanna make, I'm making a snow leopard rn!
you can even cut it almost in half, and shape it to your liking
2. Texture
for this part, when you have your BaseOfTheBase ready, you need to make it more 3d, so it doesn't seem flat. small pieces are a key.
u can use various materials to recreate the real look, for example - foam that is easy to work with, and maybe more cardboard pieces layered on eachother. also you can use the pieces to glue the whole thing down together so it's sturdy.
I smooth it out with paper too, so the fleece/felt/fur sticks better to the mask and doesn't leave unnecessary bumps..
you use the bends like that to create a 3d effect, and expand the mask a little.
That's what I came up with! I added alot of paper pieces to smooth it down ^^
3. furring/felting, and the final touches
this part may be kinda tricky, so i reccomend you to watch various of felting tutorials on cat masks, cause this works basically the same!
I didint take any more photos rly, but here's the final product, and only felted one. (the nose is made out of hot glue)
I don't really want to elaborate on how to do the patterns, since you're the one who's customising the mask, but I like to use alcohol-based markers to make them! acrylic paint is also okay ^^
I think more cis butches who want top surgery should get it, not just because it pisses off TERFs and that's funny, but because it helps normalize a post double mastectomy body on women. ya know, the thing women with breast cancer dread to have? because as a society we treat breasts as a womanly body part, and when a woman gets a literal lifesaving procedure it's treated as a tragedy cuz they're 'mutilated' now? yeah, I don't know, I think normalizing top surgery in women is a Good Thing. treating post op results from a double mastectomy as "mutilation" is super fucked up all around and is yet another example of how TERF rhetoric hurts cis women too. TERFs are so fucking stupid that they consistently harm the "real" women they claim to care so much about. shocker.
do you realize how incredible you are? you have lived through so much, persevered and endured through lives no human could comprehend. you are a creature of power and tenacity. you are incredible. you are so, so incredible.
i honestly love otherkins so much ^-^, like you're hatsune miku? that's literally so cool >w<, oh you're a cat angel fox hybrid? that's so cool :0, you're a glittery pen? that's awesome *(^o^)/*
i genuinely love our community, express yourself, be who you are, be free, be cringe, have fun, life is short so enjoy it how you want (*＾＾*)//
Shout out to all my fellow hibernating therians! I know, it's hard getting up for school and/or work when you should be resting and not moving as much. We will make it through this winter together 🐾
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