So David and I recently celebrated our seven years dating anniversary. We are both doing well and our relationship has never been stronger. However, seeing as how we have been together for so long, the big question is always around the corner-- “so...when are you getting married”?
Anyways, these are the five reasons I feel comfortable sharing with anyone who has been wondering:
I have no idea who I am as an adult. Actually, I don’t even know who I am period. I’ve been going through a phase where I finally have the courage to deal with my inner demons and really don’t need another stressor in my life.
The older I get, the more I realize how immature and irresponsible I am. David and I still have a lot of growing up to do. People seem to forget that we were kids when we first got together. I was eighteen and he was twenty. It’s a miracle we’ve lasted this long.
David and I have never lived alone together. Yes, we have been living together for years, but it is not the same as living alone together. I am not going to infinity and beyond with someone who isn’t going to take initiative on household chores. (sorrynotsorry)
Usually, after one gets married, you start receiving the other set of questions-- “so… when are you having kids”? Honestly, I’d rather deal with the former set of questions right now-- which leads me to my final reason.
My studies in child development have turned me against early motherhood (for myself). There is no right way to parent because we’re all vastly different. So, the more I know about myself, the better mother I can be in the future.
Disclaimer: This is not mean I look down on those who will be getting married or have already chosen to get married. We’re all on our own timeline and deserve to live happy fulfilling lives. These are my own personal reasons for waiting for a little.