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18 • infj • growin & glowin :) *pictures aren’t mine unless stated

[forthegrowthofself]

what would you do if a friend who has been with her boyfriend for almost a year seems to have forgotten her friends? I understand wanting to spend time with your boyfriend but at the same time wouldn't the guy want his girlfriend to have friends of her own to spend time with i mean no guys likes a clingy girl

one thing you could do is tell her how you feel. if you tell her “i feel like you are forgetting me as your friend” then as your friend, she should understand and ask you how she can fix it. however, people don’t always act the way we want them to or the way we think they should, so if you feel that distancing yourself from her is going to help her see or help you feel better, do that! if you’re comfortable, you could talk to her boyfriend. no matter what, you need to communicate with her and let her know how you feel. what she does afterwards let’s you know how much she values the friendship!

hope i helped :) sorry it took so long !!

[senseitive]

do what gives you peace

[veryfunnymemes]

[goodbyeeveryonee-deactivated202]

best advice you’d give a girl?

-Hone in on what you love doing right now and don’t stop doing it. Anything like painting, theater, reading, etc. will become grounding activities as you grow older, and you’ll find it imperative to stick to your roots.

-The best thing you can do is live for you. Not for anyone else. Let people guide you but don’t ever let them overrule you. You make yourself, so ensure that the you you’re creating is authentic.

-Don’t wait until you do so and so to feel ready for something else. Keep active plans to get to your goals.

-Don’t talk to anybody romantically until you know who you are first. People won’t be able to connect with you on that level if you can’t first connect with yourself. Also, don’t bother “holding” anyone down but yourself. People are fickle, you exist until you don’t.

-When we transition from girlhood to womanhood, most of the time we still hide behind “older” people because we see them as more knowledgeable. You have to let that idea go. Adults are just as stupid as kids, except they can legally drink. Don’t be afraid to put your voice out there, even if it opposes seniority.

-Learn how to create and cultivate friends that genuinely care for you. Those people that barely text you or forget about you when events come up are not your friends. Don’t take bullshit from them because you don’t want to be lonely.

-Learn moderation. Partying, drugs, sex, etc. all become more prevalent as you grow older and there’s nobody to tell you to stop but yourself. Don’t become an alcoholic because you didn’t wanna seem like a drag to some drunkhappy friends.

-Don’t wait until later to start building a financial foundation for yourself. Get a good savings account now, adopt a budgeting method, look into investing. Go to seminars and conferences about money even if you’re the youngest person in the room. You will be lightyears ahead of your peers.

-Find value in slightly older friends. They’ll show you what you shouldn’t do and help prepare you for your future. It’s how I know the majority of the things I do.

-Avoid quick gratification. It’ll satiate you for a while but you will still be hungry for something better afterwards.

-Being alone is important. I highly recommend living alone before you get roommates (if that’s financially affordable) because you learn not to base your identity off of other people’s belongings. Our homes become an extension of us. You need to learn how to be independent and how to cultivate your space free of others’ opinion. You need to cook naked in the morning and dance in your living room at night. It is a feeling of freedom that is irreplaceable, and it’ll be one you always remember if someone tries to make you dependent on them. Outside of your living space, go to museums and festivals and operas alone. Have fun. Make new friends. Realize that you shine just fine all on your own. You are not meant to be hidden behind other personalities in your friend group all the time.

-Everything you do, learn how to do it well. And then learn how to turn that well into damn near perfect. Always strive for the best when your work is representing you.

-Deletion ain’t nothing but an action boo. Somebody unimportant is annoying you? Delete! Instagram feed making you too mad? Delete! Friend refuses to do right by you? Delete! Of course you need to develop communication tactics but some people don’t deserve that time and don’t you waste it on them either. Anything you don’t want in your life, you can get rid of. Remember that. You don’t have to stay suffering.

[1moneychaserworld-deactivated20]

people expect you to stay around forever while they always put you last

[juansendizon]

“‘I forgive myself.’ The softest, greatest and most poetic way of saying ‘I love you’ to yourself.”

— juansen dizon

[forthegrowthofself]

How are you so good at giving advice?

i don’t think i am so great at it 😭 but i try my best to put myself in the other’s shoes !!

[coffeewithmeaning]

we have to ask ourselves

when is it too much

when do our minds

become too cloudy

our hearts too full

of hurt

hatred

confusion

and greed

when do things become 

so much 

that we lay down our pride

and change

[forthegrowthofself]

Best blog !!!👌👌

AW THANK YOU WOW I LOVE YOU

[cyborgsmanifesto]

dealing with the worst case scenario

your condom breaks

you feel a lump on your breast

your friends are ignoring you

you’re stranded on an island 

you got rejected by a crush

you get into a car accident

you got stung by a bee/wasp

you got fired from your job

you’re in an earthquake

your tattoo gets infected

your house is on fire

you’re lost in the woods

you get arrested abroad

you get robbed

your partner cheated on you

you’re on a ship that’s sinking

you fall into ice

you’re stuck in an elevator

you hit a deer with your car

you have food poisoning

your pet passed away

you fall off of a horse

you or your friend has alcohol poisoning

you have toxic shock syndrome

your house has a gas leak

[forthegrowthofself]

YALL! I finally created my blog and utilized my Twitter !!!

my instagram is ravemcneal

my twitter handle is @ravenlouise42

http://ravenmcnealwrites.com

give me feedback pls !! 💘

Raven McNeal – evolution of the self

[forthegrowthofself]

not trying to be cheesy but it’s literally so heartwarming when your significant other adores you so much and feels so strongly that they show you off whenever and wherever they can :)

[studytoria]

Last semester I set myself up for some ridiculously high expectations. Because of this, I burnt out real quick both physically and mentally. I remember being nervous yet exited about starting the fall semester because I wanted to challenge myself and be the girl who could do it all. I wanted to amaze everyone and myself by being able to juggle work, volunteering/getting involved, cooking more, working out consistently and starting up a blog all while balancing demanding classes such as organic chemistry (and lab), nutrition physiology, microbiology (and lab) and accounting. This meant I planned EVERY single part of each day out from dawn till dusk. I would wake up at 5:30 am every morning, workout and live to a planned hour by hour until I would go to bed around 10.  I scheduled how many hours I would study each day, when I would work, volunteer, workout, how long it took to commute to a from class and even when I was supposed to eat. 

This all lasted about ONE week before I had completely burnt myself out. I didn’t only burn myself out because this was a lot to handle for one person but also because I was emotionally burnt out. I found myself not sticking to my strict schedule more and more each day and this upset me so much because I was trying so hard to do everything I could to accomplish my goals but it turned out my strict schedule was doing more harm than good. It wasn’t allowing me any flexibility and little freedom, which in turn made me even more unhappy and resulted in me cutting corners in my daily plans. When it all became too much for me to handle, I completely gave up the “perfect plan” I thought I had.

 I went through the rest of the semester with no real direction or routine. I didn’t end up doing any of the things I wanted to do such as volunteering, cooking more or working out. I felt like a failure because I couldn’t handle it all so I didn’t bother trying to try different ways to make everything I wanted to do work out. 

moral of the story- you can’t be great at EVERYTHING but you can be amazing at a select few things you are passionate and motivated about! As busy students and people in general, it’s easy to feel like you have to accomplish so many things to be successful but in reality, there has to be time for leisure and relaxation. It’s also important to know how much is “too much” for you to handle when it comes to taking on tasks. Everyone is different, so don’t feel like you have to take on as much as someone else or drown yourself in work just because you feel like you have to. Do what you feel comfortable with and what your primary responsibilities can allow!

I now have a better idea of what I can and can’t handle and am so excited to start off this brand new year + semester and better manage my time without killing myself over taking on any activity that I can. I am also taking less classes this semester (thank goodness!) so classes and studying won’t eat up AS much of my time as it did last semester (aka the semester from HELL.)  I plan to have a do-able schedule that allows for class/studying, working out a couple times a week, volunteering in research, working for Favor (a food delivery service that allows me to make my own schedule for those of you that don’t know.) and of course, time spent with friends and family!  

If you’ve made it this far, thank you for taking the time to read! <3  <3 

I hope you all are having a great start to the new year. Plan your goals, achieve them, but also love yourself and make time for yourself. Your body and mind will thank you. 

With love, 

Studytoria 

[haniistudies]

I find this relatable! This year is a new year~ To self-care and self-love!

[byebyethinspo]

glamorize going to bed early, like, 8pm early

instead of making high stress levels a competition, brag about feeling whole and at peace.

make is cool as hell to take 2pm naps and go on mindful walks by yourself.

talk about mental health and normalize visits to counselors or support systems

teach kids that being different is beautiful and that it’s healthy to love what makes us who we are.

make #selflove and #selfcare the most common hashtags

[honeyfaun]

How to Feign Your Life is Together

Have a signature accessory, clothing article, make up look, or hair style.

Have a fragrance. Make your hair scents and lotions match your perfume.

It’s okay to dine alone. Bring a book or people watch.

Love your hair. Research the best brands for your hair type and use masks weekly.

Your nails don’t need to be fancy, but keep them maintained.

Stay worldly. Know works of art, artists, designers, films, books, politicians. Spend your lunch break reading the paper or a magazine.

Crying is not a weapon. It’s okay to feel your emotions, but never use them as an excuse to avoid your problems.

Jealousy is boring. Love and appreciate others. If you can’t love them, forget them.

Boost others. Flatter others, but don’t deprecate yourself in the process.

Don’t sulk. Don’t let the whole world know your problems. If you don’t want someone to give their opinion, don’t share your situation.

Your life is between you and the universe. Don’t post your personal matters for others to see.

Don’t emotionally blackmail others. They hurt you? Let them know and then move on. It’s between the two of you and not the world.

Cook dinner. Cook dinner and listen to music, the radio, or a podcast.

Treat yourself to candles and flowers. Be your own cheerleader.

Take naps. Take a cat nap on a Sunday afternoon with the blinds open and the fan on high.

Drink your water, eat your vegetables. Take care of your body.

Never have time to take off your jewelry before bed, but always have time to take off your makeup. Your nighttime skin regime is important.

Mystery is beautiful. You don’t need to reveal much of or about yourself.

Never appear other than as you are. Don’t lie about yourself. Embrace who you are at your core.

[forthegrowthofself]

hey you lovely people !! instead of revolving helpful things, i have been creating my own for you guys! i am in the process of setting up a website for teens and young adults who just wanna make the most of life, like i do. but i want to connect with all of you and just get to know you!

my messages are always open! my instagram is ravemcneal

i’m trying to figure out twitter but i believe i’m @ravenlouise42 but nonetheless, reach out and tell me how you are, what you’d like to see me help with, or just say hi!!

- rave 🍂☕️

[blackmessydesk]

Habits of successful students

Discipline: “discipline is doing what needs to be done, even when you don’t want to”, which means that you have to force yourself to start doing things. 

Concentration: when you make a real effort in your work (study, homeworks etc…) you will be more likely to actually focus, understand and learn. 

Organization: always set tasks and goals and organize a study-schedule. Maybe you don’t really want to plan all the week, but if you just wake up and open your agenda/bullet journal/iphone calendar and write down all the things you have to do, setting due dates and deadlines, you’ll feel more conscious and encouraged to stay on track. 

Tasks-splitting: sometimes, you write down your tasks. Some of these tasks may be very hard and complicated, and it will take a long long time to complete them. So, you can split them in smaller tasks, so you will feel satisfied after a shorter period of time, instead of studying for hours and still seeing that chapter undone on your study-schedule. 

Watch the sunrise: when I wake up late, I feel like I don’t have enought time to do my work and lose my motivation. I literally panic and then I think “whatever, I could not complete all the things anyway”. So, if you wake up earlier you will feel more positive and  controlled. 

Smart reading: try not to read your textbook just like a newspaper. For every paragraph you read, try to underline and write down key words and then your question about that subject. Literally, turn your textbook into questions. If you write down question - particularly why…? - and think about the answer, you will be more likely to remember that stuff later. 

Healthy lifestile: if you don’t drink enough water in the morning, you will be more likely to have a decrease of concentration in the afternoon/evening, so: stay hydrated. Try also to have some snaks every one-two hours: feed your brain.