Frail Young Lady

[im-not-the-spy]

It's funny how activism and allyship go out the window at the first sign of personal inconvenience, huh? The trailer for JK Rowling's newest cinematic bowel movement dropped yesterday and a baffling number of people with pronouns in their bios are losing their freaking minds with excitement over it.

If you confront them about it, they'll be the first to tell you that they absolutely do not support Rowling's Problematic Views, but they just have to see their favorite middle aged men waving sticks around for two hours. It's not their fault, really.

Well what if I told you that by still appearing in these movies, your favorite middle aged men are being part of the problem and you shouldn't support them either? That includes Eddie Redmayne, Jude Law and especially Mads Mikkelsen, because he signed up to this franchise after Rowling started sharing her transphobic views. Maybe you should consider why that is.

And before you start with any "But the contract...!" nonsense:

Katherine plays Tina, one of the main characters in the Fantastic Beasts franchise. After she took a firm stance against Rowling's bigotry last year, she's rumoured to have been more or less written out of the franchise, she isn't in any of the promo material and leaks indicate that she only has a few scenes in the new movie. Your faves have no excuse, they're more famous and wealthy than Katherine, their careers wouldn't be in danger for doing this, they simply don't want to.

At the end of the day, pirate the movie if you're curious to see it, but don't go to the cinema, don't post about it and stop pretending like if you ignore the problem, it'll go away. Trans people feeling safe and welcome in online spaces is more important than your nostalgia or daddy issues. JK Rowling writes these new movies, she produces them, she's got full control and she gets all the profit. Grow a fucking spine for once and stop supporting a bigot.

[frailyounglady]

JK Rowling also isn’t just a person who happens to be a bigot. She’s a powerful and influential transphobe who actively uses her platform to harm trans folk and whose violence has so far been overwhelmingly successful at causing harm to our community.

JK Rowling has blood on her hands and it’s her fans who keep giving her the knife.

[lesbiancapybara]

Actually butch lesbians can be gentle and kind and comforting to be around and presenting as more masculine/androgynous doesn’t make us inherently rough or angry and depicting all butches as such is lesbophobia. This goes especially for trans butches and butches of color btw

[kelpforestdwellers]

i love adaptive tech, and medical gadgets. i am always enchanted by MRI machines and ultrasounds and CTs, and at home devices are the best.

the ones that make you into an actual cyborg, like continuous glucose monitoring or a port or whatever, are obviously the coolest. but i also love more auxiliary stuff, like my 'fitness tracker' that gives me information about my sleep, activity level, and heart rate that help me track trends over time and monitor in real time.

i just got a pulse oximeter that's in the shape of a ring so you can easily wear it for hours or overnight. it'll help me see how well my CPAP works. i used it for the first time last night and my O2 sat hit 81%.

don't be afraid to get a medical device if you think it will be helpful to you. you don't have to wait for permission or someone else to suggest it, and you're not taking anything from someone who 'needs it more' (unless it's something where there's genuinely a shortage and it won't harm you to not have it).

[frailyounglady]

As a real-life cyborg my body contains DRM designed to prevent me from repairing myself using refurbished parts. Just so you know this is how the robot wars begin.

[lesbeet]

much in the same way as "history is written by the victors", what is "secular" is determined by the dominant religion

[schmergo]

Man, I know everyone hates Grandpa Joe from the Willy Wonka movie because “this guy lies around in bed all day but he should have been supporting his poor family if he’s well enough to dance around and tour a chocolate factory,” but I really think the biggest problem is that the movie cast an actor who looked too youthful. In the book, he was “96 and a half” years old. No 96 year old guy should be working to support his family, so it wasn’t disability fraud or anything. That’s a ‘he could die any day, he might as well go to this chocolate factory" kinda scenario. 

Like, it’s a children’s comic fantasy book. If you think the fact that Grandpa Joe couldn’t be practically on his death bed but reinvigorated by good news and start dancing around the house is less realistic than children turning into blueberries or Oompa Loompas somehow singing in perfect unison about current events without rehearsing it, I don’t know what to tell you.

[missmentelle]

What to do if you are facing eviction

Eviction protections are expiring across the United States and Canada right now, and millions of people are suddenly finding themselves facing eviction with a pandemic still raging and the start of winter just around the corner. 

Not knowing where you’re going to live next month is an unbelievably scary position to be in, and there are a lot of people out there who are facing this for the first time in their lives. It’s okay to be scared. But it’s also important to start taking steps to deal with this as soon as you realize that might be at risk of eviction. 

As someone who has worked in homelessness and housing advocacy my whole career, here’s what I recommend you do:

Do not leave your home. Many landlords count on their tenants not knowing or understanding their rights, and take advantage of that to try to illegally evict them without following proper procedure. I have seen landlords attempt some flagrantly illegal things during my time working with vulnerable people. Many landlords have been ignoring and violating eviction moratoriums during this pandemic. Don’t fall for it. There is a legal process that has to be followed to evict you, even if your name isn’t on the lease - your landlord cannot simply slip a note under your door ordering you out by the end of the week, no matter what they tell you. Do not leave your home until a judge orders you to do so. You may have a better shot in court than you think you do, and seeing the court process to the very end buys you valuable time to figure out your next move. 

Get a lawyer. Many legal aid societies and law school legal clinics offer free legal assistance for people facing eviction. Having a lawyer can make an enormous difference - one study found that people without lawyers were evicted 65% of the time, compared to just 15% of people who had legal representation. Start calling and contacting legal aid services as soon as your landlord threatens or files eviction - these services often only do intake for new clients on certain days, so it’s a good idea to research these services ahead of time. 

Understand your rights. The protections you have under the law depend on where you live - it’s critical that you take the time to educate yourself about what those protections are. Your area will likely have a Residential Tenancies Act, a Tenant Act, or something along those lines. Look online for information specific to your area. There may also be special protections and procedures in place because of the pandemic. If you live in NYC, for instance, you have a right to free legal counsel if you are facing eviction. Find out what protections you have in your area.

Contact resources in your area. Again, depending on where you live, there are different resources available. There may be a tenant support agency that can connect you to free legal resources directly. You might be eligible for unemployment benefits or emergency income. Your state or city might also have emergency funding or eviction prevention programs in place. NYC, for instance, offers “one shot deal” emergency grants that cover rental arrears for people who are facing eviction due to unexpected crises. You should also look at emergency housing options, community food banks, or other resources that can help you survive this situation. In many cities you can call 211 or 311 to learn more or about resources, or you can go online. 

Attend your eviction hearing. Once you are given a date and time for your eviction hearing, it is critical that you attend. Even if you have not paid rent in several months and you think your case is hopeless, you absolutely must show up for this hearing. If you don’t attend, you will lose by default - if you attend, you may be successful in winning leniency, the opportunity to pay back rent with a payment plan and avoid eviction, or even just a few weeks’ extension on the eviction date so you have more time to come up with a plan. Attend your hearing. 

Have a back-up plan. Even with legal aid resources on your side, you have to prepare for the possibility that you might not be able to fight your eviction. Buy yourself as much time as you can, and use that time to start researching possible options. Is there a cheaper room for rent that you can afford with your unemployment benefits? Do you know anyone you can stay with? Are there any housing non-profits in your area that can help? Do you have any leads on employment in the future? Explore your options, and remember that it’s okay to ask for help right now - people in your life can’t help you unless you tell them that you’re struggling. 

Call your representatives. You are not the only person suffering as a result of expiring COVID protections - your elected officials need to know that letting these programs expire is having serious, dire consequences for real people that they represent. Call everyone. Call the office of your congressman, call your MP, call your state senator, your MLA, your local city counsellors. Tell your story, and make as much noise as you can. It doesn’t guarantee that anything will be done, of course, but it makes the problem harder for your elected officials to ignore.

Important Resources for Americans: LawHelp.org - website for learning more about local laws and finding free legal aid in your area  JustShelter - a database of community resources available to people facing eviction (might not include all emergency pandemic programs) Eviction Moratorium Database - a database showing where evictions have been legally paused or restricted because of the pandemic National Evictions Database - a database where you can look up what the legal eviction process is supposed to look like in your state  Tenant’s Union Resources - a website where you can find information for the tenant’s union or pro-tenant organizations in your area  Legal Services - a federal non-profit that helps connect low-income households to legal resources for fighting eviction 

Fannie Mae Renters Resource Finder - a database that will tell you if your rental unit is federally financed, and show you resources to fight eviction accordingly  Freddie Mac Renters Resource Finder - another website to show you if your rental property is federally backed and connect you to resources

Eviction Lab - a website that outlines information about pandemic eviction moratoriums and restrictions currently in place in your state The National Housing Law Project - a comprehensive database of resources for people facing eviction or foreclosure  Important Resources for Canadians: The Canada Mortgage and Housing Corporation - up-to-date information about eviction moratoriums in each province and territory  Affordable Housing Programs Across Canada - information on affordable housing programs in each province and territory Western Law Eviction Information - a website outlining the eviction process in Ontario and what you need to do to fight it Community Legal Education Ontario - a website that shows the proper procedure for eviction in detail and outlines steps that can be taken to fight it  Nova Scotia Legal Residential Tenancy Law Resources - detailed information about the eviction process in Nova Scotia and how to fight it Centre for Public Legal Education Alberta - resources and information for renters facing eviction in Alberta  BC Housing - information and resources for tenants facing difficulties in British Columbia  Saskatchewan Office of Residential Tenancies - information for tenants facing difficulties in Saskatchewan  Tribunal Administratif du Logement - resources and information for tenants living in Quebec. Available in both English and French. 

[frailyounglady]

My orthostatic hypotension is delayed just enough to hit me right as I answer the door to let my wife back into our hotel room. I open the door and just kinda collapse into eir arms. Every single time.

Romantic.

[nonasuch]

wishing a very bearable seasonal affective disorder to all who observe

[dullahandyke]

I am no longer asking, I am DEMANDING that if you are able-bodied and have the spoons for it, you NEED to be adding image descriptions to your posts. It is ableist to make your content entirely inaccessible to someone unless someone else comes and cleans up your mess by doing an image description.

And put the image description in the ORIGINAL POST. Tumblr recently expanded their alt text limit, use that if you must. By adding the ID in a reblog, you are letting people choose: do I want to reblog the ugly and long version of this post with the image description, or do I just want the funny comic? And they will choose the inaccessible version, and we are back where we started, and the only reason us IDers put IDs in reblogs is because we do not have the power to put it in the original post.

Do not put the IDs in reblogs if you can help it, do not put them under a cut, do not put them in the tags or replies or whatever other bullshit you've come up with to make disabled people jump through hoops to see your content in the name of a post being prettier. Accessibility over aesthetics, folks, don't purposefully exclude disabled people from your spaces for the sake of a post being less fucking ugly. Don't hide your image descriptions behind anything; if you are hesitant to do that because your IDs are long, DM me and I will help you pare them down, I promise I do not bite.

Everyone cares about disabled people until they have to change the way they are living in any tangible way. Show that you care, welcome disabled people into your space, and don't be a damn hypocrite.

[cheeso]

just a reminder to my new followers that if were ever able to cross the explanatory gap and share our color perception qualia with each other, proving finally that we all do see colors differently, my red is real as shit and youve been seeing crap fake red. so come to terms with your shit fake red while it lasts

[frailyounglady]

Do y’all remember when emoticons had noses? I remember when emoticons had noses. When did we collectively decide that noses were bad?!

:-/

[scarlettjane22]

[frailyounglady]

Not gonna lie this looks like an AI that makes pictures of dogs suddenly got a few terabytes of horse training data.

[frailyounglady]

People really need to be more mindful of the massive power imbalance that exists between people disabilities that impair memory and abled people. Like if we get into an argument over how something happened it feels like y’all are just able to write over my reality and my lived experience.

[somespicyshrimp]

love how it’s become completely normal and acceptable to say explicitly sexual shit to random strangers on the internet, especially if they’re women. girl on tiktok has more than a b cup? top comments on anything she posts are automatically “mommy sorry mommy sorry”. woman on the internet is pretty and also feminine? “submissive and breedable” like that’s not the exact kind of gross, infantilizing shit women hear irl every single day. i constantly see comments on teenagers’ posts saying “hey don’t sexualize her she’s a minor” like it’s not weird or misogynistic to talk about a stranger’s “mommy milkers” online so long as she’s 18 or older. fuck. maybe i’m a prude but i just don’t think you should get to make gross objectifying comments at random strangers just because you think the veneer of a mom fetish makes it #coolquirkyandprogressive instead of just creepy

[somespicyshrimp]

and this is one of those cases where i absolutely agree with the “well it happens to men too” addition. bc it’s not subversive or feminist to spam random men with “looking submissive and breedable” or pegging jokes or whatever brand of sexual harassment is cool now. it’s just gross.

[frailyounglady]

Hey this is a really big problem in online lesbian spaces, especially directed at butch women. It’s not okay to leave comments about how you want a stranger to “beat me up” or “crush me between her thighs.”

That’s sexual harassment. It’s not cool when you’re on the receiving end and it doesn’t exactly make me feel safe when I see y’all directing it at other people, either.

[magicalgirlpropaganda]

Hate it when cis people ask unnecessary and invasive questions like "are your experiments ethical?" And "where is that screamimg coming from?"

[frailyounglady]

Memes are nothing more than those caption contests they used to run in newspapers back in the day for old people except it’s for young people now.