helz// helchann

hi, my name is helen and this is my stream of consciousness.

[marinella-ela]

[sushigrade]

[canadian-kazoo-god]

[theconcealedweapon]

Some women are conditioned to be fragile and weak, and to believe that it's a sin to outperform a man. Her feminism would involve allowing women to be strong.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to oppression. Each individual person's experience is different. Whatever trauma is caused by their oppression, the activism should focus on undoing it.

[adriankyte-writes]

This hit me fucking hard! Especially when more than one of those vectors applies.

[theconcealedweapon]

Some women are conditioned to be fragile and weak, and to believe that it's a sin to outperform a man. Her feminism would involve allowing women to be strong.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.

There is no one-size-fits-all solution to oppression. Each individual person's experience is different. Whatever trauma is caused by their oppression, the activism should focus on undoing it.

[taohun]

did you guys see the poem from a couple of days ago in poetry dot org’s daily poem it was so good and a treat to read 

[taohun]

been thinking about it since i read it 

[laerugo]

“Having perfected our disguise, we spend our lives searching for someone we don’t fool.”

— Robert Brault

[mikeyjamesk]

[silverfrapp]

[wordsnquotes]

But remember, there are two ways to dehumanize someone: by dismissing them, and by idolizing them.

David Wong (via wordsnquotes)

[rarararambles]

Intimacy is the art of licking wounds. It’s taken me years to let anyone kiss me when my lips were chapped.

Sierra DeMulder (via rarararambles)

[wordsnquotes]

atelophobia

(noun) Atelophobia is defined as the fear of imperfection. Accompanied with the fear of imperfection also comes thoughts of comparison with others’ goals, accomplishments and expectations. Ultimately, it is the fear of “not being good enough.” Although sentiments of atelophobia are extremely natural, one should seek help, if these feelings plague their mind.

etymology: Greek, ατελής atelès, meaning “imperfect” or “incomplete” and φόβος, phóbos, “fear”.

(via wordsnquotes)

[solar-orphan]

Someone once told me a story about long term relationships. To think of them as a continent to explore. I could spend a lifetime backpacking through Africa, and I would still never know all there is to know about that continent. To stay the course, to stay intentional, to stay curious and connected – that’s the heart of it. But it’s so easy to lose track of the trail, to get tired, to want to give up, or to want a new adventure. It can be so easy to lose sight of the goodness and mystery within the person sitting right in front of you.

Joy Williams (via outcamethesun)

[thelovewhisperer]

Before you say yes, get him angry. See him scared, see him wanting, see him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks and if he does, get him drunk - you’ll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them. You can’t change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn’t just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he’s out of it now, you’re going to hate it much worse eight years down the road. You might love him to bits but it doesn’t change that some people just don’t fit.

inkskinned, “My father’s recipe for the man I should marry”  (via bl-ossomed)

[pastel-lipz]

I wonder who’s arms would I run and fall into if I were drunk in a room with everyone I have ever loved

I saw a comment underneath this once, reading “furthermore, i wonder who would still catch me” (via awkwarddly)

[alinemissamericana]

You either say how you feel and fuck it up or say nothing and let it fuck you up instead.

(via inner-sense)

[t-fey]

It takes years as a woman to unlearn what you have been taught to be sorry for.

Amy Poehler, in Yes Please  (via exoticwild)

[listenuppnow]

[blossomfully]

“Can you stay friends with an ex?” she asks. By this she means, can you forget the nights when your head was on his stomach and his hands were in your hair and you swore you would never let each other go? Or, maybe, more importantly, can you remember but still let go? “Maybe,” I tell her. By this, I mean, maybe - if you’re over him and he’s over you. By this, at least, I mean: can you remember and not want it back? Can you remember and not feel sad?

Sue Zhao (via blossomfully)

[blossomfully]

Finally, he said, “you know I love you right?“  And I said, “yes.” And he said, “and you know that I would never want to hurt you?” And I braced myself because no one ever says that unless they’re about to hurt you.

Sue Zhao (via blossomfully)